Found this and thought I'd post it on here.
Barbara and Tom were childhood sweethearts, got married in grad school 7 years ago, no kids, two fast track careers, his in technology, hers in academia.
She told this story.
About 2 months ago Tom and I arranged to meet for dinner, starting our night out with a drink at the Four Seasons. I got there 15 minutes early, and the stress of the day as well as my ever-so-middle-class white wine released inhibitions enough for me to get involved in a conversation with a guy sitting nearby.
A half-hour later I noticed my husband standing in the doorway.
I waved him over, introduced the guy, and in a couple of minutes the two of us went to dinner.
"How long were you waiting there by the door?"
"About 20 minutes."
"Well, why didn't you come over, for heaven's sake."
"It looked like you were having a good time, and I liked watching."
"Oh." I realized this went on before with him. We dropped the subject and had a nice evening.
On the drive home Tom asked, "Did that guy - was his name Bill? - try to date you?"
"No, we were just talking."
We talked about other things for the rest of the drive, but I began worrying that he thought I might be appearing too available to strangers, and that was just not the fact. I like everything about my husband and being married to him. It's the most important part of my life.
A couple of weeks later we made another date for a Friday night dinner in town, with the meeting place set for the Sheraton hotel. I thought Tom was late, until he appeared from the back of the bar.
"What were you doing, I was waiting for 15 minutes."
"I just like looking at you."
"Were you waiting to see if anyone tried to talk to me, or something?"
"I confess."
"Don't you trust me?"
"Of course I do. But it's kind of exciting watching you talk to guys in places like this, I guess maybe I'm a bit of a voyeur."
"Well, that's different." I was happy that it wasn't a trust thing after all.
Late at night the next week we were holding each other in bed - that's one of the best parts of being married, I think - and talking.
I brought up his bothersome behavior. "Tom, how come you try to watch strangers talking to me?"
I had my arm over his him when I asked that - there was nothing going on, just a married couple in bed, being comfortable with each other.
But I felt his penis stir. "I guess it's because I think you are beautiful, and I like knowing other guys think you are, too."
Well, that's kind of an odd compliment. "They may not think that at all, they may be just trying to make conversation, or maybe make a date, or even pick me up."
His penis stirred more. "Maybe that would be OK, too."
Now I was beginning to understand something new about my husband. I took the hand he had on my hip, and moved it to my crotch, then grabbed his cock - it was erect, now.
"Barbara, you're getting all warm!"
"Tom, you're getting all stiff."
We put the stiffness and warmness together, and made love. That's not quite true. We fucked.
And talked, too, during the less active moments.
"Let me be sure I understand. You get turned on when you think about guys trying to pick me up."
He responded both physically and verbally: "Yeah."
"Well, I've heard of men like you. You're some kind of voyeur."
"Yeah, maybe."
"Tom, I've been married to you all of my life. I don't think guys are interested in picking up married women. I guess it is kind of nice having someone pay that kind of attention to me, it's sort of flattering - not that I don't want to be married, or anything."
"Uh, you like that?"
"Maybe. It would be kind of nice if a guy tried to date me, or even try to pick me when we're out like that. It sure doesn't happen at Babson, or when we're out together."
His movements became more urgent.
"Uh, would you like to go out to see if something like that would happen on purpose, instead of accidentally, like when you're waiting for me, like last time?"
His body was telling me it's something he was interested in, that's for sure. He was offering me a license to flirt! No, he was encouraging me to. I thought that would be a different role for me, a change from the professional one at work, or the married one with Tom. Why not?
I replied, "Sure, so long as we wind up here."
Barbara and Tom were childhood sweethearts, got married in grad school 7 years ago, no kids, two fast track careers, his in technology, hers in academia.
She told this story.
About 2 months ago Tom and I arranged to meet for dinner, starting our night out with a drink at the Four Seasons. I got there 15 minutes early, and the stress of the day as well as my ever-so-middle-class white wine released inhibitions enough for me to get involved in a conversation with a guy sitting nearby.
A half-hour later I noticed my husband standing in the doorway.
I waved him over, introduced the guy, and in a couple of minutes the two of us went to dinner.
"How long were you waiting there by the door?"
"About 20 minutes."
"Well, why didn't you come over, for heaven's sake."
"It looked like you were having a good time, and I liked watching."
"Oh." I realized this went on before with him. We dropped the subject and had a nice evening.
On the drive home Tom asked, "Did that guy - was his name Bill? - try to date you?"
"No, we were just talking."
We talked about other things for the rest of the drive, but I began worrying that he thought I might be appearing too available to strangers, and that was just not the fact. I like everything about my husband and being married to him. It's the most important part of my life.
A couple of weeks later we made another date for a Friday night dinner in town, with the meeting place set for the Sheraton hotel. I thought Tom was late, until he appeared from the back of the bar.
"What were you doing, I was waiting for 15 minutes."
"I just like looking at you."
"Were you waiting to see if anyone tried to talk to me, or something?"
"I confess."
"Don't you trust me?"
"Of course I do. But it's kind of exciting watching you talk to guys in places like this, I guess maybe I'm a bit of a voyeur."
"Well, that's different." I was happy that it wasn't a trust thing after all.
Late at night the next week we were holding each other in bed - that's one of the best parts of being married, I think - and talking.
I brought up his bothersome behavior. "Tom, how come you try to watch strangers talking to me?"
I had my arm over his him when I asked that - there was nothing going on, just a married couple in bed, being comfortable with each other.
But I felt his penis stir. "I guess it's because I think you are beautiful, and I like knowing other guys think you are, too."
Well, that's kind of an odd compliment. "They may not think that at all, they may be just trying to make conversation, or maybe make a date, or even pick me up."
His penis stirred more. "Maybe that would be OK, too."
Now I was beginning to understand something new about my husband. I took the hand he had on my hip, and moved it to my crotch, then grabbed his cock - it was erect, now.
"Barbara, you're getting all warm!"
"Tom, you're getting all stiff."
We put the stiffness and warmness together, and made love. That's not quite true. We fucked.
And talked, too, during the less active moments.
"Let me be sure I understand. You get turned on when you think about guys trying to pick me up."
He responded both physically and verbally: "Yeah."
"Well, I've heard of men like you. You're some kind of voyeur."
"Yeah, maybe."
"Tom, I've been married to you all of my life. I don't think guys are interested in picking up married women. I guess it is kind of nice having someone pay that kind of attention to me, it's sort of flattering - not that I don't want to be married, or anything."
"Uh, you like that?"
"Maybe. It would be kind of nice if a guy tried to date me, or even try to pick me when we're out like that. It sure doesn't happen at Babson, or when we're out together."
His movements became more urgent.
"Uh, would you like to go out to see if something like that would happen on purpose, instead of accidentally, like when you're waiting for me, like last time?"
His body was telling me it's something he was interested in, that's for sure. He was offering me a license to flirt! No, he was encouraging me to. I thought that would be a different role for me, a change from the professional one at work, or the married one with Tom. Why not?
I replied, "Sure, so long as we wind up here."