newbies need help

[talk2us]

We're a couple, 50s, in So Cal. We have been using IR in our fantasy/role playing (BB dildo, dirty talk) for a long time but never took it to the next level. Lately, we have started to talk about it as a reality. She would like to try it but is nervous of course. He is turned on by the idea of seeing her with a BBC. She gets really wild when we talk about IR during sex. She wants it, and he wants her to have it.

As much as we want it, we have some questions and concerns. First, how to meet someone? How does a cpl like us find a big bull who can satisfy her needs, but be safe also? How do you get over the nervousness and make that step? We hate to be a buzzkill, but how do other cpls and BBCs deal with the STD issue?

We would also consider meeting a discreet, attractive, and classy cpl who have some experience with IR and BBC. We could talk, & maybe more? We are also new to swinging but think it sounds like fun too. It might be nice to have an "intro" to the IR experience by someone we trust.

BBCs & cpls pls talk2us. Help us fufill our fantasy! Email us, & maybe more later.

Cheers,
talk2us

 

[searcher308]

It does not have to be difficult, first the two of you should decide what experience you want to have. You should decide if you want a very dominant guy who will take care of the wife and will ignore or even degrade hubby. Or if your looking for someone who is more of and equal playmate with the two of you. Once you know what you want - what experience your looking for, you can begin to put and add together.

A huge mistake couples make is place a very generic listing which gets them a wide range of guys when really they would only be interested in someone very specific.

My suggestion is that for your first experience, you look for someone experienced who can get you over you jitters and help you really experience the pleasures of seeing your wife used by an experienced bull. From there , once you have gotten a few meetings under your belt...you may decide your interests have changed, and you can again more specifically look for what you want.

As for safety. Find someone who is willing to get tested and provide you with the results at a meeting in advance of your play time. If it a local guy, meet for coffee or a drink - it will give you a chance to get comfortable with him and feel secure about having this man "nut" in your wife.

Also there are plenty of guys like me who will be glad to help you out - provide advice even though we may be geographically unavailable to you.

Finally, you catch the best fish with the best bait. So take some time to take some good pics of the wife.
Hope this helps.

 

[susan]

We started swinging 8 years ago and got into IR about 1 year ago because of experiences we had with a swinger black couple we met at several house parties. My first true "date" was with a more mature black business acquaintance that I trusted and liked and although hub stayed home, he was thrilled with me dating on my own and telling him of the experience. We went from that to meeting men at a IR lounge we heard of. . I guess what I'm trying to get across is that your first experiences will decide if you both want to stay in the lifestyle...It wont work if she is just doing it to please the husband and IMO your first experiment should be with someone you already know and trust. When you have "crossed the border" you should seriously talk it over and see if you wish to continue.
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[Zagg]

We started swinging 8 years ago and got into IR about 1 year ago because of experiences we had with a swinger black couple we met at several house parties. My first true "date" was with a more mature black business acquaintance that I trusted and liked and although hub stayed home, he was thrilled with me dating on my own and telling him of the experience. We went from that to meeting men at a IR lounge we heard of. . I guess what I'm trying to get across is that your first experiences will decide if you both want to stay in the lifestyle...It wont work if she is just doing it to please the husband and IMO your first experiment should be with someone you already know and trust. When you have "crossed the border" you should seriously talk it over and see if you wish to continue.
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Excellent advice, Susan. You're the Ann Landers of IR.

 

[talk2us]

thank you!

All of you - great advice so far, we REALLY appreciate it.

As to our preferences, we both need someone to help us over the jitters. Regarding us, he is a dominant male himself and won't do well as a submissive cuck. He will insist on more of an equal BM whom he wants to fulfill his wife's fantasies. He loves to see her turned on like that and of course he gets the benefit of the great sex. She doesn't respond to a threatening environment either, but will purr like a kitten (and fuck & suck like crazy) for a man like her husband, only with a BBC. That what she wants - a BBC attached to a fun and solid man to be with, like her husband. She will be treated firmly, but with respect. And she will love it.

We both want to explore the possibility of being introduced to IR by another couple which seems to be OK based on the responses so far. But if it happens another way, then OK too.

Thanks again. We said it before but we are nervous (but excited) about the possibilities. Any more solid and positive advice warmly appreciated.

talk2us