CrystalClear88 said:
Hi, my name is Crystal, and my boyfriend recently revealed to me his most desired fantasy. He wants to see me with a black man. Now.. this is all I hear about. Just when I think he is going to let it go.. he brings it up again.
I am fairly open-minded, sexually, but I have to admit... I just don't get this. Why does he want this so bad? I love him, and want him to be satisfied with our sex life. But, I just don't know how to feel about this. I don't want to do anything to compromise our relationship. I feel really confused about this subject. Sex is an important part of a good relationship (to me). But, it needs to be good for both of us.
Does anyone have some feedback for me?
Warm regards,
CK
Hi, Crystal...
You put forth a very good question, and I want to weigh in with an opinion. This is an adult Interracial Relationships site, and the characters here run the gamut, from (so-called) studs, to cuckolds. They profess to be about just about anything you can imagine. One earlier respondant was right--the answers to your questions will tend to be skewed. I'll try to be direct about what I've observed.
Many white males come to this site to verbalize their discreet desires to see their 'significant others' (girl friends or wives) sexually coupled, used, taken, even ***** by black males. Why? You'll have to ask them that. My thought is that, UNLESS the male has discussed his fantasy in a direct and meaningful way WITH HIS FEMALE PARTNER, it's premature, immature, and DISRESPECTFUL TO HER to discuss it publicly behind her back.
For many, though, it's a fantasy--one which they WILL NEVER act on (they don't have the fortitude to actually discuss it with their SO's), so they get their kicks by endulging that fantasy in chat rooms such as this.
In your case, your boyfriend has disclosed his desire to see you with a black male, and I'd suggest you be very clear within yourself about what he is asking. What are the impacts to your relationship, should you agree to do this for him (I don't interpret any actual desire on YOUR part to do this)? You also have to question his respect for you as a person, as a woman, and as his girl friend, since he's saying he wants to 'loan you out.'
To other readers--don't get me wrong. I've shared my submissives with other males, and other females, also. I'm a Dominant male, and each time I've done this, it was with the ENTHUSIASTIC compliance of my submissive. And, I was present, participated fully, as her protector, lover, and shared in the acts, as part of HER fantasies. In my experiences, it was done to help fulfill HER OWN fantasies. I just don't condone a male USING his SO to do something this intimately personal, SOLELY for his own hedonistic pruposes.
Again, great question perfectly phrased, Crystal. I hope you find the correct answer for you, one that lets you go forward with your self-respect intact.
