Need Help Getting Wife Started

[spartacly]

Need help with trying to convince my wife into this.

It has been about a year since I confessed I would be open to her playing with other men and in fact encouraged her to do it. She comes from a Catholic upbringing and has only been with one man her entire life...me.

I have tried in the past year to slowly try to convert her into accepting the idea and we seem to be stuck on her having very little interest. I hav told her she should get another man who can take her out and do whatever she wants with and preferably come home with a creampie for me to clean.

Some of my tactics have been to discuss it from time to time, try to get her to make me wear a chastity belt, which she will not do...try to make me wear her underwear, which she did once...so on and so forth.

Anyone with expertise on how I could try to get her to take another step forward please chime in.

Located in SE Mich. Any bulls around?

 

[SoonToBe]

Hey - just my opinion here but you are probably doing more damage than good with the whole chastity and panty thing. If your wife has never been with another guy, I think you're going about it the wrong way.

What you're doing is like telling someone who doesn't swim to jump off the high-dive board into the deep end.

Take a deep breath - go buy a Penthouse Letters magazine and just start by reading the stories to each other. See if she is aroused at the ideas. Tell her which stories turn you on the most - and make her tell you the same. You may learn a lot.

Once you get the ice broken - buy her a dildo or some toys and give it a name like Jim. Then work your way up to letting her "have Jim" first. You can go a long way towards your goal by using a good amount of lube. When my wife and I were first at this stage years ago I'd tell her after she'd cum from the dildo and I'd added even more lube - I'd tell her "this is how you'd feel if Jim was a real guy' and let her feel how excited you are.

Work this out in fantasy in bed between the 2 of you first. Go from there to role-playing and then you might have her ready for reality.

Otherwise you are fighting 20+ years or more of parental/catholic brainwashing that you're no match for unless you get her more acclimated to the idea.

I guess, in hindsight it seems sort of simple... Not so easy when you're where you are looking up the hill...

 

[stretch]

In my case it wasn't all that difficult, both my wife and I had fucked and fucked around with a huge number of others before we were married. Before we were married we discussed the whole idea of "marital fidelity" and decided to have an "open marriage". We agreed to tell each other of our "conquests" and describe everything about them in vivid detail if asked (and we both have always asked).

You are trying to force her into spreading her legs for other men against her will. That's actually a fine idea if she's into being dominated--and it is going to really suck if she isn't.

The suggestion regarding Penthouse Letters/Variations/Forum and read them to each other in bed is a start. Now don't even tell me that she won't let you eat her pussy or she won't suck you off--if either is the case you are wanting to run before you can even crawl.

You might try building a social relationship with a man or another couple with the goal of swapping or building a threesome--if you can "go there" a good ice-breaker is strip poker for "penalties" with everyone nude or any of various adult board games that involve drinking, heavy petting, and fucking.

If you get it started with your wife, chances are she'll enjoy it as much or more than you. It's getting started that will be difficult. Starting with just plain nudity and working into public fucking is probably your best inroad.

 

[spartacly]

No updates. Things have not progressed one bit. Almost like in one ear and out the other.

 

[OneForSure]

cdslave,
If your wife has had two other lovers, you are a cuck.

There is no right or wrong way.

The fact that she is now being open about things is certainly good. Continue to encourage this.

I'm not sure what growing her hair longer has to do with all of this.