cuckoldinpanties said:Julie, yes, much like women overlook the "bad boys" traits.
JulieIsMe said:Welllllll.............SOME women overlook them, and then only to a point. After that, the "Bad boy" get's old. And from what I know, girls get involved with Bad boys out of some fantasy view they have, but when their lives are made miserable by the baddies, the girls kick them to the curb in short order.
And that's a bit different from guys who somehow find it erotic that certain women consider them as walking garbage and who treat them abusively. Or worse, guys who KNOW ( are certain ) that specific-looking women would never fuck them, etc. and STILL find the idea erotic.
JulieIsMe said:The forums appear to be frequented almost exclusively by men!! If women got so much out of this lifestyle and were so enthused and satisfied by it, then why the silence on their part??[/I]
JulieIsMe said:I would find this far more likely IF there were far more wives and girl friends posting on forums like this. But what do you know? The forums appear to be frequented almost exclusively by men!! If women got so much out of this lifestyle and were so enthused and satisfied by it, then why the silence on their part??[/I]
I would disagree very strongly with you here. I have no desire to see my wife vanquished or overpowered but would say that she enjoys the sensation of a man taking her over and her being used by him and gets extremely turned on by being called a slut etc at those times. My motive in accepting the role she dealt me as a cuckold was to acquiesce because I knew she got sexual pleasure well beyond any I could give her.JulieIsMe said:As a cuckold of 40 years I've never fantasised about other women, for me the eroticism of cuckoldry was in knowing my wife was having better sex with other men than she could ever have with me.
Is the eroticism about her being serviced by another male who can easily outdo you sexually? Or that somehow she is being overwhelmed by him and, deep down, you're really turned-on by the idea that she's being somehow put in her place and "made to like it"?
I ask this because I have the sneaking suspicion that a lot of Cuckholds have a desire that even they themselves don't consciously know is there - a desire to see their wives somehow humiliated, vanquished, over powered, overwhelmed, and "used up". In other words, physically dominated. I wonder if this realization may be the hidden and driving motivator behind the most intense of all the Cuckhold's erotic stimulation connected to this lifestyle?
JulieIsMe said:Because it's unconditional you can get taken advantage of, but in giving without requiring recompense, you risk it as part of loving.
I'm not sure if this statement makes sense. There are always "conditions" attached to everything people do within relationships. The hotwife lives according to a lot of conditions, it seems to me. If she was totally in control of the situation, she could easily have affairs with other men while her "giving" husband was kept totally ignorant. But in cuckhold/hotwife relationships ( generally speaking ) the husband IS "in the loop". He enjoys her activities in a different way than she does, but probably just as intensely. He WANTS her to live like this. He loves being humiliated by her input about the play partners and their endowment, stamina, etc. and by her domineering attitude about it all. Without these conditons, the cuckhold would not find her actions captivating at all. If she kept things on the sly, the hotwife could actually go through decades of her marriage cuckholding her husband without him having the slightest clue about it. The fact that the husband usually prods and pushes her into sexual encounters with other men until she finally complies serves to show that the lifestyle is as much or more about HIS desires and satisfaction than her's! So, I really doubt that the most motivating factor behind the average cuckhold's supposed "acceptance" of his wife's sexual behavior has much at all to do with his "love" for her. I think its all about his fantasies connected to an objectified image he has of her.
Well my penis is so small at times it might not be considered one and I haven’t been producing sperm for many years as a result of my vasectomy, and haven’t had an erection for 18 months so incapable of having sex with a woman, by your definitions I am most certainly not a man! However what I was alluding to was the fact that I know I have very high concentrations of oestrogen in my system and if you read a lot of guidance on relationships you will see that often a wife will give until she feels she has no more to give or that if she does it will make no difference. I just see that true cuckolds often just keep giving to their wives much the same way women give in marriages while they hold the marriage worth saving!JulieIsMe said:A cuckold gives until it hurts and keeps giving, just as women often give, so are cuckolds really men with the loving capabilities of females?
In my opinion, if you have a penis and can produce sperm that will fertilize a woman's eggs, you ARE a "man". You can be softer or more gentle or more attuned to feelings than a lot of other men are who relentlessly try to conform to some macho, non-threatening stereotype. Women find this very amusing, by the way. We can see right away when men posture and "fit" into some absurd, one-dimensional, cartoon-like "guy thing" image stereotype. And no, we don't consider them more "manly" when they do so. Actually, its very pathetic.
cuckoldinpanties said:Odd, my wife is here OFTEN. Again I ask, if you have no interest in this lifestyle, no desire to be in it,,, why are you here DAILY? You say to understand it better, but why do you want to understand a lifestyle by a bunch of people you consider frauds?
Just makes ZERO sense
hotwifeapril said:I do post on this site very often. The only difference is I am not here criticizing the other people on their lifestyle choices as you have done since day one.
Exactly why you are here....You are not in the lifestyle at all (as you said several time). I have sat back this whole time and let you rant and rave. Now you are just getting old, move along, this is not the lifestyle for you so why keep coming here. Did your wife cheat on you? Yes I did say your wife as I find it hard to believe you are really a woman. If you really trying to understand this lifestyle you would have asked your parents as they were open enough to tell you about their lifestyle if this really was the case.
JulieIsMe said:...
your post indicates that I've really struck a nerve with you. Too bad, so sad. If you don't like my questions and comments, don't read them. How's that for logic?
JulieIsMe said:Your post indicates that I've really struck a nerve with you. Too bad, so sad. If you don't like my questions and comments, don't read them. How's that for logic?