BBC News - Malaysia canes three women over extramarital sex
One wonders if Saraha might suggest they got caned for the additional sexual effects!
One wonders if Saraha might suggest they got caned for the additional sexual effects!
4julie said:BBC News - Malaysia canes three women over extramarital sex
This kind of harsh punishment of women (or indeed, any punishment), for the same behaviors often engaged in by men in Malaysia and elsewhere, is outrageous, egregious, and completely unacceptable.
4julie said:One wonders if Saraha might suggest they got caned for the additional sexual effects!
Custer Laststand said:4julie said:BBC News - Malaysia canes three women over extramarital sex
This kind of harsh punishment of women (or indeed, any punishment), for the same behaviors often engaged in by men in Malaysia and elsewhere, is outrageous, egregious, and completely unacceptable.
Yes, I've been in KL hotels which had a whole floor given over to massage parlors!
Custer Laststand said:I don't think so.
4julie said:Yes, but just teasing as she does that they might get caught for the canings!
Custer Laststand said:I realize you were just teasing, 4Julie. But, when you say "she does that," do you mean Saraha canes her husband or partner? I've never read anything by her in this forum saying or suggesting she's married or in a long-term relationship, or that she canes her husband or anyone else.
4julie said:.... I felt this was a very similar idea to this topic!
Don't you Custer?
Custer Laststand said:Hm... I'll have to say that post does seem closely related to this topic. Note, however, it doesn't involve Saraha saying or implying she has caned anyone... rather, she comments on a historical practice.
4julie said:Ah Custer I think you are fixated on the idea it was Saraha giving the caning whereas I read into her original post that she and some of her friends were the ones who were 'naughty' to get caned and shortly afterwards had those wonderful orgasms.
4julie said:Hence my remarks about those cuckoldresses in the news and how Saraha might construe their behavior could have been for their own sexual pleasures!
Custer Laststand said:An interesting thought... perhaps so.
My guess would be that "official canings" do not result in sexual pleasure... just extreme pain and suffering inflicted on women by men who are much stronger. Thus, the most appropriate interpretation would be that caning of women — be they Islamic or otherwise — is cowardly and represents extreme hypocrisy on the part of the men who decree such punishment, as well as those who carry it out.
As for Saraha: maybe she will enlighten us some day as to what she meant.
mimi27406 said:Saharha would be saddened and feel hurt that these women were chastised for doing what is natural. Saharha is a student to human nature, an often said things to provoke us into honesty. 4Julie is also a close friend and confident, unusually well edecated, and tends to see things as they are, not as we would like.
The fact that some clerics could do this to young girls so sadden me. Women are the soul an savior of this earth.
mimi27406 said:Saharha would be saddened and feel hurt that these women were chastised for doing what is natural. Saharha is a student to human nature, an often said things to provoke us into honesty. 4Julie is also a close friend and confident, unusually well edecated, and tends to see things as they are, not as we would like.
The fact that some clerics could do this to young girls so sadden me. Women are the soul an savior of this earth.
4julie said:.... Adultery is ALWAYS wrong. As a true Cuckold I have suffered the pain and ignominy of being cuckolded by an adulterious wife; it was very hurtful and very wrong. Later I was ****** to accept she cheated on me because of MY short-comings, so while she still fucks whoever she pleases it is no longer adultery because I admit she needs other men to be sexually satisfied. She was still wrong to act unilaterally in seeking sexual satisfaction. A married woman who parts her legs for a man other than her husband is not acting naturally but against all the vows she took as a bride.
AngleBaby said:
Custer Laststand said:4Julie,
Your comments:
reflect a widespread misconception. Your early cuckolding by your wife, before the two of you reached an understanding that dating and fucking other men is her right and privilege, may have been painful — as most cuckolds have found historically, evidently — but it was not "wrong" because cuckolding is the way of the world. This is so not just among humans but also among pair-bond species throughout the biosphere. In attempting to repeal this natural behavior by "taking marriage vows" and "passing laws" we humans might just as well, with equal effectiveness, have passed legislation to repeal the law of gravity.
See my post in the thread initiated a while back by AngleBaby, here:
http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/general-cuckoldry/14439-myths-about-cheating-2.html
Since it's in a rather obscure forum location, I'll repeat it. It addresses the attempt by AngleBaby to establish that "cuckolding is not natural and is destructive to relationships" by citing an article in "Psychology Today," here:
As I pointed out, this article is deeply flawed. The author's statement:
"Most species of birds and animals in which the male serves some useful function other than sperm donation are inherently monogamous. Humans, like other nest builders, are monogamous by nature, but imperfectly so."
Research based on DNA analysis has shown the opposite is true. In all pair-bond species the authors studied the females were found to be inherently non-monogamous — i.e., not faithful to their long-term mates. This finding included pair-bond species usually thought of as monogamous such as swans and wolves. The authors found that on average (as I recall), 40% to 70% of the offspring of any given pair-bond couple were sired by a male other than the resident male (in effect, the husband).
Editorial comment: among human couples in western nations, a much smaller percentage of offspring are sired, on average, by men other than the woman's long-term partner (i.e., husband), in part (I speculate) because of birth control and also because human females often copulate when they aren't fertile, whereas the females of other species generally copulate only when they are fertile. (It may be worth noting that dolphins have sex for fun, according to a recent NPR interview with a marine biologist who studies them. She didn't comment, unfortunately, on the cuckolding behavior of dolphins nor on whether male dolphins who suspect they've been cuckolded become enraged.)
See:
"The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People,"
by David P. Barash, Ph.D., and Judith Eve Lipton.
This book is available at modest cost via (e.g.) Amazon.com. A rather detailed review, in the form of a downloadable doc file, can be found here:
http://www.unm.edu/~hebs/pubs/Miller...gamyReview.doc
See also:
"Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them" by David J. Ley (2009, 291 pp. [hardcover]).
Sorry to throw cold water on the "humans and other pair-bond species are inherently monomagous" myth and, by implication, the "cuckolding is wrong" myth, but there you have it. DNA would not be capable of lying even if it feared social disapproval. I suggest we pair-bonded human males would do better — probably much better — by adapting ourselves to being cuckolds than by clogging the courts with charges that "our wives broke their marriage vows and are unfaithful, therefore we demand divorce!"
By "doing better," I mean adopting a philosophy throughout society that love, marriage, and long-term commitment are and should be independent of the need for sex, particularly female sex, with a variety of lovers. As have, for instance, you and your wife and many others on this forum.
—Custer
4julie said:Ah Custer, just because lots of people do it [women cuckolding their husbands and men cheating on their wives] doesn't make it NATURAL.
4julie said:You could argue all you have said about crime.
4julie said:Does the fact we have lots of criminals mean that we should accept criminal activity as natural behavior?
4julie said:I feel that because more people do something doesn't make it more natural or right, it just makes it more common and therefore more acceptable. The more acceptable it becomes the less moral and legal objection there is to it.
4julie said:In some areas if a crime has been committed against you and you are unhurt, the police's attiude is, you were lucky! Does that make it natural or right?
4julie said:On a personal level I consider my wife knew [knew what?] and was 'cuckolding' me from before we married. If she knew back then I would never be able to sexually satisfy her, which she later told me, why didn't she declare it then and from the outset be honest and open about it so we BOTH could have made decisions based on the facts.
4julie said:I became a cuckold by her force, and yes, I came to accept my role, but it is one I would never have sought out and one that I only accepted through others mediation and rationalization.
cuck4life said:I am curious as to how and where these sentences are carried out. Are there private witnesses are is this done in public.
Custer Laststand said:Cuck4Life,
Regarding your question:
I'll be happy to answer your question (or try to), but it will be helpful if you can let me know which sentences you're referring to. This can be done by hitting the "quote" button at lower right in the post you're referring to, then deleting everything except the sentences you're asking about.
Alternatively, are you referring to "sentences" as in punishment — as described in 4Julie's original post? If so, 4Julie should respond.... although what he knows about this may be only what he read in the news article he provided a link to.
If you don't respond within "reasonable time," I'll take a guess re. what you're asking about and reply to that. It will be better, though, if you'd be willing to clarify your question.
Thanks—
Custer