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Curious Wife
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duke9555 said:=============
so in other words i don't know what the fuck is going on here
and have no opinion so do whatever it is you feel like doin
pay no heed to my ignorant ass ..
Total overreaction. I don't see that he was even talking about you.
I just stuck up for you earlier, so chill.
Hank jones said:
Since you flat out asked, I will flat out answer. I will lump all your questions together and give one answer.
When all is said and done, my hubby is very likely to be the biolgical father. When push comes to shove, lets face it, that is the smartest choice.
In our case though, it would also be a compromise choice.
That is not the first choice of either of us.
My first choice is a white guy, other than my hubby. I am leaning very strongly towards a friend rather than a stranger.
My hubby's first choice, believe it or not, is a black male.
mybuttplug said:
This has not become routine and to this point has happened only once.
He ate a creampie because he knew I wanted him to, so he did it for me.
He also gave in to my fantasy of seeing him be a bottom to another guy. I actually got to watch him give head, and be penetrated. It was awesome!
I have not, nor will I push for any of this to happen again. I know that he didn't really have a desire to do these things except for doing them for me. If he wants to do them again, I'm sure I'll find out one way or the other. If he doesn't, I just love him for fulfilling my fantasy for me.
We don't do the big "humiliation" thing I don't think. We are more into him crossdressing, and of course his foot fetish.
Hi Lexxi,
Welcome back. It's good to hear from you. Do you have a friend in mind that you are considering to breed you?
It's good to hear that you are so considerate of your hubbies desires. Sometimes a hotwife can become so focused on their pleasure, they neglect their cuck's needs.
Have you been playing with anyone new since we last heard from you?
Welcome back. It's good to hear from you. Do you have a friend in mind that you are considering to breed you?
It's good to hear that you are so considerate of your hubbies desires. Sometimes a hotwife can become so focused on their pleasure, they neglect their cuck's needs.
Have you been playing with anyone new since we last heard from you?
Dominance
Great thread, Lexxi, and thanks for posting again.
You haven't gone all mushy on your cuck, have you?
You showed a natural flair for dominance when you got your husband to admit to his cuckold desires in that watershed conversation a while ago. That last remark "Don't you mean 'Yes ma'am' wimp?" was pure genius.
I'm guessing here, but I suppose since you are the one with the lovers, the balance of power in your marriage is tipped in your favor. So for your marriage to work you must find a balance point, where your cuck gets rewarded for staying in the relationship? If that makes any sense ...
But from what you're writing I guess you are still firmly in charge?
Great thread, Lexxi, and thanks for posting again.
You haven't gone all mushy on your cuck, have you?
You showed a natural flair for dominance when you got your husband to admit to his cuckold desires in that watershed conversation a while ago. That last remark "Don't you mean 'Yes ma'am' wimp?" was pure genius.
I'm guessing here, but I suppose since you are the one with the lovers, the balance of power in your marriage is tipped in your favor. So for your marriage to work you must find a balance point, where your cuck gets rewarded for staying in the relationship? If that makes any sense ...
But from what you're writing I guess you are still firmly in charge?
People being the deep & complicated creatures they are, it's difficult to give a single full-grown one advice, let alone a pair of them. But I might impart some general principles that I feel I have won the hard way.
¤ - Whatever decision you take, don't take it out of fear. Fear isn't designed for decision-making. Have no fear of future classmates, future thoughts in future heads, future conversations. You cannot anticipate life's myriad ironies & vagaries, things will be both better & worse than you imagine, and, for situations that don't involve a live grenade in your lap or a sudden loss of cabin pressure, fear almost always points you toward future regrets.
¤ - Have faith. Faith in life, faith in time, faith in uncertainty, but especially faith in love: the love you have for family & friends & people in general, and the love others have for you.
¤ - Aim for a life most compatible with the people you honestly observe yourselves to be. You will be delightfully shocked at how smoothly everything else works itself out.
¤ - Whatever decision you take, don't take it out of fear. Fear isn't designed for decision-making. Have no fear of future classmates, future thoughts in future heads, future conversations. You cannot anticipate life's myriad ironies & vagaries, things will be both better & worse than you imagine, and, for situations that don't involve a live grenade in your lap or a sudden loss of cabin pressure, fear almost always points you toward future regrets.
¤ - Have faith. Faith in life, faith in time, faith in uncertainty, but especially faith in love: the love you have for family & friends & people in general, and the love others have for you.
¤ - Aim for a life most compatible with the people you honestly observe yourselves to be. You will be delightfully shocked at how smoothly everything else works itself out.
Lexxi,
Thank you for taking the time to reply to all your responders. I'm sure you will make the right choices for your future child, from all angles. As a father myself, I can say that parenting is a heavy but very rewarding burden. I simply cannot comment on how I would feel about a child conceived by my wife but without me as the father. I'd like to say I would treat it like my own, and I think I would, but truthfully, who knows.
I hope you tell us at some time how it all worked out for you. I wish you the best.
Thank you for taking the time to reply to all your responders. I'm sure you will make the right choices for your future child, from all angles. As a father myself, I can say that parenting is a heavy but very rewarding burden. I simply cannot comment on how I would feel about a child conceived by my wife but without me as the father. I'd like to say I would treat it like my own, and I think I would, but truthfully, who knows.
I hope you tell us at some time how it all worked out for you. I wish you the best.
Hi Ms. Lexxi,
I’ve looked through the recent back-and-forth in your thread; it appears the main question of interest to you and your husband, which you have not yet resolved, is as stated in your post of 16 Aug. 2012:
and your subsequent post of 17 Aug. 2012:
Obviously I can’t suggest, let alone state, how you should go about choosing a man to sire your first child. As you say, you’ll need to resolve that with your husband. If he’s open to any of the above 4 possibilities, that — of course — certainly expands your range of options.
A point to consider, among others, would be the question of why you married your husband. Setting aside the standard stuff of romance novels (“he swept you off your feet with his undying love,” etc.), I would guess he had qualities that caused you to conclude on some level, covertly if not overtly, that he would be a good life partner and father of your children.
That is, a women contemplating whether to marry a man similar in age when both are relatively young has to make a judgment re. whether her man is likely to be a good provider and father in the future, because she doesn’t actually know whether that will turn out to be the case. (A woman who marries an older man established in his business or profession, by contrast, knows a priori he will be a good provider because he has demonstrated that, but marrying an older man may have some disadvantages.)
In your case, now that some time has passed and it has turned out you are professionally successful (I gather from your posts), while your husband turned out to be sexually inadequate (so you guided him into a “cuckold husband / hotwife” form of marriage which he has accepted), you might consider whether he has fulfilled your expectations in other respects or, alternatively, fallen short on multiple fronts.
If your husband is successful professionally or as a business man in his own right, and has generally fulfilled your hopes and been a good partner, but if he agrees it would be acceptable for you to seek impregnation by another man because of his self-acknowledged sexual shortcomings, and because he doesn’t want to pass his sexual shortcomings along to a son, then I suggest looking into the question of whether that’s a reasonable source of reluctance.
Suppose, for example, you decide you want your husband to be the biological father of your child. As you know, human DNA (like the DNA of all other species) is highly complex and, in addition, the DNA inherited by your son or daughter will be 50% yours — the other 50% will be contributed, of course, by your husband. Suppose also your child turns out to be male. Does your husband’s “inadequate equipment” imply your son would also have “inadequate equipment”?
This does not strike me as a simple question, because you too were sired by a man who, unbeknownst to you, may have been strongly sexual and had “more than adequate equipment.” Or, perhaps there were males in your husband’s family background who were “more than adequately equipped” but that potential, for some genetic reason or other, was not expressed in your husband. Furthermore, your child may turn out to be female — in which case this concern (if it is a concern) would be irrelevant.
If you and your husband want to make informed judgments re. questions of this nature, you’ll probably have to consult a geneticist (if that’s what such specialists are called). I don’t think it will be difficult to find such a person, nor will it be expensive. There are lots of couples concerned about the probability of some undesirable characteristic in the family background of one or the other, or both, being passed along to their children.
This is my first comment on the problem you and your husband are attempting to resolve. I’ll pass along some others a bit later.
—Custer
I’ve looked through the recent back-and-forth in your thread; it appears the main question of interest to you and your husband, which you have not yet resolved, is as stated in your post of 16 Aug. 2012:
lexxi said:
and your subsequent post of 17 Aug. 2012:
lexxi said:
Obviously I can’t suggest, let alone state, how you should go about choosing a man to sire your first child. As you say, you’ll need to resolve that with your husband. If he’s open to any of the above 4 possibilities, that — of course — certainly expands your range of options.
A point to consider, among others, would be the question of why you married your husband. Setting aside the standard stuff of romance novels (“he swept you off your feet with his undying love,” etc.), I would guess he had qualities that caused you to conclude on some level, covertly if not overtly, that he would be a good life partner and father of your children.
That is, a women contemplating whether to marry a man similar in age when both are relatively young has to make a judgment re. whether her man is likely to be a good provider and father in the future, because she doesn’t actually know whether that will turn out to be the case. (A woman who marries an older man established in his business or profession, by contrast, knows a priori he will be a good provider because he has demonstrated that, but marrying an older man may have some disadvantages.)
In your case, now that some time has passed and it has turned out you are professionally successful (I gather from your posts), while your husband turned out to be sexually inadequate (so you guided him into a “cuckold husband / hotwife” form of marriage which he has accepted), you might consider whether he has fulfilled your expectations in other respects or, alternatively, fallen short on multiple fronts.
If your husband is successful professionally or as a business man in his own right, and has generally fulfilled your hopes and been a good partner, but if he agrees it would be acceptable for you to seek impregnation by another man because of his self-acknowledged sexual shortcomings, and because he doesn’t want to pass his sexual shortcomings along to a son, then I suggest looking into the question of whether that’s a reasonable source of reluctance.
Suppose, for example, you decide you want your husband to be the biological father of your child. As you know, human DNA (like the DNA of all other species) is highly complex and, in addition, the DNA inherited by your son or daughter will be 50% yours — the other 50% will be contributed, of course, by your husband. Suppose also your child turns out to be male. Does your husband’s “inadequate equipment” imply your son would also have “inadequate equipment”?
This does not strike me as a simple question, because you too were sired by a man who, unbeknownst to you, may have been strongly sexual and had “more than adequate equipment.” Or, perhaps there were males in your husband’s family background who were “more than adequately equipped” but that potential, for some genetic reason or other, was not expressed in your husband. Furthermore, your child may turn out to be female — in which case this concern (if it is a concern) would be irrelevant.
If you and your husband want to make informed judgments re. questions of this nature, you’ll probably have to consult a geneticist (if that’s what such specialists are called). I don’t think it will be difficult to find such a person, nor will it be expensive. There are lots of couples concerned about the probability of some undesirable characteristic in the family background of one or the other, or both, being passed along to their children.
This is my first comment on the problem you and your husband are attempting to resolve. I’ll pass along some others a bit later.
—Custer
Since I haven't posted in a good while, I will get right into a recap of what's been going on with me.
Hubby and I took a long time deciding what we were going to do, and we came up with what we think is the best for US.
First of all, I decided I didn't want to be 7 or 8 months pregnant in the heat of late Summer. I know some friends who were really miserable with that.
So, part of my big news is that I am going off the pill tomorrow, February 1st. Also, we have decided that the baby will be fathered by a black man.
With that in mind, hubby and I separated in the middle of November. I am currently openly dating black men, and that is something that is now known by my family, his family, mine and hubby's co-workers, our friends and neighbors.
Our PLAN is to get back together when I am about half way along. This will create a situation where no one will be shocked or surprised about my baby.
We have decided to have 2 or 3 children, so when any other children are also black, people will probably be surprised, but not necessarily shocked.
Like I said, this is what we feel is right for us, and I'd love questions or comments, but no advise at this time. This is a pretty tough road and we have to walk it ourselves.
Hubby and I took a long time deciding what we were going to do, and we came up with what we think is the best for US.
First of all, I decided I didn't want to be 7 or 8 months pregnant in the heat of late Summer. I know some friends who were really miserable with that.
So, part of my big news is that I am going off the pill tomorrow, February 1st. Also, we have decided that the baby will be fathered by a black man.
With that in mind, hubby and I separated in the middle of November. I am currently openly dating black men, and that is something that is now known by my family, his family, mine and hubby's co-workers, our friends and neighbors.
Our PLAN is to get back together when I am about half way along. This will create a situation where no one will be shocked or surprised about my baby.
We have decided to have 2 or 3 children, so when any other children are also black, people will probably be surprised, but not necessarily shocked.
Like I said, this is what we feel is right for us, and I'd love questions or comments, but no advise at this time. This is a pretty tough road and we have to walk it ourselves.
Now, for my other big news. No one here will probably have any interest in this, but I'm writing it anyway because it is another potentially big step for me.
This Saturday night I am reconnecting with a girl who was a college roommate of mine for one semester. She was gay, and I was intimidated by her because of that I think. I was however, somewhat intrigued not about being gay, or the gay life-style per se, but about her in general. She was one of the most beautiful girls I had ever seen and........hmm.
I guess you get the point.
Anyway, I am going to meet with her as "old friends", but I am doing so at this time with a very open mind.
If any of you want to know how it goes, let me know.
This Saturday night I am reconnecting with a girl who was a college roommate of mine for one semester. She was gay, and I was intimidated by her because of that I think. I was however, somewhat intrigued not about being gay, or the gay life-style per se, but about her in general. She was one of the most beautiful girls I had ever seen and........hmm.
I guess you get the point.
Anyway, I am going to meet with her as "old friends", but I am doing so at this time with a very open mind.
If any of you want to know how it goes, let me know.
