Good idea to have my wife go Black?

[MWC-WA]

Hello, long time member of this site but I dont post much. I'm a 28yo MWM who has been into IR porn for about 10 years now. Its pretty much the only type of porn i look at (once you go black...) I'm also a member of a few other IR websites and forums.

I would like to hear from white women, white men, and black men about thier opinion on encouraging my wife to go black. I have slowly over the last five years introduced her to the idea of IR sex (long process) at first she was hesitant about it but now she likes it. She uses black dildos, much bigger than my 5in, she likes black on white porn, says black men are sexy etc. Although she is shy when it comes to this stuff, it is to the point that if she were to meet the right guy, she would do it. I have a feeling if she tried it she would really like it, and that alone turns me on. I would love to get her to the point to were she has regulars and NEEDS BBC. I can watch or not, would love to clean up, all that cuck stuff, but part of me wonders if I would regret it. I do have some jealous feelings sometimes and white women with black men used to make me angry. Since then of course I have accepted it and learned to love it, and I think a deep rooted goal of mine is to get my wife to go black, like its almost a responsibility whether I like it or not. But I still wonder if I would look back on it as a bad idea.

I would love to hear your opinions and experiances on this,
thanks
J

 

[white cali hubby]

Hello J, I don't have any experience as far as my wife goes but I am where you are with my wife. The only thing that stops her is finding the right man. I think that I will be jealous when it happens but not only do I think of it being her duty to take black men inside of her, I think of her happiness. I will even go farther and say that I will hope once she does allow black men inside of her she will have a few babies by them. I wish you good luck.

 

[sweet sahumerio]

you need to fell 100% sure about this

if you don't , let the thing just like this

 

[lewis]

finding the right one is what we all are looking for,,,,,,the white couples I have been with are the ones that I had the most communication with,and I mean real, continous honest communicaton with, but the most important thing is to make sure your woman is ready and knows whats going on,,,,,,,nothing is worst that a guy wanting me to seduce his wife and she does not know whats going on or is not ready.

 

[Atlopencpl]

Good advice in the posts. I was like you and took years of working her up to going black. There have been ups and downs over the past 14 years but overall it has been a good thing for us. The up side is that she has real motivation to work out and continue to be as sexy as she can be. I was never jealous but probably the only downside for me is that after watching really hung black men own that pussy what little confidence I had as a cocksman soon disappeared. The comparison is dramatic. Once she has had Kobe Steaks a lilttle McDonalds Hamburger isn't going to impress her anymore.

 

[RedNeckWM]

MWC-WA
Find the right man is right.Then hide her pills.It fun thanking if the baby is going to be black or white

 

[Sissy Cheryl]

Think very carefully if you want this. My ex-wife got into it at my urgings and it didnt take long for her to really get into it. With patience she went for it after her first black man, he was 33 at the time and just got hooked completely. I to liked the idea of cleaning her and did a fine job and she loved that. Unfortunately that led to becoming a total cuck for her and her lovers within a very short time. I didnt mond that at all but in soon changed to her and her boyfriends making me dress like a girl and fefore I knew it she changed it from just cleaning to me pleasing the guys as well and having dress like a sissy for her enjoyment and theres as well. SHe finally left me for a black guy who was 20 yrs younger than her and left me with a strong feeling of not being able to plese a women and now I like her am hooked on black men and find myslef dressing in girls clothes regularly and meeting black men . Be careful of what you wish for is all I can say

 

[MWC-WA]

Thanks for the replys so far...overall seems people are happy with going through with this even though there might be some negative sides to it. Deep down I still feel I should support this.

 

[Consultant44]

Simple answer - think about the most extreme possible outcome you can imagine. (Let's take Cheryl's story for an example)

Ask yourself "Am I prepared to risk that happening rather than never see this fantasy realized?"

If you say "yes" to that, then you've answered your own question. If you say "No way!" then your choice is less clear.

In the discussions I've had and the things I've seen, I've encountered very few who ended up regretting the outcome of this choice. Even if the outcome was not at al what they originally intended. That said, obviously those who live in bitter regret might be less inclined to come around sites like this and say "don't do it!"

That would be hard to analyze.

 

[Consultant44]

Think very carefully if you want this. My ex-wife got into it at my urgings and it didnt take long for her to really get into it. With patience she went for it after her first black man, he was 33 at the time and just got hooked completely. I to liked the idea of cleaning her and did a fine job and she loved that. Unfortunately that led to becoming a total cuck for her and her lovers within a very short time. I didnt mond that at all but in soon changed to her and her boyfriends making me dress like a girl and fefore I knew it she changed it from just cleaning to me pleasing the guys as well and having dress like a sissy for her enjoyment and theres as well. SHe finally left me for a black guy who was 20 yrs younger than her and left me with a strong feeling of not being able to plese a women and now I like her am hooked on black men and find myslef dressing in girls clothes regularly and meeting black men . Be careful of what you wish for is all I can say

I'd be interested in seeing some more extensive detail about your experience...how old you were when she started, how old when she left...how long ago she left you. To what extent femming you was her idea and to what extent it come from her lovers.

And most of all, knowing now what you do, if you could go back and change the past so that you never urged her to go black - would you?

 

[MWC-WA]

And most of all, knowing now what you do, if you could go back and change the past so that you never urged her to go black - would you?

Same here, I would like to know.

 

[JMNBABE@comcast.net]

THINK!! Before you leap......

This is going to COMPLETELY change your life, maybe for the good, maybe for the bad. That will depend on you mostly.......

If you jerk your wife back and forth, make her feel bad for doing this and THEN want her to do it again, those huge mood swings that we women do NOT deal with very well.....if it is something you want when your little dicky is hard but as soon as you tease it a time or two and it dribbles you DON'T want her to do this......STOP NOW!! Because she is about to enter into a sensuality zone that is lightyears ahead of ANYTHING you can offer or even hope to provide her.

And once we get hooked, it is HARD to stop!! Hubby and I were in to this appx 10+ years ago.......it almost ended our marriage. It really came down to that, before I went "cold turkey" and just STOPPED seeing Black Lovers, and it was the hardest thing I have ever done to stop. Truthfully, were it not for our son together, I would have left him back then and never looked back......that is HARD to deal with for anyone. And now that our son is off to College, ALL those old feelings and desires have come FLOODING back........

He didn't bring it up to me.......I had been thinking about it all thru my son's Senior year of HS........once he is off to College I/we have ALL this spare time without prying eyes and questions!! I started teasing myself by looking at Black guys as potential Lovers again.......and my fantasies drifted back to Black Lovers while Hubby and I were making love........I got my BLack dildo's out from the back of the drawer and reintroduced them to our sex life.....and I finally broke down and told him that I WANTED and NEEDED to do this again when our son went off to College. Thankfully, he was all for it and had been thinking the same thing, especially when I got out the Black dildo's again!! LOL..........because I'm pretty sure I was doing it anyway.

And you had bettter be SURE you want all that comes with this.....because it won't be long before she is wondering about things you have probably not even considered yet. Things like "what if" this happens, or that happens, or they want me to do this........because she WILL do what they want, the sex is TOO intense and TOO satisfying for her to turn them down for very long. And Black guys know how to make us WANT and NEED to do things for them we would never consider doing in other relationships......how do you feel about her being bred by Black guys? Because that idea isn't far from her mind, if she is considering this, and they KNOW it isn't far from her mind and they will play off that. And she will do as they ask when the time comes......

So you had better THINK, and think when you are NOT hard and teasing that useless littly pinky dinky.........think about it when you are hard at work in the back yard. Can you handle that your wife is the one inside the house SCREAMING orgasms out with her Black Lover then and NOT when your little dinky is hard and says she should want to do it? Or it's Friday nite (Saturday, Sunday afternoon, whenever) and she is with him and NOT you and WANTS to be with him and NOT you, and he is the one hammering "your pussy" (you KNOW that is how you think!!) and you aren't....and that is the way she wants it too.

Think hard, NOT think WHEN you are hard........then decide if you can handle this. Most can't.

JMNBABE

 

[sweet sahumerio]

wow seems like an addiction


jmnbabe..you preffer a black lover or your hubby ?

 

[MWC-WA]

thank you jmnbabe, you bring up some great points and the thing is...sometimes I do think about it when im not hard and sometimes the thought of her fucking black men makes me angry and jeolous. I would say its 90% turned on and horny by the idea, 10% angry and jeolous.

Thank you for your post, it does sound like you look at it more like an addiction.

 

[joker18]

delima

Hi JMNBABE, I'm a 33 y/o m/w/m. My wife is 28. We've been married for 8 years now. Your story hit home and I could relate to it very much. Three years ago I talked my wife into starting a relationship with a black man that she worked with. She was completely against it in the beginning. It was not like her to do something like that at all but I eventually convinced her. She had two sexual experiences with him while I watched through a window. She also fooled around with him at work on several occasions. The problem with the situation was that she became attached to him and like you said in her own words "addicted" to him. I got jealous and it came extremely close to costing us our marriage. Like you it took everything in her power to stop seeing him, along with him moving to a different job eventually. When I told her that I didn't want her to be with him anymore she was furious. She told me to never ask her to do anything like that again and from now on we would have a "conventional" marriage. After three years we are finally at the point where we will talk about the experience, at least when we are drinking. We have also been talking about her being attracted to black men when we are fooling around. The other day I bought her a Mr. Marcus dildo. I thought she would be mad but she watched ir porn with him in it and we had a good time. My whole point is that for like a year now I have been obsessed with her being with a black man again but have never said anything about it because she has changed so much since our last experience with it, and she was so mad about it the first time. I worry that if I tell her she will get all pissed off and it will have negative effects on our marriage. Is this a bad idea? Or is it possible that she has thought about it like you did and it is possible that she would want that also?


Thanks

 

[SentientDog]

We are a pathetic lot. Men and our jealous natures. Sometimes hard to control even when it's something we think we want.

 

[rhino]

...........how do you feel about her being bred by Black guys? Because that idea isn't far from her mind, if she is considering this, and they KNOW it isn't far from her mind and they will play off that. And she will do as they ask when the time comes......JMNBABE

So when r U going to be bred? U know u want it. We know u want it.

 

[Josetta]

Don't sit in a rocking chair at the close of your days, and regret not giving your wife the chance to have extra loving with BBC if she chooses. Her happiness is prime consideration.

Guys who get turned into girly sissies, probably have a hidden subconscious desire to wear female clothes, but they did not know that it was inside them. Nothing wrong with that gift from their genes. They are lucky to role play both genders.

You have been thinking of being a cuck for many years. Maybe you are now ready to give yourself that gift, because you will always wonder what you are missing out on if you decide not to advance your dream.

Sharing your bride with other men simply means that you are attaching a codicil to your wedding vows, which says your wife can have "extra husbands" to spoil her with extra loving. She is unlikely to enjoy "one-night stands" with black men. She needs an on-going relationship to fulfil her completely. Letting strangers see her naked will evoke a huge emotional upheaval in her personality and sense of well-being for the better.

Her new lovers will need a honeymoon period where she and them can have a lot of privacy to learn to give her mind and body to them in full submission.

Each husband must have the room to grow the "new marriage", using seduction and surprises to win her to their hearts. Each "marriage" is special and each husband must not be jealous or interfere with the other "marriage".

If you give your full love to your wife and talk to her openly about your feelings, then each marriage can work very well. It is about anticipating her needs and helping her to have more fun in life. If she is happy, you will feel happy also. If she is sad, you will be sad also.

All new cucks feel a mix of emotions, but if your dream is make your wife's sex life much more exciting for her, then overall your home should be a lot more happier place.

 

[gentleguy]

you need to realize she will want to have her lovers baby once she knows this is what she was meant to do.

 

[kalidar]

A good point

As our wise administrator Will & Eve pointed out, it's not necessarily the act itself that will be the problem. They've done it for years, and it sounds like they've done nothing but enjoy it. The main thing is, unless both people are sure they can have a long-term involvement without ruining the marriage, they probably shouldn't do it. Now, I always give my two bits with a grain of salt, since I'm a single guy who's never been married so far. But, in some ways, I think that my perspective gives me a chance to look more at the pure logic. Emotions aren't always a sure thing by any means, but if a man and his wife really are a solid couple, then even a long-term lover for her(or him in some cases, I guess, although it's rarely the situation discussed here) shouldn't be an issue. Now, I don't want to generalize, but in this case there's not much choice. The biggest risk from what I've read is that it does seem at least partially true that women aren't usually good at sex without emotion, so they become attached to the lover. Since they start to feel something for him that isn't purely physical, then when it combines with what is presumable "superior" sex, the problems begin. If they're like Eve appears to be, no problem. Or maybe she doesn't keep a long-term lover, I don't know. At any rate, the main thing is to somehow avoid(and good luck finding a sure way of doing it) the emotional attachment to the lover. If it's just sex, and the love is only for the husband, even if the sex with him isn't technically "as good", she'll want to stay with him because the lover at that point is more or less an interactive sex toy, and the husband provides all the other stuff that makes an actual relationship. If it goes beyond just sex, or if "better" sex is enough to make her start to feel for the lover, then you've opened a can of worms. I wish I knew a way to ensure ahead of time for everyone what would happen so they'd know whether to do it or not, but everyone is different. So, after all this prattling on, I agree with an earlier statement. If you and your wife have any doubt about if this will harm your marriage, you probably shouldn't do it, no matter how fun it seems in the short-term.

 

[Josetta]

Valid comment, Will, good that you mentioned it up.
I come from the angle that when a wife sets aside her vows, it is a pandora's box of what might happen with her suppressed emotions.

I know women who never masturbate because they got their Roman Catholic hands and bare bums smacked very hard as a child for doing it. It was drummed into them that it is one of the worst sins possible. When these kind of women "accept new values and permission", amazing things can happen, and they often "play catchup" which can startle their husbands how far they go.

By pointing out that it can turn into "extra marriages", I am drawing attention to needing a set of guidelines of what permission means, because a man can get a lot more than he wished for when the "brakes come off".

Some guys dream for their wives having BBC, and by the time their wife is ready to say, "yes", they are promising all sorts of things to push her the extra distance, and the cuck and Bull can take over his mind too easily, and even the marriage can fall over as the wife becomes 100% submissive to her new Bull, dancing to every string the Bull pulls.