This is hard to write. I have fantasized about my wife having sex with another man for a long time. She knows about my fantasy, but was absolutely against it. She is very pretty, slim, small breasts and 45 years old. About a year ago she weighed more, but was not fat by any means. Then she started to lose weight, bought all new clothes etc. We have not had sex in 15 years and she has had no interest in anything sexual.
I have had a strong feeling that she was seeing someone else and confronted her. She denied it, strongly and told me how much she loved me, would never leave me, and she was mine forever. Very convincing.
Again I began to get the feeling..... and checked out her computer. She had a site called confessionizer. I looked at her history, and she had visited two specific confessions approximately 14 times each in the last 3 weeks. The first was "I had sex with him". The second was "I love him so but he cant satisfy me in bed so I am getting it somewhere else and I just hope he never finds out".
I also found where she had searched for "personals", but no indication joining a dating site. I confronted her and begged for her to come clean. She got very mad and indicated that she loved me, she was not a *****, did not lie, and wanted this to stop.
I wrote her a letter saying we could come to an arrangement and I would accept it. She got very mad and told me she was NOT having an affair.
I bought a UV lamp to check her clothes, and it was not conclusive. Lots of indication, but it was also on my clothes, so it would be things.
I bought a digital recorder and hid it in her car. On her way home today, she drove for about 5 minutes then stopped.
I heard her door open, a zipper open, a moan, and what appeared to be another man type moan. I heard what appeared to be sucking, but not real sure. Lots of other non-identified noises. No voices. Then her door shut and the car started. Since i have the recorder on sound activation, she could have gone somewhere and the recording would not show it.
She made it real clear that the accusations are to stop. That she is NOT seeing anyone.
What should I do next???? How can I find conclusive proof? Please respond soon.
I have had a strong feeling that she was seeing someone else and confronted her. She denied it, strongly and told me how much she loved me, would never leave me, and she was mine forever. Very convincing.
Again I began to get the feeling..... and checked out her computer. She had a site called confessionizer. I looked at her history, and she had visited two specific confessions approximately 14 times each in the last 3 weeks. The first was "I had sex with him". The second was "I love him so but he cant satisfy me in bed so I am getting it somewhere else and I just hope he never finds out".
I also found where she had searched for "personals", but no indication joining a dating site. I confronted her and begged for her to come clean. She got very mad and indicated that she loved me, she was not a *****, did not lie, and wanted this to stop.
I wrote her a letter saying we could come to an arrangement and I would accept it. She got very mad and told me she was NOT having an affair.
I bought a UV lamp to check her clothes, and it was not conclusive. Lots of indication, but it was also on my clothes, so it would be things.
I bought a digital recorder and hid it in her car. On her way home today, she drove for about 5 minutes then stopped.
I heard her door open, a zipper open, a moan, and what appeared to be another man type moan. I heard what appeared to be sucking, but not real sure. Lots of other non-identified noises. No voices. Then her door shut and the car started. Since i have the recorder on sound activation, she could have gone somewhere and the recording would not show it.
She made it real clear that the accusations are to stop. That she is NOT seeing anyone.
What should I do next???? How can I find conclusive proof? Please respond soon.