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According to what I have read, only a few females orgasm from anal sex. Very many think of it as nasty, gross, etc, and almost all worry that you will pull your dick out with nice chunk of shit stuck to the end (which indeed does sometimes happen). My wife is a RN though she is out of nursing now, she says that people who do anal allot, causes the muscles to relax and stretch in time, making it hard not to have crap come out when you don't want it too. A lot of gay men have a real problem with leaving tracks in their underpants and will often think they are going to let loose a little gas and instead drop a bit more. So many females are worried about that as well it’s not all that comfortable for them. My wife will only do it once in awhile and she also because of the nature of the act it self only do it with me. Never has she done it with a date and she says unless something very unusual would occur will not. I don’t think you should push it, this game is about each partner giving and taking, it is about respect, trust, love and sex and her wish’s should be respected. If it something you wish to experience with her then talk to her about with an understanding ear and insure her to do it once in awhile will not have any long term negative effects. You can all so let her know by taking a good dump a few hours before you have sex and by her using a soapy finger to run up the canal before hand will insure no waste on your cock. I agree with start with a small butt plug then move to a bigger one, lubricate your cock and her hole well, many kinds of oils work well, baby oil does a great job. My wife’s first time all we had was some good ole Crisco cooking oil and I have to admit it worked better then any commercial oil we have ever used. Go in slow; you may have to try several different positions. For my wife the spoon position works the best and is most comfortable for her. I am lucky she always has an orgasm and she describes it as very different then regular sex and worth doing. You might try some things like (around the world) that is to lick the ass crack then at the hole run your tongue around and around it, then fuck her ass hole with your tongue. The more you do this the more she begins to enjoy it and loses some of the horror at having her nasty ass hole used. Good luck, I hope you do not take offense in any way, I mean this only as a help and encouragement to you and her. By the way, one of the little things my wife likes and so do I, is often she will be walking through the room and I will have her come over to me pull down her pants and she bend over a little and I’ll tongue fuck her ass for a few minutes, it’s a very common day to day activity and has made her more comfortable with ass play.