So for clarification I am not a "traditional" cuckold. I have very regular sex with my wife so there is no aspect of denial. This started with a fantasy I had of watching my wife have a one time threesome with 2 men and I would watch. We had never done anything with others at that point. Once I revealed this I was met with resistance but talked her into it (which went easier than it seems it should have) the issue became who and how, we tried to make a compromise and stumbled by inviting in a friend(fail) and eventually it became she would find someone she was comfortable with on her own and we would do a threesome- but I would be part of it. Not as easy to arrange as one might think. She actually did not tell him she was married until after a couple dates then revealed the plan. That happened 10 months ago and was great however it was not a one time thing. We have been doing so ever since. We speak very openly about what we are doing and try to ensure we maintain focus. However it morphed from inviting him to join us to solo visits with him, weekends away, travel etc. We talked each step of the way and decided what we were comfortable with. Now we have two parallel relationships for her, one with me and one with him and at times they coincide and we have a MFM. I don’t hate it but it is certainly not what I had fantasized about and presented to my wife. I don’t really want to try to squash it as she is like a school girl with the whole thing but I do feel like I hit a slippery slope.
I do appreciate certain benefits of this type of relationship, firstly safe sex. We had him tested and we all are only having sex within the relationship. Second, he is a person we feel safe with, normal, career, stability etc. We have read that "relationship" arrangements can be tricky due to emotions etc but we communicate a lot. I told her near the beginning that it was likely feelings could develop, she did not feel it would happen. I know her and she has never been a booty call type. Feelings have developed and we discuss it. I think it is certainly tricky but at the same time I appreciate my wife isn't willing to just jump on any opportunity for just the sex.
Although this is far from what I asked for it is something we both seem to enjoy. I am conflicted.
I do appreciate certain benefits of this type of relationship, firstly safe sex. We had him tested and we all are only having sex within the relationship. Second, he is a person we feel safe with, normal, career, stability etc. We have read that "relationship" arrangements can be tricky due to emotions etc but we communicate a lot. I told her near the beginning that it was likely feelings could develop, she did not feel it would happen. I know her and she has never been a booty call type. Feelings have developed and we discuss it. I think it is certainly tricky but at the same time I appreciate my wife isn't willing to just jump on any opportunity for just the sex.
Although this is far from what I asked for it is something we both seem to enjoy. I am conflicted.
