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msbeth
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HI,
A number of women and men have asked me about my experience in this lifestyle. I thought this might be a good forma to tell you of mine and my husband’s Sam experiences, in hopes that it might help you.
I can only speak of my situation, but maybe it will give you some insight. First of all, my marriage has never been better or stronger. However, be clear in my situation my husband, Sam, did not want to participate or have sex outside of our marriage. His desire was to give me my sexual freedom and by that I mean his permission to have sex with other men and afterwards come home to him and not leave out any details it was such a turn on for both of us that we usually spent the rest of the evening in bed fucking like rabbits. lol
Something like this just did not happen overnight, but it took a lot of time for me to get use to the ideal. When Sam first suggested that maybe it would be fun for me to have sex with the pool boy, I was really pissed off because I could not comprehend that, on the one hand, he said he loved me and on the other he wanted me to have sex outside her marriage.
How in the world could you have both? Even though the thought did turn me on, and I am sure you understand that a woman wants sex as much as and I really think sometimes really more than a man. Nevertheless, I was in a dilemma as to whether he really felt that way or was it just a fantasy? One Big Fantasy?
While it was a great turn on for me to think about doing that, but I was very hesitant. I guess because I did not really believe he would continue to love me if I did something like that.
I also thought that if I had sexual relationships with other guys that would give him permission to have sex with other women. That would be the last thing I wanted. I know that seems selfish but that just happened to be my situation, your wife's situation, and yours may be different I just don't know.
I know for sure I have enjoyed multiple sexual relationships over the last 7 years and my marriage has never been better. Sam has never had sex with another woman, but he has watched me have sex a few times. Most times he might be in another room, or he will do video of it. Either way is a turn on for both of us.
Anyway back to the point, he talked about it over and over how great it would be for me to have sex with another man. As I said before is something that the more he talked about it the more I really wanted to do it.
One of the first things we did, which was not intimidating to me, was to place a personal ad in one of the online services. It read something like “a lonely housewife looking for an adventure, outside my marriage”. We did not use our real names but got tons of letters that I could answer. Sam knew everything and it was a huge turn on for both of us. It also kind of broke the ice.
Another thing that broke the ice for us was Sam would have me dressed up in sexy and somewhat revealing cloth and walked through either Wal-Mart or something like Home Depot, with him following. It's amazing the looks; I would get from other guys and even some girls. This was a small start but also a turn on and gave me trust in what my husband was telling me.
We also from time to time would go out to a club and dance on a number of occasions. I would sit at a table by myself and Sam would either sit at the bar or at another table. On a number of occasions guys would come up and ask to talk to me, and I ended up flirting with them and then buying me drinks.
On one occasion, I get the opportunity to dance with a guy. Sam, being my first, I had never held another guy close feeling another guy against me and knowing Sam was looking, and not getting pissed off, it was also a huge turn on for me to feel the guy get hard and push into me. Just another step in my sexual freedom.
After I was completely comfortable with the idea of having sex with another man Sam one Saturday morning told me that he would like for me to go to the club that night, by myself. I was really scared at first but with his encouragement, I said ok. I was also so turned on by the idea and at this point trusted him in what he was telling me. I was also so happy that he was letting me go by myself, I am 100% sure I would have never done anything with a guy if he had been there. Later that would change, but that took some time.
That evening after I had gotten dressed up in my best looking tight jeans and halter top, He said “Beth I want you to go and find someone that will either fuck you tonight or some other time, like when you got to know each other better”. He said he couldn't wait until I got home, so we could have glorious sex.
Well, to make a long story short I went to the club and met a guy that I knew from work. We danced and had a few drinks then he took me to a hotel and fucked the hell out of me. It was a night that I will always remember, not because of him but because of the sex that Sam and I had when I got home.
The most important thing, I believe in your case, is I would have never done that if Sam had been there.
Not at least for the first time. It was just too intense. Nevertheless, again that completely shattered the ice and for the first time in my life, I felt I had sexual freedom.
Be sure you understand and this is important, because I think that most wives may feel the same way that I do, she may never want her husband to have sex with another woman. If that should ever come up I would only suggest giving her assurance that's not what it's all about.
Tell her you just want her to have her sexual freedom, and that you love sloppy seconds. However, most important that it makes you happy, and that you are very proud of her.
.
There are 1 million little things that you can do, but it’s one step at a time. It may take you a year or more to even get her to consider it. However, believe me once I was convinced it was not his fantasy but a real it has been certainly worth it.
Like I said my marriage has never been stronger or more exciting. I hope this has not been too long and helpful, that's one reason I joined this site.
Beth
A number of women and men have asked me about my experience in this lifestyle. I thought this might be a good forma to tell you of mine and my husband’s Sam experiences, in hopes that it might help you.
I can only speak of my situation, but maybe it will give you some insight. First of all, my marriage has never been better or stronger. However, be clear in my situation my husband, Sam, did not want to participate or have sex outside of our marriage. His desire was to give me my sexual freedom and by that I mean his permission to have sex with other men and afterwards come home to him and not leave out any details it was such a turn on for both of us that we usually spent the rest of the evening in bed fucking like rabbits. lol
Something like this just did not happen overnight, but it took a lot of time for me to get use to the ideal. When Sam first suggested that maybe it would be fun for me to have sex with the pool boy, I was really pissed off because I could not comprehend that, on the one hand, he said he loved me and on the other he wanted me to have sex outside her marriage.
How in the world could you have both? Even though the thought did turn me on, and I am sure you understand that a woman wants sex as much as and I really think sometimes really more than a man. Nevertheless, I was in a dilemma as to whether he really felt that way or was it just a fantasy? One Big Fantasy?
While it was a great turn on for me to think about doing that, but I was very hesitant. I guess because I did not really believe he would continue to love me if I did something like that.
I also thought that if I had sexual relationships with other guys that would give him permission to have sex with other women. That would be the last thing I wanted. I know that seems selfish but that just happened to be my situation, your wife's situation, and yours may be different I just don't know.
I know for sure I have enjoyed multiple sexual relationships over the last 7 years and my marriage has never been better. Sam has never had sex with another woman, but he has watched me have sex a few times. Most times he might be in another room, or he will do video of it. Either way is a turn on for both of us.
Anyway back to the point, he talked about it over and over how great it would be for me to have sex with another man. As I said before is something that the more he talked about it the more I really wanted to do it.
One of the first things we did, which was not intimidating to me, was to place a personal ad in one of the online services. It read something like “a lonely housewife looking for an adventure, outside my marriage”. We did not use our real names but got tons of letters that I could answer. Sam knew everything and it was a huge turn on for both of us. It also kind of broke the ice.
Another thing that broke the ice for us was Sam would have me dressed up in sexy and somewhat revealing cloth and walked through either Wal-Mart or something like Home Depot, with him following. It's amazing the looks; I would get from other guys and even some girls. This was a small start but also a turn on and gave me trust in what my husband was telling me.
We also from time to time would go out to a club and dance on a number of occasions. I would sit at a table by myself and Sam would either sit at the bar or at another table. On a number of occasions guys would come up and ask to talk to me, and I ended up flirting with them and then buying me drinks.
On one occasion, I get the opportunity to dance with a guy. Sam, being my first, I had never held another guy close feeling another guy against me and knowing Sam was looking, and not getting pissed off, it was also a huge turn on for me to feel the guy get hard and push into me. Just another step in my sexual freedom.
After I was completely comfortable with the idea of having sex with another man Sam one Saturday morning told me that he would like for me to go to the club that night, by myself. I was really scared at first but with his encouragement, I said ok. I was also so turned on by the idea and at this point trusted him in what he was telling me. I was also so happy that he was letting me go by myself, I am 100% sure I would have never done anything with a guy if he had been there. Later that would change, but that took some time.
That evening after I had gotten dressed up in my best looking tight jeans and halter top, He said “Beth I want you to go and find someone that will either fuck you tonight or some other time, like when you got to know each other better”. He said he couldn't wait until I got home, so we could have glorious sex.
Well, to make a long story short I went to the club and met a guy that I knew from work. We danced and had a few drinks then he took me to a hotel and fucked the hell out of me. It was a night that I will always remember, not because of him but because of the sex that Sam and I had when I got home.
The most important thing, I believe in your case, is I would have never done that if Sam had been there.
Not at least for the first time. It was just too intense. Nevertheless, again that completely shattered the ice and for the first time in my life, I felt I had sexual freedom.
Be sure you understand and this is important, because I think that most wives may feel the same way that I do, she may never want her husband to have sex with another woman. If that should ever come up I would only suggest giving her assurance that's not what it's all about.
Tell her you just want her to have her sexual freedom, and that you love sloppy seconds. However, most important that it makes you happy, and that you are very proud of her.
.
There are 1 million little things that you can do, but it’s one step at a time. It may take you a year or more to even get her to consider it. However, believe me once I was convinced it was not his fantasy but a real it has been certainly worth it.
Like I said my marriage has never been stronger or more exciting. I hope this has not been too long and helpful, that's one reason I joined this site.
Beth
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