OFFTOPIC: What would you do? (Older folks)

[TheDevil]

Hey, as some of you know, i finished relationship with my 4 year best friend (a girl!), because i became too jealous of her sexual relationships.

Now i know what cuckolding is: it is extremely painful but also extremely arousing, but the rollercoster is crazy. The problem was, that i became very jealous, i just couldn`t take her sexuality... I really loved her and i dont mean just cuckolding, but everything about her. I wasnt in love, but i think i just loved her. I just couldn`t take the risk of losing her... So i turned a little bit aggressive and controlling, because i was so afriad. I have never felt so afraid!
So i made an agreement with her, that she will not answer my calls and e-mails. Get her totaly out of my life, so i can go on with my new girlfriend.

So here i am, with my current girlfriend, writing on a cuckold forum. She does care about me, but the more time goes on, is see, that im trying to make her more like my lost "girlfriend". My current girlfriend is much more attractive (looks are better), but she was still much better at domineering and playing with my mind. She told me if i would be more of a "bad" boy and didnt care about her, she would fall in love with me. I told her, i can never do it, i just can`t!

Finally i asked her, is there any chance that i and her can be a couple. She said, she cant imagine it. Now that was the rudest thing i have heard in my life! And i just had enough...



I just dont know what to do? Should i crawl back and try to repair our friendship or should i just let go and move on with my life? But i may never meet someone like her again... But i cant swollow my pride also.

 

[macylay]

I would say forget it... It's lost : )

 

[Custer Laststand]

Devil,

I just don't know what to do. Should I crawl back and try to repair our friendship or should I just let go and move on with my life? But, I may never meet someone like her again....

A truism that comes to mind is, "There are a lot of pebbles on the beach." Your former girlfriend's behavior toward you, and her statement to you, are clear indications she doesn't foresee a long-term or even short-term sexual relationship with you. I suggest considering her another lesson in "The School of Hard Knocks" and move on down the road.

Regarding your fear you may never meet someone like her again, consider the law of nature (well, sort of) derived from observations of cockroaches, mosquitoes and stars in the universe: "If you see one, you can be sure you ain't seen them all."

I would guess you'll be better off, though, if you don't find another girlfriend exactly like her. There are a lot of interesting women out there and there is great variability among them. You can gain much if you get to know more of them.

Speaking of which, for an example of a successful search strategy carried out by a man who wanted to find a particular kind of woman (and did), you might read the post of 6 May '09 by "mariescuck" under "General Cuckoldry," here:

http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/general-cuckoldry/12733-different-approach-cuckolding.html

(if you haven't already).

—Custer

 

[melanieandryan]

Just by simply reading your dilema, We would say that it is possible that you may have had somewhat of a borderline co-dependent relationship if not totally co-dependent. That is unhealthy, and can bring out irrational behavior from the dependee.

We are of the opinion that it is for the best that you move on. Yes, it is not easy.. but life goes on and as with all wounds, time will heal them.

We certainly believe that you will get past this.

All The Best,
Melanie and Ryan

 

[TheDevil]

Thank you guys!
I know, that my post was too wishy-washy, but i wanted to make it short. Anyway i thank you for your support and i will stay as far as i can from her.

Devilspeed,
T.D