I am in the same boat as you. My wife was also a virgin at marriage and has never seen another dick (in person). Here are some of the things I have done over the past 10 years...
- measure my dick
- make me kiss/lick her ass
- tell me my dick doesn't make her cum (I have to use my mouth or fingers)
- tell my my balls feel like marbles
- sit on my face after doing her
- watch some porn
- watch a DVD I made with just pictures of big cocks while I just licked her (she came twice)
- let me put my fingers in her, with my little one, while we are doing it so she can feel me
- watch some internet porn
- use a dildo on her
Here are some true scenarios I set up:
I did her, well she was on top and when she asked me to rub her, so she can cum (my dick won't make her cum). She was riding me and she leaned back to my knees ******** her pussy for me to rub. I pulled her up on to my face instead - it wasn't a creampie, but very very wet... Then she came on my face. Now she does it a lot!!!
The other morning when she got out of the shower, I called her over and told her I wanted to kiss her ass. She came over and I kissed her ass, then she sat on my face (didn't touch my dick). After she came on my face, she jumps off and started getting dressed for work. I asked her to write something on my dick, and she did: "TINY." Then I told her I want to kiss her ass every morning. So far, so good; she is jumping up on the bed and making me kiss her ass - haven't been able to orgasm again - yet, because she is usually running late for work. but that is more progress...
Last night was great... My wife asked me to rub her ass, which I did. Then she rolled onto her side and reached around and felt my little soft dick, she yanked it (in and attempt to make it bigger) till it got hard, then she rubbed my dick on her pussy for a minute. Then she asked me to to fuck her with my fingers. I did. After she came she asked me if I wanted to see her ass (which is how I normally cum by my own hand). I said no, it is alright as long as you came. Then I asked her to write something on my dick, she wrote, "NOT big." Then I told her I really liked that she teased my dick on her pussy then asked for my fingers. I also told her I wanted her to control when I cum and that she should make me earn an orgasm, like I have to make her cum 5 times first or something. She said, if I am good she will let me cum tomorrow. About 5 minutes later she stroked my very hard dick a couple of times and I told her, see how hard what you did made my dick, she said yes and stopped stroking.
It was a great night and I would say some serious progress was made...
Ok, the other night more progress was made. We started our normal pre-sex fondling, then I said if she would like a new job as a sports reporter. This was right after the Cavs/Celtics game by the way. She said why. Then I said so she could do locker room interviews after the game. She played along the whole night. At one point I said some of the big dicks would hit her shoulder as she sat on the bench; then I hit her shoulder with my finger and she immediately turned her head and began to suck my fingers (she has never done that). Through out the night she said she wanted to fuck a big dick. The word "black" never was expressed, but she asked if "they" would like her; and I said yes, a pretty little white girl like you. I think I will explode when she finally admits she would like a BBC. Then towards the end, she said I would be waiting outside and she would make me eat her pussy when she came out, because my dick is too small - that is when I came!! In the morning we went at it again - I mentioned she had a busy night getting fucked twice, she said yes. Then I said, what am I supposed to do after you get fucked. She said, eat my pussy, then she pushed me down!!!
This is going to be a great couple weeks of NBA playoffs!!!
This one worked!! Any other 'story lines' that work?
My latest 'accomplishment' happened a couple weeks ago. I found a CFNM locker room reporter scene, (to rejuvenate the locker room reporter fantasy from the NBA play-offs), and I got her to watch it. I licked her while she watched - she liked it! Both athletes were much bigger than I (me hard them flaccid). After she watched the clips, she asked me if I wanted her to search the web for more porn, I said yes. She searched for group sex!!! Interesting, I know. She was disappointed when the movie sites kept redirecting, etc. So she shut the computer off (I made her a page with links to 'good' sites and movie clips, so she will not be disappointed again). At any rate, after she came about three times, I convinced her to not let me cum. She said, "ok, I've decided, you don't get to cum tonight." I was strokin, and she told me to stop. Then she made me give her a massage, for about 1 hour (my back hurt afterwards). The next morning, I prompted her, I asked her if I could play with my little dick. She said yes. About five minuted into it, she said, "remember, you don't get to cum." Five minutes after that, she said that's enough, stop. Later that day, I asked her if she wanted me to clean the shower - I did. The next day I had to clean the toilets and do laundry. It was a great couple of days. Then it went away... No more "games" since that couple of days, I am hoping to recreate the same couple days again soon. As always, I am looking for subtle approaches.?.?.?
That is where I am now - I really need some new approaches. Any ideas???
For her birthday this year she got a black dildo... I love it - although she is just starting to warm up to it. For instance, while sitting on me she will say, "I know what you want to do - Fuck me with the dildo." She is right, everytime she asks me what I want, I say I want to use the dildo on her - I never say I want to have sex with her, I just want her to cum and used the dildo on her...
The last time I used that dildo on her I got her to agree to role play. I was in the shower and she came in after me. I pretended to be a athlete and she a cheerleader/reporter who has heard I have a big cock (the dildo). She knelt and sucked it, I did her standing up with it (something I can not do, too small). It was a good episode!!
Well, that dildo was a cheap one and she didn't like it so it got trashed. But I bought her the Lex dildo for her birthday this year!! We have used is a couple of times (it is twice my length and girth), but she has to be really into it for this dildo, because it is sooo big.
I recently told her I did not want her to wear a bra if I was with her, this was during sex. Then the other day when we got back from a store, she showed me she wasn't wearing a bra. My wife is a 32a, and never leaves home without bra, because it adds size. But, she did... Progress again.
Just some ideas for you, I am always looking for new ideas on how to introduce the lifestyle in subtle ways.