i bought my then husbad one of those back when i started fucking black men. he had a difficult time getting hard enough to put it in. asked him he wanted one of my bulls to demonstrate how to use it.
I can't exactly speak to your specific situation, however from your wife's perspective I can tell you that most women, especially older women like myself deep down loved to be watched. Even the thought of being watched is a turn on for us. I can't really explain why, but I just know that...