Treating/Changing This Fetish..

[prankeapple]

This might not be the best place to post this, but I've scoured google and have been unable to find any decent information, so I figured I'd ask here.

Is there any way to 'overcome' an fetish for interracial porn/cuckoldry? Basically, to change what it is that turns me on. Nothing turns me on more than seeing a girl I'm with kissing/hooking up with another guy. However, I don't LIKE that this turns me on. I'd much rather just be turned on by her having sex with me, like a normal person...

It's gotten to the point where I don't even have strong sexual feelings for girls unless a) I have some sort of emotional attachment to them and b) that emotional attachment is strained at the sight of her committing infidedlity, preferably with a black guy.

Any advice/links to external reading would be appreciated.

Also, please don't flame.

 

[mhall]

Welcome to the world of cuckoldry.

Relax and enjoy it. We are the normal ones

 

[prankeapple]

The reason why I'm bothering to ask this is because I believe that interracial cuckoldry is a sexual response to the social construct of racism. In fact, racism as we know it didn't even BEGIN to resemble its modern form until the 18th century. Humans aren't 'born' with fetishes (with the possible exception of homosexuality) and I'm fairly certain I wasn't born with the desire to see the girl I'm with get reamed by another dude's dick.

 

[Blackyoung]

Hmm I understand what you mean? So, Same race cuckold does not turn you on? I saw one and it was awesome. Actually, it was MFM hotwife experience. Maybe you should look into black on black cuckold only. They are out there.

 

[prankeapple]

Hmm I understand what you mean? So, Same race cuckold does not turn you on? I saw one and it was awesome. Actually, it was MFM hotwife experience. Maybe you should look into black on black cuckold only. They are out there.

actually it does turn me on, but black on white cuckolding turns me on more. the thing is... i want to get to a point where i am just as turned on at the thought of ME with the girl. not some other guy.

 

[Blackyoung]

Well, then I believe, there's nothing you need to treat. I know IR cuckolding has racist ties to it, but eh so what? At long it isn't degrading anyone, then I don't see the problem. I wouldn't mind if a black couple approached me. In fact, I was approached by a black couple,(too far away)

I guess it's that feeling of the ultimate voyeur feeling. Like a live Porno. Seeing she with another a black male(which is not a norm in most states) it may turn you on. I don't see a problem with it.

Where are you from?

 

[Pooch]

try hooking up a 12-volt to ur nutts and give urself an electric shock everytime you have these feelings....lmao...give me break about youre racism rationalisation....who knows if you are born with these feelings for certain fetish' or you learn them somewhere along the way (most likely)

OK DONT ANYBODY TRY THAT AT HOME

 

[JackXY]

I can totally see where you are coming from..have you tried seeking a relationship with a black or mixed race girl? since these are possibly outside your fetish perhaps they wont trigger the fantasies you have hard-wired into your brain. when your normal sex drive resumes...go back to white girls if u so wish, or stick to the darker ones, lol. all the best

 

[RaunchyRandy]

actually it does turn me on, but black on white cuckolding turns me on more. the thing is... i want to get to a point where i am just as turned on at the thought of ME with the girl. not some other guy.

I'm getting the impression that your 'problem' is sort of like a song that you once enjoyed listening to, but which has gotten to a point where you can't 'turn it off...' It just keeps playing, and playing... And you want to focus on something different.

I know many feel that fetishes are mostly inanimate objects or normally 'nonsexual parts of the body' that someone has attached a sexual connotation to, like shoes, or earlobes(???), and I won't get into the nuances of what a fetish actually is. Suffice it to say that your 'fetish (IMO),' is mostly mental. Others don't see a problem, but if it's something you want to eliminate as part of your sexual 'arsenal,' then it IS a problem, to you. And that, I believe, is the reason for your thread.

Being aroused by the thought of someone else having sex with your 'significant other (SO)' can be disconcerting, to say to the least, especially when you want the arousal to occur as a result of YOU being the primary male partner. I say it's mental because if there is actually no one else that she is involved with, it's all in your mind.

YOU have to change the focus. As with getting rid of that song that plays over and over in your head, you need to find a different approach (a different fetish, perhaps). Surely there're other sexual activities that you'd like to explore with her (maybe anal or oral); if nothing else, ask HER to be a bit more open about HER own sexual fantasies, and the two of you pursue those...

Sex exploration has MANY doors and rooms. Find another one to open and play in. Actually, the IR cuck fetish is likely only a temporary stop in your life; you probably won't forget it, but it'll cease to be the all-encompassing focus that you presently have about it.

Good luck.

 

[prankeapple]

I'm getting the impression that your 'problem' is sort of like a song that you once enjoyed listening to, but which has gotten to a point where you can't 'turn it off...' It just keeps playing, and playing... And you want to focus on something different.

I know many feel that fetishes are mostly inanimate objects or normally 'nonsexual parts of the body' that someone has attached a sexual connotation to, like shoes, or earlobes(???), and I won't get into the nuances of what a fetish actually is. Suffice it to say that your 'fetish (IMO),' is mostly mental. Others don't see a problem, but if it's something you want to eliminate as part of your sexual 'arsenal,' then it IS a problem, to you. And that, I believe, is the reason for your thread.

Being aroused by the thought of someone else having sex with your 'significant other (SO)' can be disconcerting, to say to the least, especially when you want the arousal to occur as a result of YOU being the primary male partner. I say it's mental because if there is actually no one else that she is involved with, it's all in your mind.

YOU have to change the focus. As with getting rid of that song that plays over and over in your head, you need to find a different approach (a different fetish, perhaps). Surely there're other sexual activities that you'd like to explore with her (maybe anal or oral); if nothing else, ask HER to be a bit more open about HER own sexual fantasies, and the two of you pursue those...

Sex exploration has MANY doors and rooms. Find another one to open and play in. Actually, the IR cuck fetish is likely only a temporary stop in your life; you probably won't forget it, but it'll cease to be the all-encompassing focus that you presently have about it.

Good luck.

Thanks, I really appreciate this post. I totally agree with you that it's all in my head, and I see nothing wrong with cuckolding as long as everyone involved is cool with it. I just don't see it as being right for me, especially now that it's gotten to the point where I get more turned on at the girl I'm with having sex with another guy than having sex with me. The question is... HOW do I go about changing it? What specific exercises/techniques/thought patterns/etc should I undertake to change what turns me on?

 

[prankeapple]

I can totally see where you are coming from..have you tried seeking a relationship with a black or mixed race girl? since these are possibly outside your fetish perhaps they wont trigger the fantasies you have hard-wired into your brain. when your normal sex drive resumes...go back to white girls if u so wish, or stick to the darker ones, lol. all the best

I'll give this a shot.

 

[RaunchyRandy]

I just viewed this thread again (with my SO), and she provided the most plausible answer I've seen...

It's likely that you just haven't found the ONE woman that you care enough about that you can't even envision her being with another guy. When/if you do find her, your fetish will immediately vanish.

 

[bigstink9]

Unless it's negatively affecting your home life or your day gig, why change what works? If it turns you on and it gets you off, enjoy the vibe and fuck everybody else. This whole forum is one big fetish, in case you weren't in the loop, but that doesn't make you a mental patient.
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