submitting/sucking cock in front of the wife

[undercover]

been thinking of making this leap but having some reservations about it.

we've been together about 8 years now, had our ups and downs but over all we're pretty stable.

sex life was pretty average for the first 5yrs, then became non existant, mostly due to my increasing lack of interest in what had become a very mundane sex life. she nearly left me for lack of sex she said we were living like roommates instead of a married couple and it was sort of true. had a long talk about sex and to spice things up i asked permission to call her names during sex (slut ***** bitch you get the point). this opened up pandoras box so to speak. i got off on it and started enjoying the sex again and she got off on it and started acting more and more like names she was being called.

that led to a host of new things like anal, role play, getting to watch her with another woman, and much much more things got pretty damn good and exciting and ultimately, at her suggestion we became swingers.

i think we both enjoyed the 1 year we spent in the lifestyle but i know i enjoyed it more then she did. i discovered that i loved to watch her get fucked by other men, she however did not like sharing me with other women so much and so that came to an end. having been swingers and opened up a lot about our desires she felt comfortable to finally confess to a hand full of times during the period where we stopped having sex that she had fucked other men, and of course that turned me on rather than pissing me off like she thought it would and so at my insistance (more like begging) we continued to play with men only, in situations where i watched them fuck her or me and other guy tag teamed her. but once we left the lifestyle completely that changed some because single men willing to play with a couple are not so easy to find in the vanilla world as they are in the lifestyle, and we had to accept the fact that if she was going to get fucked regularly by other guys that me being present wasnt always going to be an option. i figure hey, ill take what i can get, i still get to hear the juicy details later while i lick her used pussy and ass so even though i dont get to see it first hand very often anymore, its still going great in my book.

now enter the question of ME sucking cock in front of her. ive pondered it for a long time. i dont consider myself bi but i suppose its open to interpretation. i have sucked cock before as well as having been fucked by men. there was a period prior to meeting my wife when i felt the need to experiment in that area. what i learned is i am defintely not attracted to men, yet i enjoyed sucking their cocks and being fucked. now when it came to kissing and the more "sensual" aspects of having sex with another man i honestly threw up a little in my mouth the last time a guy kissed me, because as i said, there is no physical attraction. seems wierd that i like cock but not men but i cant explain it.

i supposed maybe it was more the act of submission that i enjoyed (as i was always the "bottom" in my encounters) and it is easier to accept a submissive role to a bigger stronger man than a weaker smaller woman? at least thats my half-assed way of phsyco-anylizing myself. though i have also in the past been with pro dommes (female) and enjoyed that as well, particularly being sissified in womens clothes and being on the business end of a strap on. it is fair to say i enjoy the humiliation and emasulation aspects of submission as much as anything.

my experience with men and with domina's is still unknown to my wife. having become more open about our fantasies and sexuality my wife has on several occasions mentioned having a fantasy of seeing me suck and fucked by another man as well as letting her strap one on and fuck me. and my response was a quick refusal under the the terms of "no way in hell". obviously as you can gather from my past experiences that the idea is actually highly arousing to me, yet i can't seem to get myself to let go of my "alpha" status so to speak. when on occasion i go out to her favorite night club (a.k.a. pick-up spot) with her she will point out guys that have fucked her before, and the looks i catch from those men who have used my wife are quite humiliating. yes i enjoy that. however, i instantly go into this mode of macho overdrive where i act like a complete ass trying to show the wife i am more of a man than anybody, the whole time secretly being burdened by a raging hard on at the thought of being in the presence of so many men that have had their way with her. why, i dont know.

and that is where it gets sticky (excuse the bad pun) when i think of fulfilling her fantasy (and mine - secretly) of sucking off/being fucked by a man in her presence or letting her put on the strap on and make me her bitch. i guess its that age old addage - "will you still respect me in the morning?" i wonder if i were to let that happen, would she ever look at me quite the same again? i honestly dont see how she could. and if not, how would i handle it. COULD i handle it. how drastucally will it change the dynamics of our relationship. those are all questions i ask myself. im already a cuckold, a willing one at that, and i enjoy the humiliation aspect of it privately, and im quite sure she does not see that as one of the reasons her fucking other men turns me on. shes never asked me WHY it tunds me on, and perhaps she doesnt care and is simply content to have the priviledge of being a ***** with the security of a relationship to come home to.

in any case, while i see the possibility of broadening our horizons in the wide realm of hotwiving/cuckolding in a way that we no doubt would both enjoy sexually, im not sure how it would translate into the overall dynamic of our relationship and that is what scares me. maybe it wouldnt be so bad to give in and let her see me a lesser man, but then again maybe it would. but no matter how badly i may feel the desire to resign my position of alpha male and become the sissy cocksucker cockold, there is something holding me back and im not sure if i can ever shake it, because frankly i dont even know what it is.
thoughts?

 

[Susan's Slave]

One foot inside the sissy door and one foot outside. I can definitely relate! Sorry to break the news but you are bisexual. You enjoy sex with men when you are the bottom.

I am curious as to how you met and became sexually active with these men? I imagine it was in an adult bookstore, movie arcade, or similar place. Were you wearing panties during these encounters?

You may wish to tell your wife that there is no way you would have sex with a man and tell her that you don't think she would respect you if you did. It may be instructive to hear her response and begin a dialogue about what it is that turns her on.

 

[greymaster]

what i learned is i am defintely not attracted to men, yet i enjoyed sucking their cocks and being fucked. now when it came to kissing and the more "sensual" aspects of having sex with another man i honestly threw up a little in my mouth the last time a guy kissed me, because as i said, there is no physical attraction. seems wierd that i like cock but not men but i cant explain it.

Putting aside those self-named 'sissies' that want to serve a male and have the attraction (bi-sexual in one 'crude' labeling structure), I am hearing a number of men saying elements of this quoted section. I can understand the logical separation between "pleasurable physical experience" and "attraction" but is this a common experience amongst the guys on here?

Labels are difficult, but can anyone else see why people start sentences "I'm not gay/bi but...."?

 

[carina_halerose]

my Mistress has trained me to give oral pleasure to any sex and i find giving oral to a man just as pleasurable as giving it to a woman.

 

[racquel]

Putting aside those self-named 'sissies' that want to serve a male and have the attraction (bi-sexual in one 'crude' labeling structure), I am hearing a number of men saying elements of this quoted section. I can understand the logical separation between "pleasurable physical experience" and "attraction" but is this a common experience amongst the guys on here?

Labels are difficult, but can anyone else see why people start sentences "I'm not gay/bi but...."?

It's true in my case. While i adore the thought of a hard cock in my mouth i could never imagine cuddling with a man.

 

[kevinsslave]

what i learned is i am defintely not attracted to men, yet i enjoyed sucking their cocks and being fucked. now when it came to kissing and the more "sensual" aspects of having sex with another man i honestly threw up a little in my mouth the last time a guy kissed me, because as i said, there is no physical attraction. seems wierd that i like cock but not men but i cant explain it.

Right with you on this. I've said a million times, I have no interest in having a guy kiss me, hug me, hold me, etc. None, zero, zip. I don't want to kiss them on the lips. There is no feeling of romance or anything else.

However, with certain guys (a very certain look - skinny, blond hair), I do enjoy sucking their cocks and kissing their legs, balls, ass, etc. It's quite strange. I, too, have experimented and have been with guys and gave them head and my cock was as limp as a noodle. On the other hand, give me a guy with the right looks and attitude, and before I'm on my knees, I'm rock hard. Nevertheless, I still have no romantic feelings towards them.

Strange, you're the first guy I've talked to or read a post who expressed this feeling.

i supposed maybe it was more the act of submission that i enjoyed

Bingo.

Racquel said:

It's true in my case. While i adore the thought of a hard cock in my mouth i could never imagine cuddling with a man.

I guess there's more of us out there. Also, I should add that when I haven't been with a guy in a while (and sometimes thats for years), I don't miss it at all.

but no matter how badly i may feel the desire to resign my position of alpha male and become the sissy cocksucker cockold, there is something holding me back and im not sure if i can ever shake it, because frankly i dont even know what it is.
thoughts?

I'm not sure it has to be one or the other. Although my life is way fucked up now, my wife knows that I like submitting to certain men and to her. On the other hand, she tells me that I'm the strongest man she knows. It would take forever to restate here, but, if you read my other posts, you'll see that you can suck a cock every now and then and not become a complete sissy. In fact, you don't have to become a sissy at all (unless you want to).

 

[Susan's Slave]

Most hetero porn is predicated on the cum shot or "money" shot. If most porn is being watched by men, why the facination with close ups of hard cocks spewing cum? Either we just like to see a job brought to completion, or we derive some sexual satisfaction from viewing it, or we are at least bi-curious. Maybe it is because it is so taboo for a real man to be interested, but how many of us have tasted our own product?

Add me to the list of men (sort of - once) who like a bigger, better, dominant man to push us to our knees and push hard cocks in our mouths. This is my submissive side, but it is more illicit and nasty then having a dominant woman push me down between her legs. Although lately, with the estrogen I have been taking, thoughts of serving, pleasing, and cuddling with strong men have started to creep into the fantasy realm.

 

[SoonToBe]

I've always preferred porn where the guy cums inside the woman - either her mouth or her pussy. The "money shot" really hasn't ever appealed to me. Sue feels the same way - she's said to me many times what a waste it is spurting all over instead of being enjoyed one way or another.

 

[lifelong cuck]

Cock sucking cuckolds

been thinking of making this leap but having some reservations about it.

we've been together about 8 years now, had our ups and downs but over all we're pretty stable.

sex life was pretty average for the first 5yrs, then became non existant, mostly due to my increasing lack of interest in what had become a very mundane sex life. she nearly left me for lack of sex she said we were living like roommates instead of a married couple and it was sort of true. had a long talk about sex and to spice things up i asked permission to call her names during sex (slut ***** bitch you get the point). this opened up pandoras box so to speak. i got off on it and started enjoying the sex again and she got off on it and started acting more and more like names she was being called.

that led to a host of new things like anal, role play, getting to watch her with another woman, and much much more things got pretty damn good and exciting and ultimately, at her suggestion we became swingers.

i think we both enjoyed the 1 year we spent in the lifestyle but i know i enjoyed it more then she did. i discovered that i loved to watch her get fucked by other men, she however did not like sharing me with other women so much and so that came to an end. having been swingers and opened up a lot about our desires she felt comfortable to finally confess to a hand full of times during the period where we stopped having sex that she had fucked other men, and of course that turned me on rather than pissing me off like she thought it would and so at my insistance (more like begging) we continued to play with men only, in situations where i watched them fuck her or me and other guy tag teamed her. but once we left the lifestyle completely that changed some because single men willing to play with a couple are not so easy to find in the vanilla world as they are in the lifestyle, and we had to accept the fact that if she was going to get fucked regularly by other guys that me being present wasnt always going to be an option. i figure hey, ill take what i can get, i still get to hear the juicy details later while i lick her used pussy and ass so even though i dont get to see it first hand very often anymore, its still going great in my book.

now enter the question of ME sucking cock in front of her. ive pondered it for a long time. i dont consider myself bi but i suppose its open to interpretation. i have sucked cock before as well as having been fucked by men. there was a period prior to meeting my wife when i felt the need to experiment in that area. what i learned is i am defintely not attracted to men, yet i enjoyed sucking their cocks and being fucked. now when it came to kissing and the more "sensual" aspects of having sex with another man i honestly threw up a little in my mouth the last time a guy kissed me, because as i said, there is no physical attraction. seems wierd that i like cock but not men but i cant explain it.

i supposed maybe it was more the act of submission that i enjoyed (as i was always the "bottom" in my encounters) and it is easier to accept a submissive role to a bigger stronger man than a weaker smaller woman? at least thats my half-assed way of phsyco-anylizing myself. though i have also in the past been with pro dommes (female) and enjoyed that as well, particularly being sissified in womens clothes and being on the business end of a strap on. it is fair to say i enjoy the humiliation and emasulation aspects of submission as much as anything.

my experience with men and with domina's is still unknown to my wife. having become more open about our fantasies and sexuality my wife has on several occasions mentioned having a fantasy of seeing me suck and fucked by another man as well as letting her strap one on and fuck me. and my response was a quick refusal under the the terms of "no way in hell". obviously as you can gather from my past experiences that the idea is actually highly arousing to me, yet i can't seem to get myself to let go of my "alpha" status so to speak. when on occasion i go out to her favorite night club (a.k.a. pick-up spot) with her she will point out guys that have fucked her before, and the looks i catch from those men who have used my wife are quite humiliating. yes i enjoy that. however, i instantly go into this mode of macho overdrive where i act like a complete ass trying to show the wife i am more of a man than anybody, the whole time secretly being burdened by a raging hard on at the thought of being in the presence of so many men that have had their way with her. why, i dont know.

and that is where it gets sticky (excuse the bad pun) when i think of fulfilling her fantasy (and mine - secretly) of sucking off/being fucked by a man in her presence or letting her put on the strap on and make me her bitch. i guess its that age old addage - "will you still respect me in the morning?" i wonder if i were to let that happen, would she ever look at me quite the same again? i honestly dont see how she could. and if not, how would i handle it. COULD i handle it. how drastucally will it change the dynamics of our relationship. those are all questions i ask myself. im already a cuckold, a willing one at that, and i enjoy the humiliation aspect of it privately, and im quite sure she does not see that as one of the reasons her fucking other men turns me on. shes never asked me WHY it tunds me on, and perhaps she doesnt care and is simply content to have the priviledge of being a ***** with the security of a relationship to come home to.

in any case, while i see the possibility of broadening our horizons in the wide realm of hotwiving/cuckolding in a way that we no doubt would both enjoy sexually, im not sure how it would translate into the overall dynamic of our relationship and that is what scares me. maybe it wouldnt be so bad to give in and let her see me a lesser man, but then again maybe it would. but no matter how badly i may feel the desire to resign my position of alpha male and become the sissy cocksucker cockold, there is something holding me back and im not sure if i can ever shake it, because frankly i dont even know what it is.
thoughts?

I know in my experience that my wife seeing me suck her lovers' cocks led her to withdraw all the more from me sexually. She said she could never let me ride her after watching me suck another man's cock ~ yet she would encourage me to do it when her lovers instigated it.

I have never done anything more than suck their cocks, never been ass fucked or kissed by a man and never want to experience either but I do love to taste the cum of her lovers and to give then erections and watch them fuck her to orgasm with that erection.

 

[AngleBaby]

So you do have atleast one guy who lost his wife's respect in the morning.

 

[ripped]

feel like i could've wrote this...... i think some things are almost better left fantasy ( sucking cock infront of your wife). I mean if you really want to you can get cock on the side. I just wouldnt want my gf seeing me as a cock sucker ever

 

[lifelong cuck]

Missing the point

feel like i could've wrote this...... i think some things are almost better left fantasy ( sucking cock infront of your wife). I mean if you really want to you can get cock on the side. I just wouldnt want my gf seeing me as a cock sucker ever

I feel you miss the whole point of a Cuckold sucking the bull's cock.

It signifies the cuckold acknowledges the bull is physically and sexually superior. The Cuckold wishes to offer his penile worship in the same way his wife does and to help ensure she gets the fucking the cuck is incapable of giving her.

It's never about sucking cock because you enjoy it, it's all about acknowledging you're inferiority to the man about to ride your wife, very few things demonstrate your abject subjugation more than sucking his cock in front of the woman he's about to pleasure with it. A cuckold knows he's giving the bull the erection to fuck his wife to orgasm. That's why you suck cock, not from bisexuality.

 

[kevinsslave]

I feel you miss the whole point of a Cuckold sucking the bull's cock.

It signifies the cuckold acknowledges the bull is physically and sexually superior. The Cuckold wishes to offer his penile worship in the same way his wife does and to help ensure she gets the fucking the cuck is incapable of giving her.

It's never about sucking cock because you enjoy it, it's all about acknowledging you're inferiority to the man about to ride your wife, very few things demonstrate your abject subjugation more than sucking his cock in front of the woman he's about to pleasure with it. A cuckold knows he's giving the bull the erection to fuck his wife to orgasm. That's why you suck cock, not from bisexuality.

Sorry, I don't see it this way. Truth be told, I've probably been physically superior to most if not all of the men that my wife has been with (same for older relationships with other woman). Same can be said for sexual superiority.

Maybe, though, not all of us are in the cuckold lifestyle for the same reason. I absolutely suck cock based on my bisexuality and/or my attraction to the man. Again, though, my attraction is not a romantic one, it's more of a physical one where I feel like I need or want to be submissive to the man. Truth be told, it has nothing to do with "acknowledging you're inferiority to the man about to ride your wife."

 

[lifelong cuck]

I'm a cuckold because I'm not man enough for my wife

Sorry, I don't see it this way. Truth be told, I've probably been physically superior to most if not all of the men that my wife has been with (same for older relationships with other woman). Same can be said for sexual superiority.

Maybe because you have been superior to the men who have fucked your wife you don't feel as I do. Equally I've never sucked any man's cock who hasn't proved he's better than me by fucking my wife first to an orgasm. I know I've never sucked any bull who hadn't already proved his sexual superiority and the first time I've taken his big cock in my mouth it had my wife's juices all over it.

Maybe, though, not all of us are in the cuckold lifestyle for the same reason. I absolutely suck cock based on my bisexuality and/or my attraction to the man. Again, though, my attraction is not a romantic one, it's more of a physical one where I feel like I need or want to be submissive to the man. Truth be told, it has nothing to do with "acknowledging you're inferiority to the man about to ride your wife."

I was a cuckold because my wife needed to fuck other men because she was sexually frustrated because I couldn't fuck her like she needed it. Gradually through the pain I adapted to the point where I craved the humiliation of seeing other men sexually superior to me fuck my wife. The next step was to give them the penile adulation my wife does, these bulls really are amazing and their big cocks do for my wife what I so would love to do.

 

[ripped]

I feel you miss the whole point of a Cuckold sucking the bull's cock.

It signifies the cuckold acknowledges the bull is physically and sexually superior. The Cuckold wishes to offer his penile worship in the same way his wife does and to help ensure she gets the fucking the cuck is incapable of giving her.

It's never about sucking cock because you enjoy it, it's all about acknowledging you're inferiority to the man about to ride your wife, very few things demonstrate your abject subjugation more than sucking his cock in front of the woman he's about to pleasure with it. A cuckold knows he's giving the bull the erection to fuck his wife to orgasm. That's why you suck cock, not from bisexuality.

I'm in the wifeswapping or hot wifing game for a much different reason than you are. I'm turned on by my gf getting ultimate pleasure and seeing her recieve pleasure, it has nothing to do with any male being better than me in the bed.

I'm really good looking and have a huge cock, and am built well physically, and my sexual stamina is through the roof, but enjoy the idea of my wife getting turned on in mmf threesomes etc.

my desires stem from just wanting to suck dick because they turn me on, i enjoy the look of them and just the idea of being a cock sucker is hot. Definitely leaning more towards bisexual than submitting to an alpha male because in our relationship i am the alpha male, i tell my gf what to fantasize about etc and lead the roleplays. This whole cuckolding / swapping thing was my idea in the beginning, not hers, shes just grown to love it.

 

[lifelong cuck]

Bi-Swinger

I'm in the wifeswapping or hot wifing game for a much different reason than you are. I'm turned on by my gf getting ultimate pleasure and seeing her recieve pleasure, it has nothing to do with any male being better than me in the bed.

I'm really good looking and have a huge cock, and am built well physically, and my sexual stamina is through the roof, but enjoy the idea of my wife getting turned on in mmf threesomes etc.

my desires stem from just wanting to suck dick because they turn me on, i enjoy the look of them and just the idea of being a cock sucker is hot. Definitely leaning more towards bisexual than submitting to an alpha male because in our relationship i am the alpha male, i tell my gf what to fantasize about etc and lead the roleplays. This whole cuckolding / swapping thing was my idea in the beginning, not hers, shes just grown to love it.

Sounds to me you are a natural bi-swinger who uses his hotwife. Unfortunately I'm a cuckold who was given his cuckold horns by a wife who never enjoyed sex with me but looked to guys like you instead, irrespective of how I felt about her infidelity.

 

[undercover]

Thanks for all the replies.

The intent of this post was not to debate about what qualifies a man as bi-sexual. Maybe I am or maybe I'm not, I suppose it is all relative to opinion. Point is I dont really care if i am or I'm not. I know that I am not attracted to men but I also know I love to suck cock and be fucked anally, whatever that makes me, I'm ok with it in my own mind.

This lifestyle isn't really about labels to me, its just about the pleasure that everyone invilved gets from it weather it be the woman who loves to be slut free and open with her sexuality or the bull who loves to use other mens wives or the husband who loves to submit or just enjoys seeing his wife fucked.

I would like to think that there is some form of mutual respect involved, even in situations where it is not outwardly shown, e.g. bull treats wife like a cheap ***** or wife and/or bull humiliate husband etc... Even in these instances where the D/S, BDSM, humiliation/degradation/emasculation elements are more prevelent there should be some underlying recognition that these are PEOPLE we are dealing with and not toys, and at the end of the day this lifestyle is but a vehicle to further each persons happiness and sexual fulfillment - we engage in these activities to enjoy ourselves and each other not to destroy each otehrs lives, relationships and/or self esteem. But I realize that is more idealistic than realistic. And that was the real issue of this thread - respect.

Now i am a cuckold and it could be argued that I am so because of my own doing or that with my wife being a slut it was inevitable. I did not make her a slut, i just made her feel ok about being one and allowed her to do with her body what she wants with no threat of ever losing me because of it. She made the choice to pursue it, which made me happy. Now i have been made fully aware by her that there is no way she is ever going to stop, like it or not, and that is also more than fine with me. things are great now and i remember the old saying "if it aint broke dont try to fix it" when i think of taking that next step.

as I said above, i enjoy sucking cock and anal sex. Because I do I can say almost certainly that i will go out and get it one way or another, i could easily get some on the sly. but as i said in my original post, my wife has expressed her interest in seeing me do it. I dont exactly know why she wants to see that, could be for the same reason i wanted to see her do another girl (or guy) - because its a turn on and appeals to my voyeuristic nature, although ive never known her to be a voyeur. or it could be because she wants to see me in a submissive role. either way, there is a big part of me that wants to share that side of me with her and allow her to see it, but that brings me back to the point - respect, will it be lost if do? Thats what i keep going around in circles in my mind about, if she will still look at me the same or if it leads to me being seen as a sissy in her eyes, not just in the sexual part of our relationship, but in every facet of it.

I guess in my mind, ideally, it would be a switch that we could turn on and off. If it leads to my submissivness to her and/or her lovers sexually, thats fine, im more naturally sexually submissive anyhow, and always the bottom in any encounter with a man. But thats where i want it to end. when the clothes get put back on, i dont want to be wearing lacey panties to work or having her lovers treat me like their bitch. But Im not sure if thats possible. deep down, can she or her men ever really set aside their judgements and treat me as an equal inspite of it? Thats the million dollar question.

 

[Saraha]

You could let your wife use a strapon on your ass twice a week. It will give her an emotional lift and help you to grow closer together in expressing your shared fantasies.

If she enjoys stretching and thrusting your ass, she might bring home a guy who will give you your submission fantasy under her watchful eye. We could call it win-win.

I don't think you should deny yourself what would truly make you happy. You will be in a rest home one day and have a lot of time for regrets if you don't take your opportunities.

A man too scared to do what he secretly craves, is barely alive - he is in a mind prison.

You have helped your wife get her needs met, so chase yours, she owes you that.

 

[lifelong cuck]

Humiliation

I would like to think that there is some form of mutual respect involved, even in situations where it is not outwardly shown, e.g. bull treats wife like a cheap ***** or wife and/or bull humiliate husband etc... Even in these instances where the D/S, BDSM, humiliation/degradation/emasculation elements are more prevelent there should be some underlying recognition that these are PEOPLE we are dealing with and not toys, and at the end of the day this lifestyle is but a vehicle to further each persons happiness and sexual fulfillment - we engage in these activities to enjoy ourselves and each other not to destroy each otehrs lives, relationships and/or self esteem. But I realize that is more idealistic than realistic. And that was the real issue of this thread - respect.

Now i am a cuckold and it could be argued that I am so because of my own doing or that with my wife being a slut it was inevitable. I did not make her a slut, i just made her feel ok about being one and allowed her to do with her body what she wants with no threat of ever losing me because of it. She made the choice to pursue it, which made me happy. Now i have been made fully aware by her that there is no way she is ever going to stop, like it or not, and that is also more than fine with me. things are great now and i remember the old saying "if it aint broke dont try to fix it" when i think of taking that next step.

as I said above, i enjoy sucking cock and anal sex. Because I do I can say almost certainly that i will go out and get it one way or another, i could easily get some on the sly. but as i said in my original post, my wife has expressed her interest in seeing me do it. I dont exactly know why she wants to see that, could be for the same reason i wanted to see her do another girl (or guy) - because its a turn on and appeals to my voyeuristic nature, although ive never known her to be a voyeur. or it could be because she wants to see me in a submissive role. either way, there is a big part of me that wants to share that side of me with her and allow her to see it, but that brings me back to the point - respect, will it be lost if do? Thats what i keep going around in circles in my mind about, if she will still look at me the same or if it leads to me being seen as a sissy in her eyes, not just in the sexual part of our relationship, but in every facet of it.

I guess in my mind, ideally, it would be a switch that we could turn on and off. If it leads to my submissivness to her and/or her lovers sexually, thats fine, im more naturally sexually submissive anyhow, and always the bottom in any encounter with a man. But thats where i want it to end. when the clothes get put back on, i dont want to be wearing lacey panties to work or having her lovers treat me like their bitch. But Im not sure if thats possible. deep down, can she or her men ever really set aside their judgements and treat me as an equal inspite of it? Thats the million dollar question.

No there is no mutual respect FOR the cuckold! And if your wife is '******' to let you suck and take cocks up the ass then she won't respect you for it. I say ****** because often a woman will accede to the wishes of her bull lover while she's in that pleasureable state of having just been fucked to orgasm. But in the cold light of day she'll see you for what you did and not remember that she asked you to let HIM use you. It's called humiliation because it takes you places YOU would never choose for yourself. If you'd do these things on the side then you are BI and you need to ask if your wife would lose respect for you if she caught you sucking cock and getting it up the ass without her being present, if that would be a turn off for her, then be sure she'll have no respect for you if she watches you with another man!

As Saraha says, do it because it's what YOU want, but equally if you are doing it because you ARE Bi, then accept that your wife and all those men who fuck you and whose cocks you suck ~ treat you with even less respect than a cuckold gets!

 

[Son of John]

I can easily believe that it is a "normal" part of wife-sharing to suck the other guy's cock at some time during the process. Those who have studied the phenomenom of wife-sharing have claimed that all husbands who are willing to share their wives' pussies with other men are, to some extent, bisexual, and that they are just substituting their wives pussies for their own mouths, when it comes to the cocks of other men.

Add to this the fact that many wives get stimulated even more by watching their husbands suck cocks, and you have a situation in which the husband will naturally suck the cock of the other man, either before or after he fucks the wife.

To me it seems perfectly natural that any husband who allows other men to fuck his wife would also want to "experience" the cock that fucked her as closely as he can.