Sounds like you and your wife may be on your way....
Humm,
humm8869 said:
I gave [my wife's new dildo] to her last night; she loved it. I told her this was for her and I hoped this could make her cum like I couldn't.
Good! In saying that, you let your wife know it's important to you for her to be sexually satisfied. I suggest if you continue giving her that message (not in repetitive and blatant ways that soon begin to seem insincere, but rather in subtle, affectionate and varying ways), the more her affection for you and her appreciation of your sensitivity to her needs will tend to increase.
humm8869 said:
She laid down and just looked at it for a while. It made me so hard.... then she had me lube it up for her and I got to just start the tip into her before she took over.
Excellent! It's very promising that your wife requested you assist her in getting started with her sexual pleasure.
humm8869 said:
I just sat there my cock rock hard and dripping but she didn't seem to notice.... she just fucked herself nice and slow with this huge cock. I loved it.
She noticed, all right. Almost certainly, seeing your cock "rock hard and dripping" caused her to realize it turns *you* on to watch her getting sexed (albeit by herself, in this case).
To return to your question: "Will my wife's dildo lead to her making me her cuckold?" The manner in which you gave it to her, and her acceptance of it, and the way she began using it to fuck herself in front of you, suggests the two of you may be on your way (although your wife does not yet realize that, perhaps). As the next step, I suggest getting her accustomed to you bringing her to orgasm with a combination of sucking her cunt and using her (well-lubed) dildo. I suggest this because most women, it seems, cannot attain orgasm via penetrative intercourse, particularly if their husband or lover has an average or smaller-than-average cock (yours seems about average), but they can orgasm reliably via cunninglingus. For a good "how to" description, see:
Cunnilingus: A How to Guide for Orally Stimulating the Vulva
I suggest going down on your wife in a position that's comfortable for her (say, on her back in bed) — then, as you begin sucking her cunt, also gently begin inserting her "new lover" (agree with her on a name for her dildo) into her pussy. Since you observed her when she used it herself, you have a good idea how she likes it.... try to replicate that. At the beginning of your lovemaking, however, I suggest asking her to please hold your head lightly between her hands and guide you (as she wishes) while you're sucking her cunt, and also give you verbal instructions, both with respect to your cuntsucking and how to move her dildo, in order to maximize her pleasure. This will tend to have the effect of enabling your wife to feel she is in charge of your lovemaking, which I suggest is a desirable goal. Continue until she reaches orgasm. If she is capable of repeated orgasms and wants you to continue (ask her!), then continue until she is satiated before considering any form of sexual satisfaction for yourself. Always remember: ladies first!
Somewhat later, I suggest trying other positions. Another — after suitable foreplay, of course, to the point where your wife is turned on — would be for her to sit in your living-room easy chair, dressed in a short dress or skirt but sans panties. Then. give her a foot rub (with lube), then work your way up her legs, kissing and licking her legs as you go — then, as she raises her skirt for you — begin to suck her cunt and simultaneously insert her lubed dildo into her pussy. Continue as above, until she is satiated.
If your wife is fully satisfied after her dildo fucking and does not seem to want more, I recommend not expecting or pressing her to have intercourse with you. Rather, ask her if it would please her for you to masturbate at her feet — that is, on your knees, facing her in the nude as she relaxes in her easy chair wearing her short dress or skirt and camisole, after her orgasm(s). Or alternatively, ask her if she would prefer watching you masturbate on your back on the floor, while she similarly relaxes in her easy chair and observes you. I suggest this because apparently, many women like watching a man masturbate at their feet. If your wife is among them, this may be an additional source of sexual pleasure for her which will have the additional benefit of enabling her to feel she is "in charge" sexually.
If your wife is up for penetrative intercourse after her dildo fucking, I suggest asking her to fuck you on top, so she can move in whatever ways she finds most pleasing, until you cum in her pussy. Then, ask her to slide up and straddle your face and queen you, while (on your back) you clean your cum from her pussy with your tongue. Suggest she continue queening you until she orgasms again, if possible (on your face). In advance, both of you may wish to read:
The Fine Art of Queening
and/or:
queens and kings-the_history_of_queening
This will yield the benefits of one or more orgasms for your wife (from you sucking her cunt while dildo-fucking her pussy), an orgasm for you (from her fucking you on top), followed by an additional orgasm for your wife (from queening you). In addition, this should enable you to become accustomed to "cleaning" cum from your wife's pussy after she's been fucked (albeit your own, at this point) with your tongue, and it should help your wife become accustomed to expecting that from you.
humm8869 said:
I wanna hear more suggestions how to open her up more and more....
See above.
humm8869 said:
I am 100% truthful in all that I say and post.
That's a plus. It will be helpful if you get back to "us" (the forum) with updates from time to time re. how it's going, and how your new wife is responding.
Best wishes to both of you—
Custer