Where we are now, how to move forward

[mishy007]

First off, we're a white couple living in South Africa. Cuckolding at least online is a very rare thing to find online so my research in SA at least has been difficult. We are late 20's engaged couple(together for 7 years). I started off in the exact wrong way and just came out and told her my desires. This obviously didnt go down very well and i've spent the last 2 years recovering from the the way i inititated the idea of her fucking another man infront of me. In the last year she's definitely loosened up and we've even visited a local swingers club on several occasions. She's sucked some guys off but never to completion. Dressed extremely sexy in pretty much just lingerie but thats as far as its gone. She openly admits she enjoys sucking their cocks but thats as far as it goes. She flat out refuses to sleep with another man for us/me. As far as size goes im a ball hair under 7 inches, and when we fuck she i can still fit four fingers in her pussy... its great but i just want to give her what she really deserves, a huge fat cock.

I've got her pretty addicted to porn, she LOVES DP's, Anal scenes are a must(She loves it in the ass too by the way). I've got her dressing sexy on a day to day basis, a bit more toned down for work but still looking great. We'll on a weekly basis role play her fucking a BBC( with a dildo) and she rides it for me and talks dirty, but thats as far as we've reached here. All the activities described above have generally come from my nudges, she struggles to tell me what she wants, like ill ask her to tell me a few fantasies and she says she has none, so i feel like i have to lead there way here quite a bit.

Ladies, Gentlemen i'd really appreciate your views here.

 

[misterx0112013]

1st of all.

Congratulations on that sexy thing you call your missus! What a body! That shot of her in her heels is just amazing. And also on your recovery on getting her back on the idea of turning a lil wild. I know about the frustrations about trying to get your woman to open about her fantasies when they act like they don't have any.
But keep at it man, all the advice I have gotten to do with my GF, although tiny compared to almost all people. Is the fact that I took it slow and made her feel comfortable with 1 naughty idea before I took it up to the next level. So take your time cause there's no 2 ways about that 1.

And also I am a huge fan of taken women dressing like teases. So I would love to see a pic or 2 of how you have gotten her to dress sexier on a daily basis. That always drives me WILD! :drool:

 

[Custer Laststand]

First off, we're a white couple living in South Africa.

Cool... welcome to the forum! And, thanks for posting pics of your fiancé. What a hot-looking woman...

We are a late 20's engaged couple (together for 7 years).

This may be at least part of your problem. Since you and your fiancé are engaged but not married, she probably views her relationship with you as less secure than it would be if she were married to you. She may thus view fucking other men, even if it's with your encouragement, as putting her upcoming marriage to you at risk. Even if you've "given her assurances," no doubt she realizes you could end your relationship, without any of the complications involved in ending a marriage, if you decide the reality of being her cuckold is less desirable than your fantasy.

Speaking of which, the definition is: "cuckold — a man with an unfaithful wife." Since you and your fiancé are not yet married, you cannot yet become her cuckold per se. Rather, she would become a woman with multiple lovers, one of whom would be you.

From your point of view: given that you and your fiancé do not yet have the commitment of marriage, you could conceivably find that as lover no. "m" of "n" total (where "n" is greater than 1 and "m" is equal to or greater than 1), your woman may decide that one of her other "n" lovers is more desirable than you and leave you for him. That's an unpleasant possibility to raise, I suppose, but hey... it happens.

.... As far as size goes, I'm a ball hair under 7 inches. When we fuck, I can still fit four fingers in her pussy. It's great, but I just want to give her what she really deserves, a huge fat cock.

Seven inches and up meets the usual definition of "well hung," so you and your fiancé might not find it all that easy to find lovers for her who are both longer and larger in circumference. Thus, another aspect of your "problem" may be that your fiancé finds you sexually quite satisfying.

I've got her pretty addicted to porn, she LOVES DP's, and anal scenes are a must. (She loves it in the ass too, by the way).

All strongly positive. I suggest resisting the urge to push your fantasy too hard if she shows signs of becoming alienated. Losing your fiancé due to being overly-preoccupied with your sexual fantasy would not be just a small loss; it would be a major loss...

I've got her dressing sexy on a day to day basis, a bit more toned down for work but still looking great. On a weekly-basis we role-play her fucking a BBC ( with a dildo), and she rides it for me and talks dirty, but that's as far as we've gone.

This too sounds very promising...

Ladies and gentlemen, i'd really appreciate your views here.

I suggest first taking care of business: make your fiancé your wife. Then, you might consider proceeding along the lines of the 8-part article that can be found here:

How to Transform Your Wife to a Hotwife

http colon doubleslash www dot hotwifeblog dot com slash 2007 slash 05 slash 23 slash wife-into-hotwife slash

(with the punctuation properly substituted, of course, for the words like "dot").

This was originally published online as one article by Dr. Cherry Lee (a pseudonym); it's been published in 8 parts at this link for ease in reading. The link is to part 1.

Congratulations in advance for your upcoming wedding! And, I hope this helps...

 

[Tanboat05]

Well I for one would like to be rubbing that cum into her butt and back. She loops good with it on her.

She has fantasies. She isn't saying what they are.

 

[mishy007]

@misterx0112013, @Custer Laststand you are both champions, really appreciate the views. Im gonna keep things updated as we head through our journey, but no doubt slow and steady wins the race. And ill be sure to follow up with some day to day sexy atire.