EGO Bashing Cuckolds

[masterlover]

How many people in this forum feel as though they are in constant battle against their personal ego?

Is it this constant battle against the EGO, the survival mechanism, built in, which compels us to seek these activities?

We are all spirits, having a physical hallucination, so the ego should have no place in the spirit world, but to preserve our "life". Preserving our lives includes keeping our girlfriends and wives close to us. Correct or no?

So, if we are truly spirits and sharing love and companionship, then there is no absolutes, like monogamous love. Which is certainly an absolute.

I remember once John Lennon saying that suppressing his ego was a full time job or something to that effect. Is it only the ego that prevents us from sharing the ones we love, with others, equally or even more compatible?

Survival means planting our seeds, and keeping our loved ones close and vulnerable to us, and us only. The individual. Many people who work hard to suppress their egos, also feel like sharing what they love most, but it leaves us vulnerable, too. Isn't that vulnerability just the ego screaming out, "please don't leave me alone and vulnerable"?

What if the only thing stopping us from being more open and sharing, caring, and loving, was our egos?

Would that make it more easy for some to come to a peace of mind, with sharing the ones they love the most?

How many out there, in this audience, feel as though we are souls and what we are here for, really, is "experience" and nothing more?

Just wondering. Please share your thoughts.

 

[masterlover]

One thing I find interesting, is how it seems the Cuckoldress goes for that Ego built up MAN. She tends to go for the male who seems to be full of himself so much he is pushy and unconscious of his sexual desires and self. The macho goofball is usually selected for the Bull, when actually, that sense of self confidence is pretty much, all EGO.

While the cuckold seeks to rid himself of EGO, the cuckoldress gravitates towards stronger EGO.

Why?

Because he plays the role very well. Correct? Why does he play the role so well? Because he believes the lies about himself and his importance because of his EGO.

The cuckold seems to be the one on top, spiritually, in many regards, because he is dealing with issues that are actually challenging and rewarding, by suppressing his EGO, while the Bull is just satisfying his, and that will always leave him in the dust, eventually, in the long run.....

Please share your thoughts on this subject.

Am I wrong or on spot or somewhere in the middle?

 

[Saraha]

Mr Nice Guy is too easy to manipulate, and therefore boring and vanilla. Women want what they can't have.

The harder it is to get a date with a guy, they more she values him. Mr Bad Guy is fun, mysterious, and allows a girl to do naughty things her mum would not approve of. Girls don't want to live their life to "mother's rules", so a bad guy can be a hero to her.

A girl wants to date a guy that her friends wish they could go out with.

 

[sptbj2]

I think you're on the right track masterlover. I'm a born submissive. I love to give others pleasure. I do believe that you must set your ego (separateness) aside to truly love others. The more I set my ego aside, the more willing I am to allow my wife to experience life the way she wants to. If she desires sex with others, I need to accept that. If she would rather be monogamous, I need to accept that.

While I do think that we are here to "experience", I think our true journey is to learn to Love. Sex is strongly linked to our need to survive. This leads many to see sex as scarce. Truth is, it's not scarce, there's a lot of it going on. Our bodies will not survive this world - we might as well enjoy them while we're here. I do think it's unfair to say all Bulls are just satisfying their egos or that all cuckolds are suppressing theirs. We are all subject to the temptation of ego. We are all capable of setting aside ego and embracing Love.

 

[pleaser011]

I think that the ego, which itself is a mental construction invented to try to explain human behavior and identity, is just another word for the self or the soul. The ego is necessary for survival. Without ego it would be very difficult to be a successful person in a human society. We all struggle for status, some much more than others.

I think that women are programmed to respond to men with strong egos because that means a better chance for their offspring to survive in the world. Of course the world has changed substantially since such behavior evolved and now a woman's offspring is more likely to flourish if her partner is intelligent and understanding.

What makes the whole notion of cuckolding enjoyable is the tension between the evolved behavior and the reality of modern social norms. Intelligent and sensitive beta men can find a way of escaping the constant pressure of maintaining their status in social terms (ego) and presumably enabling their wives to revel in their sexuality (without the usual condemnation for such behavior).

My focus has always been on female domination so, unlike the "swingers" cuckolding for me has always been a further extension of being dominated by a woman. Dominance and submission is the key here. I feel that the ego (if such a thing exists) can be transcended in two ways: either by inflation or by deflation. The dominant partner escapes the confines of the ego by inflating it so large that essentially it no longer exists. For the submissive, the total loss of control and responsibility is the liberating factor (the ego is deflated).

Human love in the everyday real world probably requires both partners to have healthy but moderated egos. But for the bedroom, if we are careful and fully aware of what we are doing the powerful emotions that control and react to evolved social interaction can be harnessed to sexuality in a beautiful and unique way. It's a fine line and many of us get confused in the process but the rewards are huge for those of us who can manage the super-charged emotions that are involved.

 

[mimi27406]

Interesting Observation

Masterlover I find it a constant and losing battle and of course the ego gets smaller with each bout. It is very hard to admit to yourself that you are not all a real man should be. A woman wants to be loved, adored and feel protected but at the same time she has naughty desires also. I am afraid she feels about her cuckold as she would a pet or servant.