Im just curious and comparing notes.. Before I was married and also a few times in our early marriage I had several 'one night stands' where I would simply meet someone in a lounge. If we "clicked" go home, to the car, or to a motel with them (Yes, I know how dangerous it may have been) When hub and I started swinging, we met couples in swing lounges or clubs and built up a circle of friends whom we party exclusively with now. We started the IR lifestyle a little over a year ago and met men in a IR lounge we frequent, and also built up a circle of IR men I now date same as we did with our swing circle. A friend of a friend situation. Im curious to know if any others do it this way, or if there are those that meet a different man almost every date, then discard him in search of someone better..I notice in many of the post some women saying they've had hundreds of different men. Again Im just curious and know whatever works best for 1 may not work for another.