Made my wife the offer

[eekabug]

I have had cuckold fantasities since my ex-gf cheated on me constanly about 16 yeasr ago..
My wife of eleven years is going through a rough patch of a mid life crisis (she is only 34). I told her I loved her but if she wanted to see other people it would be ok and even encouraged her to do so. I do not want to push too hard but what is the next step?

 

[rolnoles]

role play in bed and see if she gets wet or mad.Buy a dildo bigger then you lay on top of her kissing and nibbling her neck and breast while working the dildo in and out like your someone else someone bigger.

 

[SoonToBe]

Do what we did when we first started - have her give her dildo a name - like Pete or Bill - then start to work that into your fantasy/role-playing together. Tell her stuff like "let Bill have you first then I will go" - let her get accustomed to another "guy" making her cum and get used to you talking about other guys.

Then be patient - don't force it but don't give it up either. It took over 10 years for my wife to finally go for it for real.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Eekabug,

That's an interesting screen name.

I have had cuckold fantasities since my ex-gf cheated on me constanly about 16 yeasr ago.

OK....

My wife of eleven years is going through a rough patch of a mid-life crisis (she is only 34).

Some context would be helpful. "Mid-life crisis" is very vague; it probably means different things to different people. What's happening? (Also, how old are you?)

I told her I love her....

Good move....

....but if she wants to see other people, that would be ok and I even encouraged her to do so.

That's a good start....

I do not want to push too hard, but what is the next step?

You're right, "pushing too hard" would be a bad idea, but you've planted the seed. If your wife did not reject that idea out of hand, or get upset or otherwise respond in a hostile way, I suggest you can interpret that as positive. Even if she did not appear to embrace the idea of taking lovers, she is almost certainly thinking about it and turning it over in the back of her mind.

Your question has been asked many times by many different men on this forum, and there are fairly broad ranges of replies and suggested strategies by forum members. If you spend some time looking around and reading the posts, spending time on those that seem most relevant to your situation, you'll start getting a feel for some ways to proceed.

It might also be helpful to fill us in with some additional background.

—Custer