Any IR interlude I might have would have to be discreet, since my mildly racist hub is not exactly keen on sharing me with a black lover.
I keep reading about all these married couples where the hub is cool with some "black enjoyment" for his wife, but I've personally never encountered this in any of our friends or associates. Not being of the swinging scene, I suppose my education is incomplete in these areas, but knowing most men as I do, it's hard to imagine any of them going along with their wives taking on a black bedmate.
That leaves me with having to be very careful, as my marriage is more important than getting caught satisfying my IR fantasies.
As for now, I'm living them through our daughter's own IR relationship, which is eye-opening enough.....<smiles>