lifesaver said:
I don't want to freak her out and look at me as a perv. I have followed her on many occasions without her knowing and seen her leave with other men to the hotel or to their cars after a night out.
What should I do and how should I proceed with this? Thanks..
First of all you you do not want her to think you are a pervert and she should not freak out ?
Get real. She is cheating and not including you.
Now what will happen or what is happening first of all ?
She does not seem satisfied with you. Maybe size maybe your relationship got boring ect ect.
You get turned on by her fucking other guys.
Sit down and confront her. If she wants to leave you then she will anyways.
Play your cards right. If you want to be included tell her.
Think of what you want and like and feel good with and see if you have matching points on it.
In case you are just hilarious to her either with or without cuck fantasies she will take off by time.
Is your relationship kept up by her as well and not just you and does she invest time and effort ?
take a piece of paper and write down what bothers you. ask her why she did it and tell her you want a honest answer.
If you both come to the agreement that you want to stay together as a couple and she is willing to do anything for it then you have a point to go by.
let her know you can live with it as long as you get what you want and need and you are included.
be careful because she might start about you wanting to fuck other girls or wanting that and whatever.
do not let her get to this scheme - stop it and tell her to shut it. she is the one cheating and cheating is behind the back in some unloyal way excluding the partner.
either you will be able to set the wheel in motion or it will simply bust like a bomb ( not so much likely but possible) or by chance she will take with a lover off - which i doubt as she might have guys as you indicated.
so you have a chance of her settling for things with you.
not many guys allow their wives to do this. keep that in mind.
If she does not appreciate that and wants bigotry excluding you ongoing and smiling in your face then i would in your shoes look for someone else anyways because then your relationship probably has some hard damage.
whatever things come - you know the frame of your relationship best and there might be twists only you know. get smart but do not let yourself get wrapped up by whatever arguments she brings.
you should ask her if she wants to throw it all away what you have in case she thinks you are a pervert and starts talking about leaving you- because she is not better by any chance having done that.
she can decide now if she likes the taste of the apple and wants more but some rules apply.
be careful with accepting rules you cannot deal with or you simply deepdown dislike VERY much.
good luck
