What Do I Do Now!

[BruceCuck]

This is a totally real post, and I am hoping that I can get some input. First off my wife and I are both in our early to mid 40s. We are both in shape and are attractive. She is very cute, short, blonde, blue eyes and really very perky and fun. Since we met she has always had a stong appetite for sex and has often told me that she wished she were more adventurous sexually when she was younger.

Over the past few years she and I have been sharing our fantasies with each other during sex. Funny thing is that we really get into roleplaying and fantasy sharing during sex, but after we would both be too shy to even mention it, other than to laugh about how horny we both were the previous night.

Our roleplay has evloved over the years to the point where we rarely if ever just have "straight sex". Our sex life is now consummed with our fantasy. The fantasy, as I am sure you can guess, is for her to be with a dominant, well hung (although i am harly small) lover while I watch. During sex we share fantasies about how it will happen, what her dom lover would do with her etc.

During sex, she is very verbal with her fantasy and no longer hesitates to tell me how she will masterbate thinking about being "used" by a dominant lover for sex. She will dress sexy for me including wearing high heels, and all sort of lingerie. She is not an exhibitionist and does not wear overly revealing clothing during the day. In fact she is sort of your typical soccer mom, except for her sexual appetitie and eagerness to share her fantasies with me.

During sex my wife will tell me very clearly how she loves cock and wants to be fucked and used by a dominant guy while I watch. Sometimes I have to admit, that as turned on as I am during our sex sessions I sometimes do get the sense that she really wants this but somehow feels that she would hurt me if we really made it a reality. She has used the word "betrayal" and has told me she could not do that to me. Of course I tell her how turned on I am and that if i am there participating it would be something we do thogther. Of course this is all during sex so there is a "charge" in the bedroom. In spite of all the talk about betrayal, we continue to both be very engrossed in the fantasy sharing and roleplay.

Anyway, recently I met a guy in a chat room who appears to share many of the same kinks as we do. He suggested that rather than try to get her to spread initially, that it would be better to get her to start chatting on line so that she can get the excitment of being ******* to another male without the physical line being crossed. I liked the idea, so last weekend I arranged with him to be online at a certain time. Of course I did not mention it to my wife in advance and after we were in bed and involved in our fantasy I told her about him. She seemed very scared and basically said the kids were in the house, she made a few other excuses whay she couldnt, but her pussy was insanly wet. I think we were both a bit scared knowing that even though there would be nothing physical, there would be another male chatting with her about sex. And.... we would all know that his goal would ultimately be to take her.

Now the interesting part. I was sort of taken by surprise yesterday, because out of the blue my wife mentioned the whole "chat thing". I was on the computer and she came over to me in the ealy afternoon and told me that if I wanted her to chat I should just get the guy online at a time when we were alone in the house. She was laughing and a bit nervous while she said this, but she explained that she tought it would be easier that way since she would not be nervous and have an expectation. I could tell that she is nervous, but I think the fact that she said that to me with out any prodding on my part means that she is interested. Later that night she literally attacked me in bed and then started to ask what she should wear when we chatted, etc. It was a pretty good "session" for us that night.

So, anyway, i am wondering if I am out of my mind to believe that this is now heading in a direction where she will really begin chatting (which I think will be very erotic). Di I take the chance and actually get the guy online (Friday eve we will have the house to ourselves). Or... is she continuing with the roleplay and not really wanting the chat but just saying it inorder to create the setting for some hot sex. I am slo kinda curious to see if anyone on the forum has had their wife chat before and if it was hot ad where it has led. To be totally honest, the idea of her spreading for another male does turn me on, and we have been playing with the idea for a long time. I do get a bit scared of what the reality might be like as does she. I guess for me I wonder if the reality will be as good as the fantasy.

 

[Miss D]

Bruce, you have nothing to lose by starting the chat session - it is anonymous, after all. NO different from the verbal foreplay you already engage in. And I think it is a good way to test the waters.

It is possible that she is very into doing this but worries about your reaction. I'm guessing that since this subject has become the fuel for hot sex that she is at the very least, interested. If she wasn't, the talk would have ended long ago.

Let her take the lead. Set up the chat and just let her take over from there. You'll soon have answers to all your questions.

 

[loveslife2005@yahoo.com]

Very hot. I'd set up the chat as she suggested. To not do so is to smack down her feelings. She's feeling excited, worried, turned-on, and you should be very supportive and loving. Let her chat. Soon, maybe she'll exchange pics. Maybe she'll want to chat with others, as well, but maybe just him. Follow her lead and include it in your fantasy talk (where she finds her dominent lover, chats, and lets him come over and take her).

Good luck. If I were you, I'd love it that she's thinking of other men and wanting to chat. Soooo hot.

 

[Custer Laststand]

It's time to move forward.... your wife is hot; go for it!

BruceCuck,

Thanks for your interesting post.

My wife and I are both in our early to mid 40s. We are both in shape and are attractive. She is very cute, short, blonde, blue eyes and really very perky and fun. Since we met she has always had a stong appetite for sex and has often told me that she wished she were more adventurous sexually when she was younger.

Congratulations for persuading such a desirable woman become your wife, and for keeping yourselves "in shape" over the years. She appears to have a high sex drive, and sounds very promising. In your early- to mid-40's, you and your wife are still relatively young — it's a good time for her to expand her sexual horizons, and for you to support her in that.

Over the past few years she and I have been sharing our fantasies with each other during sex. Funny thing is that we really get into roleplaying and fantasy sharing during sex, but after we would both be too shy to even mention it, other than to laugh about how horny we both were the previous night.

It's positive that your wife feels sufficiently comfortable with her sexuality to talk with you about "hot fantasies" in bed. If she (and you) are shy about it afterwards, don't worry about it. Having a high sex drive does not also imply having an outgoing personality.

Our roleplay has evloved over the years to the point where we rarely if ever just have "straight sex". Our sex life is now consummed with our fantasy. The fantasy, as I am sure you can guess, is for her to be with a dominant, well hung (although i am hardly small) lover while I watch. During sex we share fantasies about how it will happen, what her dom lover would do with her, etc.

Cool.... this too is very positive.

During sex, she is very verbal with her fantasy and no longer hesitates to tell me how she will masterbate thinking about being "used" by a dominant lover for sex. She will dress sexy for me including wearing high heels, and all sort of lingerie.

Excellent.... not hesitating to talk about her sexual fantasies, in addition to thinking about and masturbating to them, and actually *telling* you she is so turned on she is masturbating to her fantasies, means your wife — in a real sense — is "on her way."

She is not an exhibitionist and does not wear overly revealing clothing during the day. In fact she is sort of your typical soccer mom, except for her sexual appetitie and eagerness to share her fantasies with me.

Hm.... maybe this is something you could work on. Perhaps, for instance, you could make it part of your fantasy sex to take your wife out for a Sat. or Sun. drive, with her provocatively dressed (but she stays in the car, so she feels deliciously turned on without actually becoming embarrassed in public). Then, expand this a bit by persuading her to get out of the car from time-to-time in suitable places while "dressed hot," including some places where there are other men who would look at her (but not anywhere she would be recognized). Then, persuade her to accompany you to a bar for an evening drink while provocatively dressed.... then, finally, to a bar where the two of you could dance, so other men could (and would) look at her in her hot clothing.

During sex my wife will tell me very clearly how she loves cock and wants to be fucked and used by a dominant guy while I watch. Sometimes I have to admit, that as turned on as I am during our sex sessions I sometimes do get the sense that she really wants this but somehow feels that she would hurt me if we really made it a reality. She has used the word "betrayal" and has told me she could not do that to me. Of course I tell her how turned on I am and that if i am there participating it would be something we do together. Of course this is all during sex so there is a "charge" in the bedroom. In spite of all the talk about betrayal, we continue to both be very engrossed in the fantasy sharing and role play.

It's logical your wife would feel anxious, hesitant and guilty over the idea of "betraying you" and (in her mind) her marriage vows. It sounds like you're handling this well, however. If you continue emphasizing that your desire and concern is entirely for her to be as sexually-satisfied as possible, and your erotic interest in this is *not* an excuse to pursue other women yourself — rather, you're convinced her increased sexual satisfaction will strengthen your marriage — you'll be on the right track.

Anyway, recently I met a guy in a chat room who appears to share many of our "kinks."

Actually, he may not be "kinky" at all. I mean, what guy wouldn't want to pursue an opportunity to seduce a good-looking & sexually-hot married woman?

He suggested rather than try to get her to spread initially, it would be better to get her to start chatting on line so she can get the excitment of being ******* to another man without any physical lines being crossed. I liked the idea....

So do I.... it sounds good.

After we were in bed and involved in our fantasy I told my wife about him. She seemed very scared and basically said the kids were in the house, she made a few other excuses whay she couldn't, but her pussy was insanly wet.

And you knew her pussy wasn't lying....

We would all know his goal would be to take her.

It's a scary thought, isn't it?

I was sort of taken by surprise yesterday; out of the blue my wife mentioned the whole "chat thing." I was on the computer and she came over to me in the ealy afternoon and told me that if I wanted her to chat I should just get the guy online at a time when we were alone in the house.

Ah.... so your wife's pussy was *not* lying. Also, it seems like a step forward for her to have brought this up with you during "normal daylight hours," not when you were in bed role-playing with your fantasy.

I think the fact that she said that to me without any prodding on my part means she is interested.

I'd say you have it right.

Later that night she literally attacked me in bed and then started to ask what she should wear when we chatted, etc. It was a pretty good "session" for us that night.

Good.... that's clear evidence your wife is strongly turned on by the possibility of taking a lover.

So anyway, I'm wondering if I'm out of my mind to believe this is now heading in a direction where my wife will really begin chatting (which I think will be very erotic).

Yup. She wants to do it.

Do I take the chance and actually get the guy online (Friday eve we will have the house to ourselves). Or... is she continuing with the roleplay and not really wanting to chat, but is just saying this in order to create the setting for some hot sex.

Nope, this is for real. Your wife wants to "chat" online with a strange man about sex. The prospect has her wet between her legs.

To be totally honest, the idea of her spreading for another man does turn me on, and we have been playing with the idea for a long time.

That's good; it sounds like you're a progressive husband. It also sounds like you're getting there. There seems little doubt your wife wants to take lovers.

I do get a bit scared of what the reality might be like, as does she. I guess for me I wonder if the reality will be as good as the fantasy.

To find out, you and your budding hot-wife will have to try it. Please let us know how her first "sexual chat" turns out.

Best regards to you and your sexy wife—

Custer

 

[BruceCuck]

Getting Closer

Well... as much as I was hoping that my wife would do the "chat thing" a few weeks ago, I just could not seem to find the right time to make it happen. There were a few times where she has said that she "could never do this for real" and that some things are best kept a fantasy. But no matter how much I think about this, I do truly somewhere inside me believe that she would like me to make this happen for her. Like I said in my last post, she loves to ropleplay and fantasize when we have sex. She will talk about masterbating and thinking about the "possibilities" and the last time we had sexy she told me that she thinks about cocks and especially about large ones.

So anyhow, i guess my question again is this, do I just risk it, go into a chat room or find someone on yahoo and just invite her into the room and see how she reacts.

There was a part of me that was hoping that we could srt of plan it out, that she would wear something sexy when we did it.

Like I have said, she and I have been fantasizing about her being with a lover for a couple / few years at this point. She always likes to "play" with the idea of her being a slut for a dominant male while I watch she has even mentioned videos too (which leads me to believe she has searched this on the internet).

Well idea and suggestions are welcome! let me know your thoughts. I know she and I would love a real experience, especially her, and I would love to give her that gift. Even if it were a one time thing.

 

[AngleBaby]

You should read some posts like 'The real story I have to tell' by Devue and see how things can end.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Sounds like you have "the jitters." Here's a way you may be able to move forward....

Brucecuck,

Well... as much as I was hoping that my wife would do the "chat thing" a few weeks ago, I just could not seem to find the right time to make it happen.

"Not being able to find time to make it happen" suggests you have reservations about moving forward; it's giving you a case of the jitters.

There were a few times where she has said that she "could never do this for real" and that some things are best kept a fantasy.

Yes, yes.... of course. Your wife has to keep up appearances, ya' know....

But no matter how much I think about this, I do truly somewhere inside me believe that she would like me to make this happen for her. Like I said in my last post, she loves to role-play and fantasize when we have sex. She will talk about masterbating and thinking about the "possibilities" and the last time we had sex she told me she thinks about cocks and especially about large ones.

I think you have it right. Your wife sounds like a woman with a high sex drive, who came to a realization of that relatively late in her life — and she does, indeed, regret not having "sowed more wild oates" when she was young. But mid-40's is, in fact, still relatively young (although you and she may not see it that way). Your wife still has many years of hot extramarital sex ahead of her, although she's a late bloomer, and you have many highly-erotic years ahead of you as her cuckold.

So anyhow, i guess my question again is this, do I just risk it, go into a chat room or find someone on yahoo and just invite her into the room and see how she reacts.

I would suggest not starting out immediately with the goal of your wife scoring a lover, but rather start finding chat rooms for her (or encourage her to find them for herself), and encourage her to simply "start chatting" with people she doesn't know.... i.e., with men, with women, with anyone who wants to "chat." That should enable your wife (and you) to become gradually accustomed to the idea and reality of her "chatting" online and her "chats" including other men.

There was a part of me that was hoping that we could srt of plan it out, that she would wear something sexy when we did it.

The more you consider it necessary to "plan it out in advance," the less likely it will be to happen, because it will always seem there are aspects or potential aspects that haven't been "adequately planned." If it will help your wife to wear something sexy while she's "chatting," I would suggest encouraging her to find "chat rooms" shortly before you and she would normally go to bed. Then, she can put on a revealing baby-doll nighty quickly and easily (because, after all, she's going to wear it to bed anyway, right?), rather than taking a lot of time to put on a garter belt and stockings, a short & revealing dress as if going out for a date, etc. etc.

Like I have said, she and I have been fantasizing about her being with a lover for a couple / few years at this point. She always likes to "play" with the idea of her being a slut for a dominant male while I watch. She has even mentioned videos, too (which leads me to believe she has searched this on the internet).

If your wife fantasizes openly and talks out loud with you about the idea of her taking a lover (even if she only does this in bed, and even if she only does it "playfully"), that's a clear indication she wants the freedom to take lovers. You, in turn, have signaled to your wife — by responding in ways that encourage her "fantasies" — that you want her to make you her cuckold. Since she's obviously interested in this, you can assume, I would say, that your wife has been seeking out material on "hotwife / cuckold husband" marriages on the Internet.

Well, ideas and suggestions are welcome! Let me know your thoughts. I know she and I would love a real experience, especially her, and I would love to give her that gift, even if it were a one time thing.

I think you're on the right track. My main suggestion at this point is as outlined above. You might also consider encouraging your wife to expand on her fantasies by going out in public with her from time to time (to malls, shopping for groceries, to movies and other events, etc.) and encouraging her to look for men she feels attracted to — and, whenever she sees one, point him out and whisper in your ear, "I'd like to fuck that guy" or "I'd like to have his shoes under my bed." Openly pointing out men she'd like to fuck and telling you that would, IMO, have the effect of increasing your wife's inclination to view other men as potential lovers and to view you as fully complicit in her sexual desires.

Good luck, and press on—

Custer

 

[BruceCuck]

Hot Night Last Night

Custer - Thanks for the good suggestions. Last night we had a pretty hot "session". She was extremely hot and horny. Several times while we were touching and having sex she asked me if I really found it sexy thinking about her having sex with another male. I told her yes and she said if I really wanted her to she would do it. I asked her a number of times if it turned her on and she said it did but that she was scared, but again... would do it if I was into it and wanted her too.

It seems that she she wants me to take responsibility for making the decision and setting this up. She also suggested that maybe we travel someplace for a weekend and do something while we were away. I like the idea of that... she and I going to a bar and her sort of getting "picked up". The only concern I have is whether if we met someone that way if he will let me watch. Or if he will want my wife alone. I would be ok with her doing it with him by herself, but I think she really wants to include me.

By the way Custer, yes, I do have some doubts and I guess in a way that is why I have not pushed to hard (also want to make sure she is into it - so I dont embarress myself with her). As I amsure a lot of guys here know, its one thing to fantasize and roleplay with your wife or GF, but taking that step and allowing another male to fuck your wife or GF is quite another thing. I guess like my wife I have to make sure that I am ready to accept seeing her penetrated but more importantly "enjoying" another male in a physical way.

 

[Custer Laststand]

BruceCuck,

Custer - Thanks for the good suggestions.

You're welcome.

It seems that [my wife] wants me to take responsibility for making the decision and setting this up. She also suggested that maybe we travel someplace for a weekend and do something while we're away. I like the idea of that... she and I going to a bar and her sort of getting "picked up". The only concern I have is whether if we meet someone that way he will let me watch. Or if he will want my wife alone. I would be ok with her doing it with him by herself, but I think she really wants to include me.

Regarding approaches of this nature, you and your wife may find it helpful to read the initial post by Ms. Beth in this thread:

http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/cuckold-confessions/13772-one-womans-story.html

By the way Custer, yes, I do have some doubts and I guess in a way that is why I have not pushed to hard (also want to make sure she is into it - so I dont embarress myself with her). ....

That's natural. As you know by now, I'm sure, from reading this forum, some couples find their hotwife/cuckold husband marriages are enriched and much more erotic than their previous monogamous marriages, while others find marriages of this nature don't work out well. (The same can be said, of course, of monogamous marriages — some are successful, others aren't.) You and your wife will have to decide when you're ready.... if ever.

—Custer

 

[BruceCuck]

Tough to Say What Will Happen

Custer:

You always seem to have good advice. Not to prolong this but... LOL. My wife and I have had sexy virtually every evening now for about a week. Each time we roleplay and fantasize about our desires to include a dominant male in our sex lives. Like I have said before, she has some interesting and very sexy fantasies of meeting a guy at a hotel and then him taking us to his room.

Anyhow, Like I I have said when we are in bed she readily fesses up to wanting to be seduced by a masculine guy with a large cock. She has been becoming more vocal in bed about her desires and her pussy gets very wet and open during our lovemaking. Last night I changed things up a bit and rather than just fantasize, I actually engaged her in a discussion. While we carressed and fucked I told her that I got really turned on by the fantasy and did want to see her being fucked. She asked questions too, and at one point told me she would do it If I really wanted. She was breathless when she said that. I want her to want this too. I dont want her to just do it for me. My turn on will be to see her lose control with her lover. If she is doing it for me then I fear she will not let loose and truly enjoy herself.

I have also noticed over the past week that unlike in the past, we sometimes engage in some joking around about all of this outside the bedroom. She will tell me how horny she is, or I might tell her to not be surprised if I bring someone home for her. She will laugh it off, as do I.

I think we are teetering on the cusp of doing this. But each of is a bit scared of the others reaction. We live in the NYC area and it would be interesting to find a
local guy who is very dominant, but not into some of the things I read about here. I am not Bi, dont cross dress and have no interest in touching him. Its more about the guy seducing my wife, and me participating to a certain degree in getting her ready for him. Licking her pussy while he watches, etc.

Anyhow, I am curious to ask if people here think that in fact we are moving in the right direction, or whether I might try a different tact.

Thanks!

 

[Custer Laststand]

From your wife's point of view, it sounds like this train has left the station.

BruceCuck,

Regarding some of your comments in your post 8, which I have edited to (mostly) present and future tense:

Several times while we were touching and having sex she asked me if I really find it sexy thinking about her having sex with another male. I told her yes, and she said if I really want her to she will. I asked her a number of times if it turns her on and she said it does, but she is scared — but again, she will do it if I am into it and want her to. It seems she wants me to take responsibility for making the decision and setting this up.

You can interpret this, IMO, as meaning your wife senses the hesitancy you've been expressing in this thread, and will not — perhaps I should say, is unlikely to — move forward on her own because her first priority is to avoid doing anything that would endanger her marriage to you. (You, after-all, are the one she chose to marry rather than holding out for someone else.) This is what she means (again, IMO) when she says "she is scared." So, your interpretation is correct. If you take the initiative and set her up with a suitable candidate-lover, she will be able to feel confident it's "really what you want" because... well... you will have been the one who made it happen. Ergo, if you want your wife to take a lover, I'd say you will need to take the initiative and make it happen.

Like I have said before, she has some interesting and very sexy fantasies of meeting a guy at a hotel and then him taking us to his room.

In other words, your wife is visualizing how she wants it to happen and giving you a road map. That's good. It would be much chancier if you proceeded with "facilitating" her cuckolding of you without having any good idea of how she wants it to happen.

Anyhow, as I have said, when we are in bed she readily fesses up to wanting to be seduced by a masculine guy with a large cock. She has been becoming more vocal in bed about her desires and her pussy gets very wet and open during our lovemaking.

There's no doubt your wife is telling you, more and more specifically, she wants to take a lover. Thinking about it is turning her on intensely.

Last night I changed things up a bit and rather than just fantasize, I actually engaged her in a discussion. While we carressed and fucked I told her that I got really turned on by the fantasy and did want to see her being fucked. She asked questions too, and at one point told me she would do it If I really wanted. She was breathless when she said that.

If I were you, I would start thinking now about how you will bring your wife down from her anticipatory wet-between-the-legs high if you should decide you don't want to go through with this and give her what she wants. I gotta tell ya', I wouldn't want to be in your shoes in that case.

I want her to want this too. I dont want her to just do it for me. My turn on will be to see her lose control with her lover. If she is doing it for me then I fear she will not let loose and truly enjoy herself.

Hey.... don't worry about it.

We live in the NYC area and it would be interesting to find a local guy who is very dominant....

NYC has an adequate population base. The experiences of others here suggest that if you post a suitable ad on AFF or Craig's List, indicating you're looking for a stud more-or-less in your local area, you'd be likely to get several tens of responses (or more).

Anyhow, I am curious to ask if people here think that in fact we are moving in the right direction, or whether I might try a different tact.

It sounds like this train has already left the station, from your wife's point of view. As noted above, I wouldn't want to be in your shoes if you decide to tell her you've "changed your mind" and want her to "be a GoodWife."

—Custer

 

[Saraha]

Once she has been with her first guy, things will fall into place quickly and easily and she will be "on her way", with nothing to hold her back.

She is "role playing" in her mind and in your shared "bed talk", and this is like playing a role as an Actress. PRACTICE FIRST, then it happens because of the confidence gained from rehearsals.

Continue to tell her how much you love her, and that your marriage is SECURE.

 

[BruceCuck]

Sent her a couple of erotic stories

Over the weekend I sent her two erotic stories that I got off of Literotica. Both were about wives who had experienes with other lovers while the husband watched. On Friday night she told me she had read one the stories. When I went to touch her I was amazed. Her pussy was wetter and hotter that I can recal in a long time. Her Pussy was "open" and juices has coated her thighs. She was on fire.

Anyhow, I am going to strat to look for a lover for her. I will take the advice and take the bull by the horns.

 

[Custer Laststand]

BruceCuck,

Over the weekend I sent her two erotic stories from Literotica. Both were about wives who had experienes with other lovers while the husband watched. Friday night she told me she had read one of the stories. When I went to touch her I was amazed. Her pussy was wetter and hotter than I can recall in a long time. Her Pussy was "open" and her juices coated her thighs. She was on fire.

Great! Also, it's interesting that reading a story would turn your wife on so intensively. It sounds like you've discovered a new method for getting her hot.

I gather, incidentally, your wife didn't spend her weekend at home. Was she working at her office, or away on a business trip? If so, is she often away from home on weekends?

Anyhow, I am going to start to look for a lover for her. I will take the advice and take the bull by the horns.

I think that would be a good thing to do at this point. If you take responsibility for this important first step, you'll be able to apply your own judgment (with input from your wife at each step, of course) during the selection process.

A suitable approach might be something along the following lines:

(i) set up an anonymous e-mail address (perhaps you already have one re. this forum);
(ii) run a suitable advert on AFF or Craig's List or this forum;
(iii) make a preliminary short list from the nature of the replies;
(iv) correspond further with your and your wife's seemingly-preferred candidates; ask them to send e-mail photos showing their faces (and other, perhaps different photos showing their erect cocks, if your wife wants that info);
(v) avoid phone calls, probably, because you want to preserve the anonymity of your phone no.(s) and address at this stage;
(vi) select a leading candidate, and arrange to meet him in a public place so you and your wife can spend some time talking with him;
(vii) if he becomes unresponsive during your preliminary e-mail correspondence or fails to show up, drop him and move on to your next candidate;
(viii) when a candidate "passes" your and your wife's face-to-face conversation with him, make arrangements to meet him in a hotel room for sex (condom for him mandatory) (because at this point, it will be best for you and your wife to continue to preserve your anonymity, in terms of address and phone no.). (ix) Etc. Continue with him if it works out well; resume your search if it doesn't.

Try to impress on your wife the need for patience and the need to develop a tolerance for what may seem to her like "failure." Finding a suitable candidate may not be quick and easy.

Sorry about belaboring these "selection details" if all this is obvious. In any case, however you do it, I strongly suggest your leading concern should be to protect your wife and ensure her safety.

Good luck to both of you!

—Custer