I had the talk with my wife a few days ago, sunday evening after the kids were in bed. Not confrontation, conversation. We were sitting out back on the porch swing smoking. I brought up my brother and his wife. I talked about how after her openly cheating on him with a close friend he still stayed with her. I then talked about how upset he was and how down it brought him and that i didn't think it was that big of a deal. She looked at me with a yeah right kinda look. I told her that the main thing he was upset about was the deception, the physical part messed with him too, but she was lying and that is what upset him the most. I then told Lynn (my wife) that if she were to do something like that, i wouldn't be upset with her so long as she told me about it, like how i gave her that same freedom years ago with those women she worked with. She just laughed and said, "you say that now." Well, not to get too much detail, but i reassured her that it was all good with me, women don't go out looking to have an affair and if it happened because she felt like she wanted it or wanted to experiment, i wouldn't hold that against her, so long as she told me about it. She still didn't say much but i could tell she was thinking. Had a look like she wanted to say something but was holding back. We finished our talk and went back inside, nothing more was said that night. The next night we were out talking again after the kids were in bed and this time she brought it up. She asked if i was serrious about all that i said the day before, that she could really have an affair and i'd just be ok with it. I said yes i was serrious. She then said that she doesn't feel the same way, she said if i ever shared my body with another woman, she would be crushed and that she definately wouldn't give me the same understanding. I said that i know and it's ok, i don't want other women, but if she wanted to experience things, she was welcome to. I explained that sex for a man is one thing, and the partner can make a difference but in the end, it's pretty much the same, for a woman, it's not about the act but about the person and if she wanted to experience different things she could and i'd be ok with it. She said that she didn't want anything to break us up and that for the kids alone would be enough reason not to do that. I said that so long as she was open about it and it was only sex, i wouldn't mind and it wouldn't break up the family. Then she dropped the bomb.
She said that she was already having an affair. I know i suspected it, but it felt like someone kicked me in the gut. I tried to prepare myself for it, but hearing her say it was huge. I just let that soak in for a second, didn't say anything. We sat in silence, seemed like five minutes but couldn't have been more than 20 seconds. The silence was deafening though and i knew she was waiting for me to say something. I asked how long it had been going on and she replied with, "are you ok? you sure you want to hear this?" I said i was and she said it has been going on for about 5 months. I asked who it was and how they got together, how all this happened. She said that she wasn't going to tell me anymore that night, the next night we would talk more after the kids were in bed and she would tell me everything, but for that night, just me knowing was enough. She said that if i wanted a divorce, then she would understand that, or if i wanted to stay together, she would understand that too, but she wanted to give me 24 hours to make up my mind.
The next day sucked, couldn't think of anything else. Wasn't like i thought it would be, i wasn't turned on by it. Perhaps because i didn't have any details and she just made it seem so easy to dismiss me. I went through my day though and was busy with the kids all night. She got home just in time to help put them to bed and without saying anything, she went outside and sat on the porch. I followed and she just said, "well?" Nothing was said prior to that, she knew what the conversation would be about, she knew where things were left and she didn't need to say anything. I told her that i didn't want to split up, for the kids sake and for my own. I'm comfortable with my life. She said that was fine, she didn't want to break up the family either, but she wasn't going to stop seeing Mark. I then asked her for the details. I mean, she owed me that, if she was going to do this, all i wanted was the details and to be a part of her sex life. This is her story.
Mark is her supervisor at work. She works for a hospital in this area and he's her boss. Well, he's younger than we are, by about 5 years or so making him in his late twenties. She didn't say if he was a doctor or not, but i don't think so, i think by the way she talks about him now and in the past hes more of an administrator. Doesnt matter though. Anyway, she doesn't work the night shift often, But when she does, she is the only person in the department. They have a room set up where the person working the night shift can catch some sleep if it's slow. She said that they started out as friends and he would come in when she worked the night shift once a month or so. They would talk for hours. Then she started to find him attractive, she said she honestly didn't notice it before but after getting to know him better, she started to get hot around him. He is single, and very flirtatious. She said that his outgoing demeanor and confidence are what drew her to him. She said that the first time they had sex was in the sleeping room at the hospital. She has since been with him at his apartment mostly because they could both get in trouble at the hospital, but they have done it there many times since, but try to keep their personal life on the quiet side. She said that it was Mark that encouraged her to be more assertive with me. I asked how that came up, and she said that they were just having some "pillow talk" and he asked about me. He just seemed currious and wanted to know what her husband was like. She told him a bit about me and he wanted to know how i was in bed. She said that she told him that i'm submissive, have been since i've known her, and even though she loves me, she knows deep down that i'm not the alpha type personality and that she just can't get that out of her head. I was pissed now, i told her things like how i wanted to be taken with a strapon or submit to her and be denied in confidence. Then she tells this guy after they had sex. She could see i was getting upset at this part of the story and just said, "relax honey, it's not like it isn't true. You like strapon sex and me being more controlling, if it wasn't for mark encouraging it, you wouldn't have ever got to experience that so you should really thank him for making some of your fantasies come true" I couldn't argue with the logic, still felt like more a betrayal that she would tell him about my kinks, i hadn't expected that. I asked how it was in bed with him. She said it was incredible, he was as confident a lover as he is a man and takes her. She said he also is well off with his job so has bought her quite a wardrobe of lingerie she keeps at his place. She said that's how the entire friendship turned physical. She complained to him about her body, how she still has some baby weight in places she doesn't like and has scars from the c-section. He told her that when in bed, she should dress sexy, covers the bad parts and makes her feel sexy. She said sure, she would consider that. The next night, he gave her a black baby doll from Victoria Secret and told her that he hoped it would help. They got more flirtations and when he suggested she model it for him, she went ahead and did it. She said she felt so sexy and desired, that when he first kissed her, it was electrifying and that she knew she wouldn't ever say no. So, since then he has been giving her lingerie for gifts. I asked how it was otherwise, she said that he takes her when they have sex, not asking meekly like i do, when he wants her, he sweeps her up and takes her. She also said that it was his idea to make things more kinky in bed for me. He would blindfold her and tie her up (something she never let me do) and she said that the feeling of total surrender just felt incredible. So, he has a dominant streak it seems and has been encouraging her to be more dominant with me because she said they weren't going to be secret forever. I figured it out before they came out to me, and that's why she didn't say anything that first night, she wanted to talk to him about it before making a move. His cock is bigger than mine too i guess, she said she loves to be on her knees sucking him and that it's a little thicker than mine and about a couple inches longer.
She didn't say much more that night and we haven't talked more about it since. Just a lot to take in right now. She said that things won't be any different at home, we would still get our time a couple times a month, and she wouldn't need to sneak around so much so that would take the pressure off her. She said that he was going to the ball and they were getting a room at the hotel upstairs together, but for the ball itself, they wouldn't be dating since they could get fired for that. She is working a night shift this weekend and she said that it's pretty slow there at night and that they would be getting together this weekend late at work. I asked if that meant sex and she said that she doesn't know just yet, they have alot to talk about.
She said that she was already having an affair. I know i suspected it, but it felt like someone kicked me in the gut. I tried to prepare myself for it, but hearing her say it was huge. I just let that soak in for a second, didn't say anything. We sat in silence, seemed like five minutes but couldn't have been more than 20 seconds. The silence was deafening though and i knew she was waiting for me to say something. I asked how long it had been going on and she replied with, "are you ok? you sure you want to hear this?" I said i was and she said it has been going on for about 5 months. I asked who it was and how they got together, how all this happened. She said that she wasn't going to tell me anymore that night, the next night we would talk more after the kids were in bed and she would tell me everything, but for that night, just me knowing was enough. She said that if i wanted a divorce, then she would understand that, or if i wanted to stay together, she would understand that too, but she wanted to give me 24 hours to make up my mind.
The next day sucked, couldn't think of anything else. Wasn't like i thought it would be, i wasn't turned on by it. Perhaps because i didn't have any details and she just made it seem so easy to dismiss me. I went through my day though and was busy with the kids all night. She got home just in time to help put them to bed and without saying anything, she went outside and sat on the porch. I followed and she just said, "well?" Nothing was said prior to that, she knew what the conversation would be about, she knew where things were left and she didn't need to say anything. I told her that i didn't want to split up, for the kids sake and for my own. I'm comfortable with my life. She said that was fine, she didn't want to break up the family either, but she wasn't going to stop seeing Mark. I then asked her for the details. I mean, she owed me that, if she was going to do this, all i wanted was the details and to be a part of her sex life. This is her story.
Mark is her supervisor at work. She works for a hospital in this area and he's her boss. Well, he's younger than we are, by about 5 years or so making him in his late twenties. She didn't say if he was a doctor or not, but i don't think so, i think by the way she talks about him now and in the past hes more of an administrator. Doesnt matter though. Anyway, she doesn't work the night shift often, But when she does, she is the only person in the department. They have a room set up where the person working the night shift can catch some sleep if it's slow. She said that they started out as friends and he would come in when she worked the night shift once a month or so. They would talk for hours. Then she started to find him attractive, she said she honestly didn't notice it before but after getting to know him better, she started to get hot around him. He is single, and very flirtatious. She said that his outgoing demeanor and confidence are what drew her to him. She said that the first time they had sex was in the sleeping room at the hospital. She has since been with him at his apartment mostly because they could both get in trouble at the hospital, but they have done it there many times since, but try to keep their personal life on the quiet side. She said that it was Mark that encouraged her to be more assertive with me. I asked how that came up, and she said that they were just having some "pillow talk" and he asked about me. He just seemed currious and wanted to know what her husband was like. She told him a bit about me and he wanted to know how i was in bed. She said that she told him that i'm submissive, have been since i've known her, and even though she loves me, she knows deep down that i'm not the alpha type personality and that she just can't get that out of her head. I was pissed now, i told her things like how i wanted to be taken with a strapon or submit to her and be denied in confidence. Then she tells this guy after they had sex. She could see i was getting upset at this part of the story and just said, "relax honey, it's not like it isn't true. You like strapon sex and me being more controlling, if it wasn't for mark encouraging it, you wouldn't have ever got to experience that so you should really thank him for making some of your fantasies come true" I couldn't argue with the logic, still felt like more a betrayal that she would tell him about my kinks, i hadn't expected that. I asked how it was in bed with him. She said it was incredible, he was as confident a lover as he is a man and takes her. She said he also is well off with his job so has bought her quite a wardrobe of lingerie she keeps at his place. She said that's how the entire friendship turned physical. She complained to him about her body, how she still has some baby weight in places she doesn't like and has scars from the c-section. He told her that when in bed, she should dress sexy, covers the bad parts and makes her feel sexy. She said sure, she would consider that. The next night, he gave her a black baby doll from Victoria Secret and told her that he hoped it would help. They got more flirtations and when he suggested she model it for him, she went ahead and did it. She said she felt so sexy and desired, that when he first kissed her, it was electrifying and that she knew she wouldn't ever say no. So, since then he has been giving her lingerie for gifts. I asked how it was otherwise, she said that he takes her when they have sex, not asking meekly like i do, when he wants her, he sweeps her up and takes her. She also said that it was his idea to make things more kinky in bed for me. He would blindfold her and tie her up (something she never let me do) and she said that the feeling of total surrender just felt incredible. So, he has a dominant streak it seems and has been encouraging her to be more dominant with me because she said they weren't going to be secret forever. I figured it out before they came out to me, and that's why she didn't say anything that first night, she wanted to talk to him about it before making a move. His cock is bigger than mine too i guess, she said she loves to be on her knees sucking him and that it's a little thicker than mine and about a couple inches longer.
She didn't say much more that night and we haven't talked more about it since. Just a lot to take in right now. She said that things won't be any different at home, we would still get our time a couple times a month, and she wouldn't need to sneak around so much so that would take the pressure off her. She said that he was going to the ball and they were getting a room at the hotel upstairs together, but for the ball itself, they wouldn't be dating since they could get fired for that. She is working a night shift this weekend and she said that it's pretty slow there at night and that they would be getting together this weekend late at work. I asked if that meant sex and she said that she doesn't know just yet, they have alot to talk about.
