Wife Moving Closer to Relationship With Past Boyfriend

[Lil Cuck]

I don't post very often, but felt compelled to tell my story here. This is all quite true. I am not one for writing every descriptive detail of every person and thing. Sorry. But what is hapening is all quite exciting to me, my wife, her "boyfriend", and hopefully you will find it interesting to.

My wife and I have been married 7 years but we have been together since 1992. We started swinging in 1997. The swinging scene started to erupt in our town (no pun intended) right around the time my wife had turned 21. She wanted to go to a bar for her 21st bday and she suggested we check out the popular swingers bar in town. We went and met some great people and she fell in love with the swinging scene. Through our 20's we were quite involved in the scene. We went to weekly parties and meeting people on the net. My wife was meeting up at least once a week. I was having my fun too as a swinger, but we eventually became tired of meeting people for casual sex. My wife was becoming bored with meeting different guys all the time and wanted something a little more steady.

She got online and met a guy. They dated for about a year. I was starting my path toward becoming a cuck at this point although I had never heard the term and thought our situation was quite unique. She would go to visit him often, but wanted to spend more time at home. So she introduced us and he started coming to our place more and more. I was more than happy to watch them sitting on the couch together and even more excited when they headed down the hall to the bedroom. I had offered up my place in the bed and spent those nights in the guestroom listening to moans. Quite exciting. I found I was more turned on by listening than actually watching. The imagination is amazingly powerful thing. I guess I was more into it than the other guy was because he finally said he wanted a normal relationship and he moved on.

My wife took some time to recover from that. She was more intent on finding 1 guy to join her than finding several different guys. After some time off from the scene wejumped back on AFF looking for someone new. We quickly found this guy who lived 2 hours away. He wasn't a stunningly handsome man, but he was nice looking and very well endowed. He drove up to where we live that weekend and rented a room for the weekend. She went to meet him not expecting much more than a night or maybe weekend of sex with him. However, as she explains it, there were immediate sparks. They were instantly attracted to each other. She spent the whole weekend with him. They let me watch by cam from time to time and he also made a video of the weekend for me.

I still had not heard of a cuckold and neither had he. My wife and I had decided earlier that she was much more comfortable meeting guys 1 on 1. I agreed. No one seemed to really be themselves with "the husband" around.

When she came back from the weekend I was upset because I had suddenly felt threatened by this guy. I had never felt that way before in our relationship. I got pissed off and forbid her to see him. She didn't care and went to see him when he came up for another weekend the following week.

I swore we were done. We fought a lot and actually had to sit down and re-evaluate our relationship again. We began to work on us again when he suddenly showed up at her work unexpectedly. I just happened to be their when he showed up and I chased him away. Telling him to never come back.

It was about a year later when our swinging life had all but died when I discovered what a cuckold was. When I read about it on Wikipedia I suddenly felt relieved. I likened it to when a gay person comes out of the closet. I finally knew what I was and that there were other people out there like me.

 

[Lil Cuck]

Over the next couple years they loosely kept in touch. Meeting from time to time for a night or maybe a weekend, but not much more. I was to find out later he didn't want to be the reason for splitting us up. I felt a little better. I also encouraged my wife a little more to contact him.

Well in the interim he moved in with another girl because he thought that my wife would never be available for anything more than a weekend meeting.

Over time we became more and more invoved in cuckolding, but we were back to meetig people for 1 nighters. And once again we grew tired of it. We seem to keep being drawn back to this person.

By the way we will call my wife Jill and her "boyfriend" Jack.

Jack continued to keep his distance. Coming to town only now and then for a quick night or at best 2 days. Jack and Jill would text each other from time to time and meet when there was time, but not much more. Jill would always be on cloud 9 when Jack was coming to town, but would fall hard from that cloud when he left. I was beginning to ease up on the 2 of them also.I loved to see her excited and hated it when she was sad he wasn't around.

Now everyone has their own views on what a cuckold relationship is. Some like to think it is all about the breeding, some think it is about meeting black men, some think it is about castration even. I don't fault anyone for the way they want to approach the relationship. Whatever works for you is great. So please don't judge me for what I am about to tell you. For us we began to fantasize about her finding a man and eventually we would divorce so they could be together, but I could be a room mate and family friend. This would also allow me to be cucked in a different way. I would be able to see them together in a different manner. Anytime we fantasized about this Jack always seemed to be the man that it all came back to.

 

[Lil Cuck]

I began to feel better and better about everything. I can't tell you why, but I was feeling more at ease with them being together. It is partly because it turns me on, but it is also because I love to see Jill so happy. By me accepting them being together more and more; it was the greatest gift I ever could give her.

I tried on a couple occasions to contact Jack without Jill's knowledge. I just wanted to open the lines of communication and see if he might be open to the things that my wife and I had fantasized about. Jill was always afraid that I would scare Jack off (no pun intended ) and she wanted me to leave it up to her. So that's what I did for some time. Things actually went very well. The mood in our house improved and I felt much better and secure when I stopped fighting it.

My wife and I are best friends, but we have grown more into friends than lovers. She has told me that and I must say that I agree. She tells me she doesn't know what she would do without me and if something were to actually happen then she would still want me around. She would tell me that is why she likes the fantasy; because she could have the best of both worlds. She could have a relationship and still keep her best friend. She wouldn't be ****** to choose between 1 or the other.

We don't have sex often, but when we do; this fantasy is the one that fuels us.

 

[Lil Cuck]

Well fast forward to present time. Jill and I talked more and more about finally bringing the fantasy to reality. She told me that if he didn't go for the idea of me being a room mate then she would not pursue it any further and we would stay married and just count Jack out.

I told Jill i would attempt to contact Jack and let him know that I had become more at ease with everything and wanted to smooth things out. I told her I was going to try to bring them together by Valentine's day. I emailed Jack a few times, but he never responded to me. I let it go at that point. I didn't want to seem like a stalker or something. Jack and Jill continued to text each other, but not much more than that and they wern't very exciting texts. Just a "hope you have a nice day" or something like that.

This week I decided I would try again to contact him. This time without Jill's knowledge. I sent him a text and had a very brief conversation where he told me he wasn't sure what my motives were. He was still apprehensive. I then sent him an email.

In the email I apoligized for the past and wanted to start anew. I told him that I would like to chat with him about some of the things that Jill and I had talked about involving him.

I finally got to chat with him the next day. It was a brief chat, but very productive. I layed out the basics of what we had talked about. I told him that I wanted to forget about the past, and if they truly wanted to be together I would not interfere, but I did not want to be left out either. I also told him that if things progressed enough I would do the divorce as long as I could be a room mate and friend to both. I was surprised to see how into this idea he was. He was very receptive to the whole idea and told me he just didn't want to be the reason for Jill and I splitting up.

Jack and I discussed the ideas of them dating and if things progress how he would like to move up here and would be fine with me being a room mate. He told me he knew where I was coming from by being turned on by hearing what would go on behind closed doors. He still doesn't fully understand the whole cuckold thing, but he said that if it progressed to that point, and if I wanted, then he would even try to help me meet a new woman. Then the discussion progressed into how if I was ok with it that he would like to have a 3way with the new woman and Jill from time to time. I thought "wow, this guy is cuck me on top of cucking me."

So all seems to be falling into place at this point. He is interacting with me and texting Jill more and they are trying to work out a time they can meet again.

 

[Lil Cuck]

So after our conversation I sent Jack a more detailed email spelling out everything that I would want out of this relationship and what my feelings are about everything.

I chatted with him very briefly today because we were both at work, but he said he had received the email and it sounded good to him. I''ll let you know more when I am able to chat with him again.

Jill is excited at the recent influx of attention that Jack is giving her. She is all for it.

She has also said that she is very open to swinging with him. She is not looking to do the whole cuck thing with him and I don't thnk he would go for that, but he is a swinger and we are swingers and she said that as time goes on she is actually forward to experiencing those things with him. As for me; I will head off to my room to hear the moans of 2 couples enjoying each other.

So far, Jack seems to be getting what he wants, Jill is getting what she wants, and I am getting what I want.

When there is more news to tell I will post again.

Questions are welcome as well as positive discussion, but if you are just gonna bash me or tell me how this is not a real cuck relationship; then please just move on.

Talk to you guys soon.

 

[tenderloin]

Hey Lil Cuck, this is a great post, thank you!! I really enjoyed reading your story and I can totally relate to a lot of the things you talked about. I almost wish my life & wife could follow the same path as yours!

I especially like the idea of your wife deciding to reside with him, then after you find another woman for yourself, Jack wants that pussy for himself too! That's great, I love it

Anyway, great post, well done, and please keep us updated as new events unfold!! I'm subscribing to this thread

Oh, question for you ... you said you and Jill twice became tired/bored with one-time encounters with multiple men (strangers from bars, internet, whatever). Why in particular did both of you become tired with the series of "one night stands" or whatever? Too much hassle and trouble?? Thanks.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Lil Cuck,

Thanks for your well-written and generally-fascinating post. I must say, though, giving up your wife in order to satisfy your fantasy seems somewhat extreme.*

An alternative you and your wife might consider would be for her to change her last name back to her maiden name, and you to change your last name to her maiden name, and also agree that any children your wife bears will have her last name — while also agreeing you will serve as their dad (so to speak), regardless of whether you are or are not their father.

This would enable your wife to take Jack as her long-term lover — as she has already, to a large extent — thereby attaining, for practical purposes, a polyamorous marriage in which she would have two husbands but in which she would be the head of her household. Given an agreement that her children would have her last name, possible conflicts over whether they were sired by you, by Jack, or by some other lover would disappear.... because her children would unambiguously be hers, regardless of whom they were sired by.

A benefit of such an agreement would be that you would not lose your wife and incur the attendant economic losses (divorce is a major destroyer of wealth), while Jack could have the woman he loves (your wife) without making a lifetime commitment. In addition, if in the future your wife should decide her need for emotional and sexual variety requires an additional long-term lover, she could take one — while continuing her relationship with Jack, if she wants that (and, of course, with you as her husband). Alternatively, if your wife and Jack decide their relationship has grown stale at some point, they could separate with minimal complexity, regardless of whether your wife does or does not wish to take a new long-term lover at that point.

Just a thought....

Custer

*This is not intended as a "negative comment," so I hope you won't interpret it as such.

 

[steev]

First, 2 comments:

To Lil Cuck--a great thread! Thanks for posting and I hope you keep it going and let us know what happens.

To custer--some vert good points, I hope Lil Cuck considers them. The idea of changing his name and being part of a polyamorous relationship--something I find intriguing.

I am not as skillful a writer as you guys both are, but I would like to share that I was in a similar situation some years ago. A friend of mine, Becky, and I had been dating. She told me that she liked me alot but that I was not the type that really turned her on sexually (I am somewhat "meek"). She just wanted to be friends. Not long after that some circumstances changed for both of us and she invited me to rent a room from her in her condo, so we could both save money. We stayed very good friends and even, perhaps only half-seriously, discussed getting married.

She dated guys reguarly, often bringing them home for sex, which I could hear through the walls. And she discussed many of her sexual excapades with me, in the way that she might with a girlfriend. One day she had 2 different guys over at sepaerate times. In many ways, I felt like a cuck with her. AFter a few years, circumstances again changed and we went our seperate ways and she is now married.

 

[AngleBaby]

I wouldn't exactly call this a cuckold relationship. You two used to have a great time, but aren't so much husband and wife anymore, but more friends. You both decided to divorce, but remain best friends. You wont have any regrets from being married to her, but it is best for both of you to divorce and find others. Congratulations, you are a matured and well adjusted man of the ages that has actualized himself without years of psychological help. Really fucking impressive.
As for the remainder of your fantasy, you might be a voyeur instead of a cuckold. Look it up and consider it. Thanks for the post though. It is enlightening on some levels.

 

[Lil Cuck]

Thank you to everyone for your comments. There is nothing new to report at this point, but I did get a chance to text him today and nail down some time to seriously chat with him about everything. I will post more after that happens. Our first chat went really well and cleared the air between us. When I mentioned that I would be willing to not fight over a divorce if my wishes would be respected to; there was a very positive response from him. He even stated that even if I was involved he would be very happy to know that we wern't married and would be open to a relationship with Jill. He always kind of kept his distance because he said he didn't want to be the reason for breaking us up. I can respect that.

To answer your questions:
Grinch - I'm relaxed. No problems here. I have just seen several people post their fantasies on this forum and then be told by several people how it is not really cucking or whatever. I don't mind constructive criticism like Custer provided, but it's the flat out negative comments that bother me.

Tnederloin - we became tired of 1 niters because it was a time consuming process of going through all the guys online to line up person then you find out that person is cheating, or a psycho or whatever. Just got tired of it. Thanks for your comments. I was surprised also when he offered to help me find a woman for me. What he said was that he would like to help me find a woman, because he and Jill had discussed inviting another woman to join them and he thought it would be convenient to have another woman around like a poly household. I ust say it turned me on too.

Custer - Thanks for your ideas. First thing is that my wife can no longer have kids. So breeding or having more children is not an option. As for taking her name; I would like to maintain some sort of discretion, by changing my name I would have to open up to alot of people that I don't want to open up to. Iappreciate your considerate comments about divorce and financial ruin. I'm pretty much broke at this point after losing my job and starting over. She actually makes more than me now. She is very excited at the possibilities of the future; as are Jack and I. I know I'm taking a huge risk with this, but I think we have all passed a point where we want to take this from fantasy to reality. If it backfires on me I will live with consequences and move on having learned my lesson. She is very loyal and if I said I didn't want her to be with anyone but me she would prob just agree and stop swinging. However, I know she wouldn't be happy with that. I do not satisfy her and that is not fantasy talk. That is reality. So I know I wouldn't want to go on if I never was satisfied. Know what I mean. This guy satisfies her on a sexual level as well as an emotional level.

Steev - Thanks for your post. Jack and I discussed a similar situation that he was in where he had a female room mate and knew how hot it was when she would bring guys home and he would hear what was going on. So he understood my attraction to that part of the situation. I love listening much more than watching.

Angle - I'm not quite sure how to respond to your post as I am not sure if it was positive or just mean-spirited sarcasm.

 

[AngleBaby]

It was positive. You are able to let go in a way most people cannot.

 

[Lil Cuck]

Oh ok. Well then thank you for your comment. I understand that this may start to fall in the voyeur category more than the cuck category especially since she wont be my wife any longer. However, I will still feel the humiliation I crave by them being together, and it may stray back into the cuck category if I have a new woman in my life and he begins to have a sexual relationship with her also.

I have learned over time that a woman wants what a woman wants, and I could fight it all I like but it won't make it any easier.

 

[Lil Cuck]

Not muh news to report yet. Jill texted with Jack today and showed me their conversation. It wasn't much of a sexual chat; more of a miss you we need to get together soon kind of chat.

I asked her today if she would be interested in a poly relationship with me and him. She said while the idea intrigued her, it really wasn't what she was looking for. She said she would feel guilty for showing him more attention than me. Even though I assured her it was ok she still said she would feel bad. She said she wouldn't feel so bad if we were just friends.
That's the latest. I'll let you know more when I do.

 

[Lil Cuck]

I had a long talk with Jill last night. We discussed what we both wanted out of this relationship. She is very intent on being with Jack. She said we have passed the point of no return and to turn back now would only fuck with everyone's emotions. I agree and I would not want to lead people down this road just to change my mind at the end.

Jill assured me that she doesn't want me out of her life. She wants me right there with her as a good friend. She doesn't know that I have contacted Jack and so she is not positive in her mind that he will be open to all of this. However, with my discussions with him, he seems very open to it. It is just going to take time to work into everything.

That's the only update I have so far. I am supposed to talk to Jack on Mon or Tue and I am sure I will have much more interesting things to post after that.

 

[steev]

I asked her today if she would be interested in a poly relationship with me and him. ... She said she would feel guilty for showing him more attention than me.

Lil cuck--the above quote intrigued me--how did you feel when she said that? It seems she's really into him.

How do you think it will go when they are married and you are just a friend? When he is the "man of the house?" Do you think he will make up rules for you to follow? I don't know about any of the 3 of your personalities, are you or your wife submissive at all?

Please keep us informed of what happens!

 

[Lil Cuck]

Hey Steev,

You know I kind of expected that answer. So I can't say it really made me feel anything. It did make me realize that she is way into being with him; maybe more than I had planned.

As for when they finally marry; I'm sure that he will have some rules of thehouse, but not so much in a domination role. Jill and I really arn't sub, but kind of passive; if that makes sense.

I know that Jill has some plans. Most of them vanilla. We talked about her and Jak swinging. She told me that she would text me to make sure I'm in my room so I won't bother them or their friends or make their friends feel uncomfortable by having someone else around. That's not exactly what I was hoping for, but she was quite adamant about it.
When I know more I'll tell u guys more.

 

[AngleBaby]

I do not see a happy ending here.

 

[mywife/herlover]

Lil cuck...this is very interesting..Now dont take this the wrong way but imo I think you have lost her to him,and your just trying to hang on to your wife as long as possible.If they get married you will be pushed out even more.It sounds as though your wife dosnt want to hurt you,but her mind is made up and she wants to be with her new man..I might be wrong..I think he will eventually stop her having any contact with you.The idea that you can still be her cuck when she has moved on with her new husband is great if thats what you want..Hope it works out for you.

 

[steev]

We talked about her and Jak swinging. She told me that she would text me to make sure I'm in my room so I won't bother them or their friends or make their friends feel uncomfortable by having someone else around. That's not exactly what I was hoping for, but she was quite adamant about it.

That would be pretty wild, to be in your room like that.

Have you considered how the property will be divided up? What about the house?

 

[Lil Cuck]

We don't own a house. we only have 1 car that I will keep because he is quite well to do.