Well I was almost there. We met a guy on-line she was attracted to. They talked for a while and seemed to like each other. We all met and they hit it off... she blew him, he fingered her pussy, he came all over her tits. I got to lick her tits clean. She didn't want to fuck him the first meeting but I realized that day how amazing she was and the situation was, and I so want her to be a slut wife... and me a cucked hubby... The problem is that I think he was weirded out by me watching or pissed he didn't get to fuck her and has never called her since. She has shut down the idea and will not even talk about it in bed. So I am left to the video I took that day and my fantasies. I need advice! Anyone out there been through the same type of thing? How do I get her to try this again? I know the big mistake I made was not getting more involved like helping undress her. Any advice to help a cuck wanna be become a full fledged cuck?
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NotQuite,
I was browsing here and saw your post and thought I'd offer a perspective.
If you find my posts here, you'll see that I too have just gone through this same transition with my own wife. Actually, we're still finding our way to what works best for us and, so far at least, it is an incredible journey.
When I read your posts, one thing I don't see is any mention of how you've been to and with your wife since her first try with another guy. I'm not speaking about the other guy who seems like a jerk for not calling back - but I'm talking about your wife having shut all of this down.
If that was truly her first time - then she may have let herself go and done things that she is now regretting or feeling guilty about. I understand that licking her breasts clean was symbolic that you enjoyed what she did - but I think, at least from how you've put it, that she didn't feel supported by you for what she did afterwards. I know that it took weeks and weeks of convincing my wife that I loved her, loved what she was doing, and was willing to support her in any way and that she need not feel any guilt or remorse or ill feelings about what she did.
It took quite a bit to get her to open up after the first time for her - to let herself believe and accept that I genuinely wanted her to be with another guy. Now, that seems somewhat long ago - and almost silly in retrospect, that we would have had those concerns given how we feel about each other - but at the time - my continued support and understanding of how she felt was essential to her wanting to go further.
I'm sure in the day(s) following that night she may have felt guilty about what she'd done or may have felt uncomfortable. If you didn't talk to her openly about it, she's associated that silence - in her mind- with the conclusion that she doesn't want to do it again.
At least that's my thoughts.
I was browsing here and saw your post and thought I'd offer a perspective.
If you find my posts here, you'll see that I too have just gone through this same transition with my own wife. Actually, we're still finding our way to what works best for us and, so far at least, it is an incredible journey.
When I read your posts, one thing I don't see is any mention of how you've been to and with your wife since her first try with another guy. I'm not speaking about the other guy who seems like a jerk for not calling back - but I'm talking about your wife having shut all of this down.
If that was truly her first time - then she may have let herself go and done things that she is now regretting or feeling guilty about. I understand that licking her breasts clean was symbolic that you enjoyed what she did - but I think, at least from how you've put it, that she didn't feel supported by you for what she did afterwards. I know that it took weeks and weeks of convincing my wife that I loved her, loved what she was doing, and was willing to support her in any way and that she need not feel any guilt or remorse or ill feelings about what she did.
It took quite a bit to get her to open up after the first time for her - to let herself believe and accept that I genuinely wanted her to be with another guy. Now, that seems somewhat long ago - and almost silly in retrospect, that we would have had those concerns given how we feel about each other - but at the time - my continued support and understanding of how she felt was essential to her wanting to go further.
I'm sure in the day(s) following that night she may have felt guilty about what she'd done or may have felt uncomfortable. If you didn't talk to her openly about it, she's associated that silence - in her mind- with the conclusion that she doesn't want to do it again.
At least that's my thoughts.
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Best way to get your wife into the lifestyle is to give her a present by arranging to get her a massage by a professional masseur in your home.
Call it a gift to her because you love her so much. You have to meet the
masseur first, tell him you want him to fuck your wife if she is willing, not to force her. These guys are so good with their hands they can make a Nun spread her legs. Tell him you want a full honest report on what happened and if she isnt willing on the first visit, you can arrange a second visit. No woman can resist a good masseur.
Best way to get your wife into the lifestyle is to give her a present by arranging to get her a massage by a professional masseur in your home.
Call it a gift to her because you love her so much. You have to meet the
masseur first, tell him you want him to fuck your wife if she is willing, not to force her. These guys are so good with their hands they can make a Nun spread her legs. Tell him you want a full honest report on what happened and if she isnt willing on the first visit, you can arrange a second visit. No woman can resist a good masseur.
NotQuiteCucked,
Cherry Lee (Ph.D.), on her erstwhile website that she no longer maintains (unfortunately), pointed out that if a married woman has sex with a man who is not her husband and feels guilty or uncomfortable about it, the best way for her to become accustomed to it is to do it again, as soon as possible.... then again, and again. Soon it will seem completely normal to her.
As an assist to moving your wife toward stepping up, moving out and increasing her status to cuckoldress, you might suggest she read this article:
The Science of Cuckoldry « Cuckold Couple
"Soon" and "Cuckhuby" have also given you some good advice. If you take their suggestions and proceed with patience and understanding, I suspect you will find your wife will make you her full-fledged cuckold before too much longer.
Regarding some of your comments:
That's excellent; very positive. For all practical purposes, I'd say your wife and you were "there."
That's also very positive. You made great progress with that first encounter.
That's OK. But I hope she told him verbally that she found him satisfying and wanted to see him again. If not, I suggest that could have made a big difference.
Great! That's a very good response on your part.
That's definitely the sort of thing you should come to agreement about in advance with your wife's lovers. If a prospective lover, or both he and your wife, want to fuck privately the first time — or perhaps the first several times — even if it's in your own home, in your marital bedroom, I suggest you should respect that and let them do so, while you spend the night in (say) your guest room, or on your couch.
I'd say that sounds speculative. That is, it sounds like it could be a result of a misunderstanding that may have been caused by lack of communication. If your wife doesn't consider it appropriate to call or otherwise contact him, I suggest it could make a big difference if you were to e-mail him with a note of thanks, saying something to the effect that you appreciated him meeting with both of you; your wife found him very satisfying. If he responds in a positive way, you could point out his reply to your wife. If that seems to give rise to a positive response in her, you could go from there and perhaps followup with a telephone call which would lead to meeting him again.
Oh-oh. It sounds like she feels her first extramarital lover rejected her after she gave him a fine blow job (which was clearly good; she brought him to orgasm), and her feelings are hurt.
Well, these are my suggestions. I think you need to gently heal her hurt feelings and "bring her along" as outlined by Soon. Cuckhuby's suggestion may be a good way to make it happen a second time.
Good luck—
Custer
* That's a good photo, BTW. You have a good-looking wife; she's very attractive.
I would say she has high potential as a cuckoldress.
Cherry Lee (Ph.D.), on her erstwhile website that she no longer maintains (unfortunately), pointed out that if a married woman has sex with a man who is not her husband and feels guilty or uncomfortable about it, the best way for her to become accustomed to it is to do it again, as soon as possible.... then again, and again. Soon it will seem completely normal to her.
As an assist to moving your wife toward stepping up, moving out and increasing her status to cuckoldress, you might suggest she read this article:
The Science of Cuckoldry « Cuckold Couple
"Soon" and "Cuckhuby" have also given you some good advice. If you take their suggestions and proceed with patience and understanding, I suspect you will find your wife will make you her full-fledged cuckold before too much longer.
Regarding some of your comments:
NotQuiteCucked said:
That's excellent; very positive. For all practical purposes, I'd say your wife and you were "there."
NotQuiteCucked said:
That's also very positive. You made great progress with that first encounter.
NotQuiteCucked said:
That's OK. But I hope she told him verbally that she found him satisfying and wanted to see him again. If not, I suggest that could have made a big difference.
NotQuiteCucked said:
Great! That's a very good response on your part.
NotQuiteCucked said:
That's definitely the sort of thing you should come to agreement about in advance with your wife's lovers. If a prospective lover, or both he and your wife, want to fuck privately the first time — or perhaps the first several times — even if it's in your own home, in your marital bedroom, I suggest you should respect that and let them do so, while you spend the night in (say) your guest room, or on your couch.
NotQuiteCucked said:
I'd say that sounds speculative. That is, it sounds like it could be a result of a misunderstanding that may have been caused by lack of communication. If your wife doesn't consider it appropriate to call or otherwise contact him, I suggest it could make a big difference if you were to e-mail him with a note of thanks, saying something to the effect that you appreciated him meeting with both of you; your wife found him very satisfying. If he responds in a positive way, you could point out his reply to your wife. If that seems to give rise to a positive response in her, you could go from there and perhaps followup with a telephone call which would lead to meeting him again.
NotQuiteCucked said:
Oh-oh. It sounds like she feels her first extramarital lover rejected her after she gave him a fine blow job (which was clearly good; she brought him to orgasm), and her feelings are hurt.
NotQuiteCucked said:
Well, these are my suggestions. I think you need to gently heal her hurt feelings and "bring her along" as outlined by Soon. Cuckhuby's suggestion may be a good way to make it happen a second time.
Good luck—
Custer
* That's a good photo, BTW. You have a good-looking wife; she's very attractive.
I would say she has high potential as a cuckoldress. Update. It may happen after all.
Hi all,
First off, thank you to those that responed to me last time. All of your advice is very much apprieciated. Since I last posted she went out of town for a night to visit a friend she went to school with and hasn't seen in years. Her friend was staying at a hotel in the city they met in so they wound up hanging out at the bar. To make a long story short, she met a guy a spend several hours getting to know him that night. She told him she wanted to have an affair and asked if he was interested. He said yes. She did nothing that night but she did like him very much and gave him her number. He called the other day to find out if she was still interested which she said she was. He is going to be back in the area within a couple of weeks and they are planning to spend the night. She is very excited and my cock is hard just thinking about it. If you are all interested I'll update you as events unfold.
Hi all,
First off, thank you to those that responed to me last time. All of your advice is very much apprieciated. Since I last posted she went out of town for a night to visit a friend she went to school with and hasn't seen in years. Her friend was staying at a hotel in the city they met in so they wound up hanging out at the bar. To make a long story short, she met a guy a spend several hours getting to know him that night. She told him she wanted to have an affair and asked if he was interested. He said yes. She did nothing that night but she did like him very much and gave him her number. He called the other day to find out if she was still interested which she said she was. He is going to be back in the area within a couple of weeks and they are planning to spend the night. She is very excited and my cock is hard just thinking about it. If you are all interested I'll update you as events unfold.
Update.
Hi guys, Thank you to all that have responded to my post. Things have gotten really interesting. I took some of the advice posted and went at it from a different angle. Anyway, she was out of the town for a night visiting a friend who she hadn't seen in years. She met a guy in the hotel bar and they hit it off and talked for hours. She asked him if he was interested in having an affair with her and that her husband was on board and encouraging her. Well, nothing happened that night except talking and getting to know each other. Since then, he has been calling her. He travels alot and is not going to be back in our area for a month or two but wants to see my wife before. He invited her to fly across country to meet him and spend a few days with him. She agreed to go! He is paying for the entire trip and she is so horny for this trip we are having more sex than ever.
I have to tell you though, now that this is a reality and is happening next week, I am a bit freaked out about her flying across country to basically live with guy for three nights. I never realized how jealous I was. She seems really cool about the whole thing and is so appriciative that I am letting her to this and have this experience. She sees me with a new respect that I trust her enough to let her go. It seem like this can be good for our marraige as long as I can handle it? What do you guys think?
Hi guys, Thank you to all that have responded to my post. Things have gotten really interesting. I took some of the advice posted and went at it from a different angle. Anyway, she was out of the town for a night visiting a friend who she hadn't seen in years. She met a guy in the hotel bar and they hit it off and talked for hours. She asked him if he was interested in having an affair with her and that her husband was on board and encouraging her. Well, nothing happened that night except talking and getting to know each other. Since then, he has been calling her. He travels alot and is not going to be back in our area for a month or two but wants to see my wife before. He invited her to fly across country to meet him and spend a few days with him. She agreed to go! He is paying for the entire trip and she is so horny for this trip we are having more sex than ever.
I have to tell you though, now that this is a reality and is happening next week, I am a bit freaked out about her flying across country to basically live with guy for three nights. I never realized how jealous I was. She seems really cool about the whole thing and is so appriciative that I am letting her to this and have this experience. She sees me with a new respect that I trust her enough to let her go. It seem like this can be good for our marraige as long as I can handle it? What do you guys think?
It is a wild ride, trying to keep from being too jealous while being turned on by your hotwife.
Yes, this can be good for your marriage, as long as your wife doesn't form emotional attachments with the guy. To keep that from happening, try to urge her to have another fuck buddy.
Also, shower her with gifts when she returns. Flowers is a good start.
Yes, this can be good for your marriage, as long as your wife doesn't form emotional attachments with the guy. To keep that from happening, try to urge her to have another fuck buddy.
Also, shower her with gifts when she returns. Flowers is a good start.
Don't worry, and don't be so jealous...
She's only going to fly accross the country, and fuck and suck her new friend for three days, possibly bareback, he will be filling her to the brim with his cum.
Your wife is very likely to enjoy it gratly..., maybe even ask you for permission to go back soon (at your expense).
Enjoy the ride.
She's only going to fly accross the country, and fuck and suck her new friend for three days, possibly bareback, he will be filling her to the brim with his cum.
Your wife is very likely to enjoy it gratly..., maybe even ask you for permission to go back soon (at your expense).
Enjoy the ride.
You're lucky she isn't cutting you off from today on...
Make sure she has a nice fresh shave, and that she packs her tiniest thongs before she leaves.
And, don't worry, even though his cock is longer and considerably thicker than yours, and will fill her up, and make her cum multiple times each time they fuck bareback..., she won't stay 'stretched out' for too long..., until the next time, that is...
Make sure she has a nice fresh shave, and that she packs her tiniest thongs before she leaves.
And, don't worry, even though his cock is longer and considerably thicker than yours, and will fill her up, and make her cum multiple times each time they fuck bareback..., she won't stay 'stretched out' for too long..., until the next time, that is...
