Craigslist
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My fiance and I have discussed safety at length and at the end of the day, we agree with what Macnfries says, with regards to taking your chances. There will always be an element of risk, you just have to try to eliminate the greatest potentials for risk by (as you are doing really) researching/seeking advice on the best way to meet potential people.
I've read good things and bad things about craigslist in this forum. One thing I read that I thought was worth bearing in mind was that the wording of the ad was very important in attracting the right sort of person.
I'd be interested in your experiences with craigslist. Keep us updated if you can.
I'd be interested in your experiences with craigslist. Keep us updated if you can.
My experiance there has been horrific thusfar...
I posted the very same introduction there, that I had posted here when I initially signed up. I Recieved about 250 single sentance, broken english and bad gramar notes with nothing but cock shot's. While like any other woman I apreciate a decent sized bit of yummy, it's a TOTALL TURNOFF as the initial introduction. It tells me without any doubt that the sender is an adolecent with the mental capacity of steam, and the comunication skills of a stone.
I then went in farther, I posted some cute photo's taken with my webcam and just a little makeup on and told the reader specifically where I would be and when, in addition to creatively offering myself up as the main course for however many men showed up. Well of the 100 or so responses which repeatedly asked for directions, the day, the time, when I was going to get there, etc. I grew utterly frustrated. Hello!! Google anyone, Mapquest for some, and a dose of GPS for others. I persevered and repeatedly wrote out notes to each one with the exact same information posted, the physical address, the phone number of the bar, and my EXACT arrival time to no avail.
Still these halfwitted morons couldn't quite grasp where it was, what was being offered, and when. About half wanted to know if I smoked weed, by which they used some strange street slang that I had to look up, and if I was providing it.
One and ONLY one guy showed up, well we went back to his place and we partied like it was 1999... I asked for nothing and gave him my all ladies and he was quite the package of delicious.
I then decided I would try my hand at writing, so off I went on the next pointless challenge. I wrote to one idiot who initially seemed perfect and then just couldn't bring himself to get off his couch and drive across town to meet either of us on numerous ocassions. I told him everything he needed to make both of us squirm and fall right into his bed over the course of a dozen letters in the 500 word range or higher. Well after all of that he thought I was just trying to get him to spend money on an adult site membership! That is a leval of idiocy even I can't tollerate for longer than a nanosecond.
At this point I've written to about ten or so people who have placed an add there and the only contact I've ended up with was a note from one of my photographers who was suprised I was such a tart. That's right kiddies...
One of my photographer's saw my posting or got a letter from me...
Obviously for reasons of professional distance I didn't feel like going to far with him this time, besides I've already told him my body is available anytime he wants it. We got together for some fun over two years ago, and just havent managed to get together since. He's actually quite sweet, he even bought me coffe before I blew him in an alley every weekend like a cheap ***** for several months.
Oh well....
I posted the very same introduction there, that I had posted here when I initially signed up. I Recieved about 250 single sentance, broken english and bad gramar notes with nothing but cock shot's. While like any other woman I apreciate a decent sized bit of yummy, it's a TOTALL TURNOFF as the initial introduction. It tells me without any doubt that the sender is an adolecent with the mental capacity of steam, and the comunication skills of a stone.
I then went in farther, I posted some cute photo's taken with my webcam and just a little makeup on and told the reader specifically where I would be and when, in addition to creatively offering myself up as the main course for however many men showed up. Well of the 100 or so responses which repeatedly asked for directions, the day, the time, when I was going to get there, etc. I grew utterly frustrated. Hello!! Google anyone, Mapquest for some, and a dose of GPS for others. I persevered and repeatedly wrote out notes to each one with the exact same information posted, the physical address, the phone number of the bar, and my EXACT arrival time to no avail.
Still these halfwitted morons couldn't quite grasp where it was, what was being offered, and when. About half wanted to know if I smoked weed, by which they used some strange street slang that I had to look up, and if I was providing it.
One and ONLY one guy showed up, well we went back to his place and we partied like it was 1999... I asked for nothing and gave him my all ladies and he was quite the package of delicious.
I then decided I would try my hand at writing, so off I went on the next pointless challenge. I wrote to one idiot who initially seemed perfect and then just couldn't bring himself to get off his couch and drive across town to meet either of us on numerous ocassions. I told him everything he needed to make both of us squirm and fall right into his bed over the course of a dozen letters in the 500 word range or higher. Well after all of that he thought I was just trying to get him to spend money on an adult site membership! That is a leval of idiocy even I can't tollerate for longer than a nanosecond.
At this point I've written to about ten or so people who have placed an add there and the only contact I've ended up with was a note from one of my photographers who was suprised I was such a tart. That's right kiddies...
One of my photographer's saw my posting or got a letter from me...
Obviously for reasons of professional distance I didn't feel like going to far with him this time, besides I've already told him my body is available anytime he wants it. We got together for some fun over two years ago, and just havent managed to get together since. He's actually quite sweet, he even bought me coffe before I blew him in an alley every weekend like a cheap ***** for several months.
Oh well....
Cause for pause
The posting of your note couldn't be more timely. I have responded to a CL ad of a man, purportedly with the knowledge and approval of his wife or girlfriend (I'm not sure which), looking for a bull for her. The ad asked for a mug shot which I sent. It met his approval and presumably hers. He/they wanted a hook-up this week. I told him it wasn't doable but next week might work. So, we've tentatively slated a tryst at a motel. He wanted to know if I would have issues with him taking photos. As long as no face shots, no problem, I said. From what I have gleaned lurking on this site for the past several years, it has the "feel" of authenicity. But who knows? I'm taking a lot on faith and, generally, that's not a wise approach. I'm toward the older end of the spectrum, but I'm fit and would like to believe I could handle most situations mano-a-mano. But that's the sort of male arrogance that could be one's undoing. I don't want to miss an opportunity, but I don't want to be a fool, either. Not quite sure how to approach it. So, I'll follow this thread with interest.
The posting of your note couldn't be more timely. I have responded to a CL ad of a man, purportedly with the knowledge and approval of his wife or girlfriend (I'm not sure which), looking for a bull for her. The ad asked for a mug shot which I sent. It met his approval and presumably hers. He/they wanted a hook-up this week. I told him it wasn't doable but next week might work. So, we've tentatively slated a tryst at a motel. He wanted to know if I would have issues with him taking photos. As long as no face shots, no problem, I said. From what I have gleaned lurking on this site for the past several years, it has the "feel" of authenicity. But who knows? I'm taking a lot on faith and, generally, that's not a wise approach. I'm toward the older end of the spectrum, but I'm fit and would like to believe I could handle most situations mano-a-mano. But that's the sort of male arrogance that could be one's undoing. I don't want to miss an opportunity, but I don't want to be a fool, either. Not quite sure how to approach it. So, I'll follow this thread with interest.
MacNfries said:
MacNfries, this generally has been my experiance, in this day and age just about anyone who hasn't grasped it aparently managed to avoid the last ice age.
Believe me I love it when a guy takes charge, I really do, but that assumes he knows the rules going in. For your enjoyment here is a short note I wrote years ago....
Originally written - March 21st, 2008 4:17 pm MDT
Recently I went to have lunch with a friend of mine. As I walked to the door I noticed the little signs that adorn most businesses these days. You know the ones, "member of the BBB", "Visa, MasterCard American Express", or that little no smoking symbol. As I casually read these stickers I thought about the subtle things they told me as a patron. This small diner I frequent just gave me a list of their house rules.
Many of you know I've never been to Las Vegas. I have always wanted to go and have flown over it a dozen times or more. As of yet, I have not had the opportunity to go. Fear not dear reader I actually plan to get there one of these days. I consider it a must do on life's list of activities and adventures. It may sound silly but even though I have never been to Vegas I know the casino's rules. Strange isn't it. I know what is acceptable behavior there and what is not allowed. I know their rules.
So what on earth could the jewel in the rough be this time. What nugget is awaiting you? It's rather simple really. Just know the rules. Think about it, Everything has rules. When you Tango or glide around during the Fox Trot or the Waltz there are steps to follow. In order to dance well you need to know the steps. You have to know the rules. When you drive down the road on the way to get those fabulous shoes what do you see? More Rules. No left turn, Stop, and one way signs, each one indicating the direction of travel.
There will always be rules. In love, in dancing, and in life. Knowing them and learning them will only help you. I have my rules, many here know them. Some do not. Even this site has it's rules. Some know them, far to many do not. Those who don't know them don't want to. Many people visit this site for many different reasons. Only the visitor or those who take time to read about me know why they are here. It saddens me greatly that there are some who think the rules do not apply to them.
I'm sure you know the type. It's the moron who saunters up to you at the bar, and lacks any grace. He has no class nor morals yet still thinks he is somehow OWED your company. A world class loser who by his own admission is a lying cad. He has no respect for you or any other woman. he just struts up to you in his cheap shoes and wrinkled t-shirt and expects you to break the rules for him. He is audacious, callous and ignorant. He is not interested in the house rules. They don't interest him because he is hot and bothered and needs to get off.
I pity him, Fleeting as it may be. I move on quietly with style as he whines about how difficult it is to do a profile here. His statements have no merit and make less and less sense. I am amused ever so slightly by his futile gesture to convince me of his worth. As he rambles on endlessly about his need to be part of my life all the while showing me no respect whatsoever. My patience begins to wane as he continues to blame someone or anyone else for his problems.
You see he ignored my rule, and by doing so was disrespectful. Real men are always respectful, especially to women. I despise men who are disrespectful of women. You see that is one of my rules. If you are disrespectful and are unwilling to meet my needs why would I want to know you. Would you want someone who is so self centered that all they cared about was themselves, What They wanted or thought they needed? I trust you said no.
Nobody likes the pompous egotistical little brats of the world. In your own life you know who they are. The people who call you late at night because they are bored, they never care if you were sleeping. They never have cab fare and just stick out their hand and expect you to give them money for it. Every action and every deed shows how little they care about you and emphasizes how much the care only about themselves. The world owes them everything yet they do nothing to earn it.
I've met such a pitiful person on more than one occasion here. Each time he assaulted me in the chat room his handle was different. Perhaps he thought that by changing his name it would somehow impress me. I've said many times cowardice is distasteful to me. However Chivalry is a huge turn on. There were several people in particular who showed incredible class in defense of my honor as this miserable little man continued his tirade like a spoiled child. These wonderful people of whom I speak knew my rules and respected them. That my dear reader is what class is.
One in particular followed my rules and showed respect, and in doing so got closer to me. The other fool, the spoiled child with his ranting complaints was cast aside quickly. I have no room in my kitchen for spoiled vegetables.
In the dance of love the man proposes the step. The woman has the choice to accept and follow or decline his advance. The woman follows the man, but the man has to know how to lead her. A woman will follow his lead as he guides her, gently, softly, and passionately across the floor. She wont follow if he steps on her toes, or shoves her and pushes her around. Why would she? The seduction is lost and her toes are hurt now. Knowing the rules makes you a good driver just as it will make you a great dancer.
You see my dear reader you can either accept the rules each of us create for our own reasons or you can cry and whine about them. If as most of you do, you respect others; You have no problem with a few requested courtesies. Showing grace and class is quite easy for you. On the other hand, If you are like the aforementioned useless idiot, grace and class you will never have. The whining and name calling only shows me how much I don't want you in my life. In doing so you display for all the world why you have a bitter existence. A life of shame and disdain wrapped in cowardly arrogance. I have no time for you, not now nor ever. Your silly game of coded letters indicating your age and build are uninteresting. You bore me, before you even speak.
I am here to learn, to grow, to socialize with those who are like me. The joy I derive from helping a girl out who has questions or just needs a gentle touch of understanding is tremendous. I am more than flattered that some have trusted me with an intimate moment or a horrific tale of personal trauma. To be able to develop a bond with such amazing women is difficult to describe for someone like me who has far to many blond moments.
Every woman here has her talents, her accomplishments, and her embarrassments. I have so many it's taken a lifetime to resolve them. Even today some of my good deeds still go unpunished. I am no angel nor am I gifted, but I know the rules. It's easy if you just learn to read like I did when I was in Kindergarten.
Each of us is looking for someone to dance with, that wonderful soul who takes our hand gently. They twirl us with gusto as we get closer to that crescendo of passion. We all want the best dance partner don't we. However if you stumble on to the floor ***** on your own self importance, trying to conduct the conductor nobody is going to dance with you. I certainly will not, would you?
Alas there he is the maniacal little troll, to cowardly or stupid to figure out how to do his profile. Ignoring the fact that thousands of others have already done it successfully. He only complains and whines. Poor me, poor me. Yes you are poor.....in spirit, in honesty, and in life. You will never have anything more than your fantasy. Your neurotic desire to be my dance partner. I calmly tell you to learn, to gracefully practice the moves I have laid out for all to see.
I implore you to read, to examine me as you would the soft petals of the flowers in a garden. Then and only then will you succeed in this dance. The dance floor is polished and the music is gently caressing my soul. My heart beats in anticipation of the seductive Tango to come.
The question is.....Do you know the house rules?
Most of the time, out of 100 responses, we find just 1 guy who will actually hook up.
We have had terrible luck with Cragslist, mostly guys wanting pictures.
We have had terrible luck with AFF also. Same issue.
SLS has been our best bet, but still a lot of picture requests and very few hook ups.
We ask for specific things in our ads and everyone, no matter if they fit what we are looking for or no, all send requests to meet up.
My wife is tall. She wants only men as tall or taller than her. We get guys 5' 4" tall wanting to hook up.
So, we said we would not reply to guys who do not fit what we are looking for in a Bull.
Most guys on swinger sites do not know what a cuckold is anyway.
Craigslist is good if you are in a bigger city. Go to casual encounters and search for cuck, cuckold or bull and you will find what you are looking for.
Do that in a small town like were we live and no one knows WTF we are talking about.
Every white man we hooked up with for LTR, falls in love with my wife. Only the black Bulls are willing to fuck her for recreational sex only. They are in it just for the pussy, they will do what is needed to get some white pussy. If the husband wants to watch, fine, if not, fine too.
We have had terrible luck with Cragslist, mostly guys wanting pictures.
We have had terrible luck with AFF also. Same issue.
SLS has been our best bet, but still a lot of picture requests and very few hook ups.
We ask for specific things in our ads and everyone, no matter if they fit what we are looking for or no, all send requests to meet up.
My wife is tall. She wants only men as tall or taller than her. We get guys 5' 4" tall wanting to hook up.
So, we said we would not reply to guys who do not fit what we are looking for in a Bull.
Most guys on swinger sites do not know what a cuckold is anyway.
Craigslist is good if you are in a bigger city. Go to casual encounters and search for cuck, cuckold or bull and you will find what you are looking for.
Do that in a small town like were we live and no one knows WTF we are talking about.
Every white man we hooked up with for LTR, falls in love with my wife. Only the black Bulls are willing to fuck her for recreational sex only. They are in it just for the pussy, they will do what is needed to get some white pussy. If the husband wants to watch, fine, if not, fine too.
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Your right Warpt. No one knows what a cuck or bull is on sites like that. One reason Ruthie and I have such good luck is because all we are looking for is recreational sex. We are all about the fun! I think the mistake most of you cucks make is that your on a constant quest for that one perfect bull for a lasting relationship. Most of you are too fucking serious, always trying to analyze your feelings and every other aspect of the life style and it scares men off.
Just have fun and hook up with different men and let it happen on it's own. The perfect bull will come along naturally if you all stop being so damn serious all the time and start having fun with this whole thing.
One of the things that drives me crazy here is that a good number of you have nothing but problems all the time with this life style. Your always looking for advice on the next big catastrophe in your life. Stop finding all the problems and Learn how to have fun. Let things happen naturally.
Just have fun and hook up with different men and let it happen on it's own. The perfect bull will come along naturally if you all stop being so damn serious all the time and start having fun with this whole thing.
One of the things that drives me crazy here is that a good number of you have nothing but problems all the time with this life style. Your always looking for advice on the next big catastrophe in your life. Stop finding all the problems and Learn how to have fun. Let things happen naturally.
I've used CL often for everything from selling "you name it" to an honest open approach for just NSA sex, to finding a tennis partner, to just finding some nice attractive women to date with no demands. Over the past 2 years CL has become TERRIBLE. I get spam and scam from for sale ads...SERIOUSLY. Maybe 2-5% are real. I've almost stopped posting. I've met maybe 20 women via CL and none...I mean NONE...of them have been who they said they are. To this day there is only one who is at best an acquaintance who contacts me when she want's a man's to listen to her about her life or an opinion from a guy. I'm a risk taker and adventurous but getting real tired of CL garbage. I know women who seem to do well via CL in the regular dating scene only because women get a zillion replies to ads to sort through where guys get not very much but spam and scam. You NEVER know who's on the other end. If you want to take a lot of time sorting through mostly BS fine but be very careful when meeting someone. Meet in a public place and get to know who you meet before going private and letting any guy put his cock in you.
