Comments for "Cuckadoodledo"
Cuckadoodledo,
cuckadoodledo said:
I am a submissive sissy cuck.
Very good.... you've made great progress in your marriage; meaning mostly, your view of yourself in relation to your wife.
cuckadoodledo said:
....The problem is, my wife knows nothing about cuckolding.
Hm.... I agree, that is a problem.
cuckadoodledo said:
She busted me several yrs ago....caught me wearing panties....and knew I was being submissive to other women.
But, was your wife's conclusion correct? Were you, in reality, being submissive to other women (not her) on a daily basis, or was wearing panties a secret expression of your underlying personality and unfilled desires with respect to your wife?
cuckadoodledo said:
We have fooled around with D/s and have both switched.
Excellent! It's very promising that your wife does not reject the concept of D/s out of hand, but rather is willing to "play" with it.
cuckadoodledo said:
She has enjoyed being submissive to me.... I think we're both submissive?
Could be. It's quite common in "real life," as daily reality is called, for people to be submissive with respect to some but dominant w/r/t others. Middle managers in corporations and other organizations are good examples. They have to be dominant with respect to those working for them (but in ways that amount to leading and getting results effectively, not in obnoxious ways), while being submissive to those farther up the food chain (i.e., their bosses).
cuckadoodledo said:
Most recently, I have been submissive to my wife. She has spanked me, used dildos on me, and has one lover that we always see together.
Great! That's *very* promising. I would suggest gradually your wife toward being dominant more and more of the time while you are submissive more and more of the time. You might consider accomplishing this by rewarding your wife when she is dominant. For example: get her to agree to being dominant for (say) one month. Then, do progressively more of the house work each week, and — as part of your wife's dominant role — get her to agree to give you a spanking each Saturday (or Sunday) morning, with severity proportional to the quality of your housework. To make this more specific, you might also consider getting your wife to agree to grade your housework and other service to her at the end of each day (using a small calendar-notebook she can carry in her purse), then give you an "average grade" at the end of each week.
Then, at the end of the month, "switch" such that you are dominant (in the style of a traditional husband) and your wife is submissive — meaning, she has to do all the housework, but for a period of two weeks only (not one month), in additional to complying with other aspects of you being "head of the household." It won't be long — perhaps it will take only one cycle of this "game," over 1.5 months — before your wife sees the advantages to her of being head of the household (*her* household) in a wife-led marriage. After one cycle — or 1.5 cycles, with her dominant, then you dominant, then her dominant again — she will likely become very reluctant and perhaps will refuse, I would guess, to go back to being a submissive wife in a traditional "husband led" marriage.
cuckadoodledo said:
I have recently suggested to her the possibility of seeing [her lover] by herself.... for an all-nighter.
If your wife is reluctant, I would say don't push this because it would definitely increase the risk of losing her. If she accepts fucking her lover in your presence (or with you nearby, say, sitting outside her boudoir with the door closed while she fucks him), that's definitely dominant behavior on her part (toward you) and submissive behavior on your part (toward her). It's a very big step for your wife to have taken.
cuckadoodledo said:
I have slowly been introducing different aspects of cuckolding, submissiveness, and female domination.
Good! You seem to understand your wife's psychology, and the need to move her slowly and gently (not "too far, too fast") in this direction. But, if your wife has a lover, you are, in fact, a cuckold already, not a "cuckold-in-waiting."
cuckadoodledo said:
How do I introduce my wife to the next natural step.... [me becoming] a cuckold-in-waiting?
This is confusing, since it sounds like your wife has already made you her cuckold. So, when you say your wife has a lover, do you mean she has a "platonic boyfriend" but she isn't actually fucking him?
Anyway — I see you have been a member of this forum since 2007, but you have posted only once (your post above, presumably). Since you don't have a track record of posts that might be embarrassing if your wife found out about them, I suggest mentioning to her there are many women who take lovers and have taken the lead in wife-led "hotwife / cuckold husband" marriages. Then, introduce her to this forum and encourage her to begin reading it regularly to get a feel for how hotwives manage their cuckolds and their marriages, and to realize there are many married men who respond favorably to wife-led marriages of this nature.
You might also consider introducing your wife to the "dominate wife / submissive husband" literature, which includes dominant married women cuckolding their husbands, if she isn't familiar with it already. I.e., google "elise sutton" and encourage her to read Ms. Sutton's extensive web site. If she seems slightly taken aback and appears to consider Ms. Sutton "over the top," you might point out to her she has already taken a *very* big step in that direction by taking a lover (or openly having a platonic boyfriend, as the case may be). Also, I suggest encouraging your wife to subscribe to Ms. Sutton's e-zine "Predominant," which is quite good. The cost is very reasonable. (For a subscription, your wife will have to e-mail Ms. Sutton.... or she can "order you" to do it on her behalf.)
You might also consider introducing your wife to the website "Scandalous Women" (you can google it), which is oriented toward married women dating and taking lovers.
Best regards to both of you—
Custer
*Nice screen name, BTW.
