Need Advice

[jdbassin]

Okay here is our story, I had a history with swinging when I met my wife and shortly after we met we got into the lifestyle. That went on for a few years and then just kinda fizzled. The main reason is lack of interest on my part, sort of. It's not that I'm all together uninterested, It's that I am uninterested in the my having sex part. I've discivered over the years that what I like most is, sometimes watching, It's nice to see a big cock in her and she has had many. But what gets me off most is when she meets up with black men for sex, one or even more, but without me. coming home well fucked. I actually have two things I would like to make happen.
1) I would like to play the part of a servant. She has a black lover or lovers over and I do everything they need me to do for THEIR pleasure. Get them drinks. Put him in her (For some reason I am super aroused by the thought of guiding his cock into my wife) , get them aroused, etc If need be I would be willing to lick her pussy and suck his cock to get them ready,

2) I want her to have a regular black lover, one that she can see anytime, on the way home, over a weekend whatever. This is what actually is my favorite, when she is getting filled with black cock and I'm not there. and this I really don;t understand but, before we stopped she actually got pregnant by her black lover and I was never so aroused in my life, unfortunately she miscarried.

So here is the needing advice part, We stopped, How do I start it back up, Second, Cuckoldry was not a part before, I'm even willing to accept not getting to fuck her again if that's what it takes

 

[shortstop]

Back in again

Hi, If you want to really get back in again, sit her down and talk to her (prefably after a few romantic drinks). Tell her the truth, exactly what you are thinking. You can't do any more damage than you are doing slowly now. Be careful though about one boyfriend, it can backfire. Better two or three that she makes her choice from. I find taht a few drinks out on the patio with the radio playing and relaxing is inducive to honest talk. Just start by asking her if she would like to start again and tell her that you would like to be more involved this time, like serving drinks etc. Good luck I know how you feel

 

[carina_halerose]

Okay here is our story, I had a history with swinging when I met my wife and shortly after we met we got into the lifestyle. That went on for a few years and then just kinda fizzled. The main reason is lack of interest on my part, sort of. It's not that I'm all together uninterested, It's that I am uninterested in the my having sex part. I've discivered over the years that what I like most is, sometimes watching, It's nice to see a big cock in her and she has had many. But what gets me off most is when she meets up with black men for sex, one or even more, but without me. coming home well fucked. I actually have two things I would like to make happen.
1) I would like to play the part of a servant. She has a black lover or lovers over and I do everything they need me to do for THEIR pleasure. Get them drinks. Put him in her (For some reason I am super aroused by the thought of guiding his cock into my wife) , get them aroused, etc If need be I would be willing to lick her pussy and suck his cock to get them ready,

2) I want her to have a regular black lover, one that she can see anytime, on the way home, over a weekend whatever. This is what actually is my favorite, when she is getting filled with black cock and I'm not there. and this I really don;t understand but, before we stopped she actually got pregnant by her black lover and I was never so aroused in my life, unfortunately she miscarried.

So here is the needing advice part, We stopped, How do I start it back up, Second, Cuckoldry was not a part before, I'm even willing to accept not getting to fuck her again if that's what it takes

this the same way i feel and we are looking hard to find the right guy black or white to be her reg lover.

 

[duke9555]

want advice? Go back to Romania

 

[s_zip99]

Wtf ?

want advice? Go back to Romania

How exactly is your post helpful to this thread? Other that trolling, what exactly is its purpose?

 

[Custer Laststand]

Want advice? Go back to Romania.

Give it a rest. We don't need any patriotic jingoism* in this forum, which includes participants from many countries. All should feel welcome.

*Colloquial definition: excessive bias in judging one's own country as superior to others – an extreme type of nationalism.

 

[carina_halerose]

Give it a rest. We don't need any patriotic jingoism* in this forum, which includes participants from many countries. All should feel welcome.

*Colloquial definition: excessive bias in judging one's own country as superior to others – an extreme type of nationalism.

Custer

you may still be talking above their grade level

 

[uscavsct]

back to the advice!

I think macNfries and shortstop gave some excellent advice. I think that regardless of one's lifestyle or situation, good communication is ALWAYS the key. Search out your own motivations, and talk with her, but don't just talk. LISTEN to what she has to say too!

Best of luck

 

[melanieandryan]

Give it a rest. We don't need any patriotic jingoism* in this forum, which includes participants from many countries. All should feel welcome.

*Colloquial definition: excessive bias in judging one's own country as superior to others – an extreme type of nationalism.

Custer,

Great statement!

 

[melanieandryan]

I think macNfries and shortstop gave some excellent advice. I think that regardless of one's lifestyle or situation, good communication is ALWAYS the key. Search out your own motivations, and talk with her, but don't just talk. LISTEN to what she has to say too!

Best of luck

Perfect! and that is what has been the glue that has re-inforced out marriage/lifestyle!! Very well put.

Melanie and ryan