Percentages

[sptbj2]

What percentage of wives are involved in "the lifestyle" of having sex with someone other than their husbands, whether they are cuckoldresses, hotwifes, or cheaters? The percentages are probably quite high over the entire time of a marriage, but I wonder about the percentages for those who participate on a regular or semi-regular basis?

Does anyone know where to find any statistics? Does anyone have an opinion? My guess is 10-15%. Do you think I'm high, low? Do you think this will change in the future, or stay about the same? Just wondering...

 

[Troilusand]

I think you're low, way low. I know a LOT of friends (men) who cheat and they ain't fucking other guys...and this doesn't take in the ones like me who are in the lifestyle, but in the closet. There's still a HUGE stigma to open relationships; and having people talk about you or ask tons of questions is a pain in the ass that my wife and I aren't quite ready to address...maybe soon though--life in the closet is quite restricting and an annoyance in its own right.

But I do think the lifestyle will be gaining ground, and quickly. Look how much internet porn there is and how many people (besides me) readily and openly admit to masturbating to it? Also, when I was a kid there were NO homos in the open. And when I was a young man, there were no black and white couples living together, either.

Seems like kids nowadays fuck everyone; so I think they will lead the way to openning up the lifestyle.

So yeah, you're way low.

T.

 

[Custer Laststand]

The % of wives having affairs is high, & will probably continue getting higher.

Sptbj2,

What percentage of wives are involved in "the lifestyle" of having sex with someone other than their husbands, whether they are cuckoldresses, hotwifes, or cheaters? .... Does anyone have an opinion? My guess is 10-15%. Do you think I'm high, low?

I agree with those who say your guess is way too low.

"Cherry Lee," Ph.D. (a pseudonym) used to maintain an excellent extensive website on woman/man relationships that included a fairly large section on hotwife / cuckold husband marriages. Unfortunately, she took it down claiming insufficient time due to increased professional responsibilities. (My guess is, she got a grant funded.... in her self-description, she said she had two university appointments.) In any case, in a sub-article on female vs. male extramarital affairs, she showed a bar graph and cited some statistics indicating steady increase in the percentage of married women who were having, or had in the past, at least one affair. The "bars" were at periodic time intervals over a number of decades, since the survey was first conducted. The same bar graph also showed the percentage of married men having affairs, or who had had at least one affair, at the same points in time (so they could be compared directly).

The bar graph for the most recent year of this survey showed the percentage of married women having affairs pulling ahead of the percentage of married men having affairs for the first time. As I vaguely recall (this is from memory), both numbers were somewhat higher than 50%.

Dr. Lee gave no information about how the surveys were conducted, whether the survey methods were self-consistent from year-to-year, nor about the uncertainty limits. (It was an article and plot for the layperson.)

Do you think this will change in the future, or stay about the same?

My guess would be, the percentage of married women having affairs will continue pulling ahead of the percentage of married men having affairs in the future. That is, there will be progressively more hotwife / cuckold husband marriages, whether or not the cuckold husbands know that is the nature of their marriages.

Cherry Lee speculated that a (perhaps the) main driver for increasing numbers of married women having affairs is that progressively more women have been entering "the work force" since the end of WW II, where they have, of course, much greater access to men than they would if they were "stay-at-home" wives and mothers. This explanation strikes me as probably right.

It's reasonable to expect this trend to continue, IMO, because more women than men are entering and graduating from universities and professional schools (e.g., law and medicine) and gaining elective office. This implies that in the future, progressively more women will attain high-level positions, in which they will (for instance) travel more extensively thereby gaining even more access to men other than their husbands.

But, as someone once put it: "Predictions are difficult, especially of the future."

—Custer