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MacNfries said:
pmert, first of all accept the fact that "cuckolding", as you read about it here, is a man thing. What you're really wanting is simply to watch your wife have sex with other men ...
Let me further illuminate and expand upon Mac's typically excellent thoughts on the matter.
What Mac is describing is basically "voyeurism". I find this in almost 100% of male patients I see. I attest it to expanded availability of pornography via The Internet.
That, quite simply, is a form of "voyeurism".
And any kink, or perversion, or fetish .. is very much like an opiate or a synthetic opiate chemical. When applied to a biological system, there needs to be a larger and more intense dose to achieve the same effect.
Therefore, the natural "voyeurism" aspect is taken to a stronger, more intense, level to achieve the same effect as the first time you saw a man dressed as a chicken having anal sex with a man dressed as a dog. Or whatever particular kink tends to float your proverbial boat.
Now, where I can expand upon Mac's thoughts are the "humiliation" aspects that is intrinsic in the ACTUAL, REAL .. not fantasy .. cuckold experience.
Let's delve in to that a bit, shall we?
No matter what it is .. no matter if you are a light swinger .. all the way to a full on freak cuckold .. there is a huge .. VAST .. form of humiliation present. That's your wife. Or your girlfriend. Your significant other. And she is being intimate with someone else. (And to answer the age old question .. "can you be cuckolded by a lesbian?" .. absolutely and read on to hear why). This humiliation, that "sick, dead" feeling in the pit of your stomach (to quote one of my patients that INTENSELY craves that particular excitement) .. is a form of drug. Your brain secretes certain chemicals that makes you *feel* that way. The reason? At the core root, jealousy. That is the kernel.
Peeling back the layers of the onion a bit further, what is jealousy?
Jealousy, my dear cuckolds and cuckold wannabees, is the vivid aversion against being cuckolded.
And ya wanna hear something even stranger?
That's EXACTLY the reason you crave it.
(See : Genesis : The Lamb Lies Down on Broadway, song : "The Carpet Crawlers" .. to wit, as Peter Gabriel puts it : "Ya gotta get in to get out". The same reason that urine comes from the vagina. Think on that one for just a few seconds as we continue on in our exercise.)
Finally, as I present these findings and behavioral actions to colleagues, they inquire about partners.
Partners that you fantasize about that is having sex with your wife ..
*BAM*
.. there ya go boys and girls.
There's the sum of your equation.
Who is it that you see in those fantasies?
Answer that one for yourself.
It will tell you everything you need to know about why you want to be cuckolded.
Doc
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