I'm back...an update

[I_am_cuck]

You guys probably remember me as, 'Am_I_a_cuck?'...I went away and now I'm back. As you can see by my name change I have accepted my role and decided to not fight it.

My wife and I have come to an agreement and we are both happy. I am no longer depressed, nor do I feel disrespected. My wife loves me. We've both went through therapy and it's really helped...mostly me.

Aside from her having sex with other men our marriage is normal. We eat dinner together, watch tv together, go out to the movies, the beach, even church every Sunday...we make love, infact just this morning.

We have found a happy middle ground. My does continue to use corporal punishment on me, but we both enjoy it. We make love often, and I perform oral on her, both for our pleasure, and when she is done with her lovers. She has brought b/f's home for sex but I do not watch yet. I have been in the other room and can hear. She usually has me stay in the guest room, and she has free run of the house for a few hours. I've met the two men she usually has sex with and they are both decent, respectful guys. One is a bit bossy to me, but its ok, I think he is just playing a roll for when I am able to watch.

I do get to clean my wife out, both when she goes out and 'plays', or when she does it in the house. She has only brought the guys home maybe 3 times since I've last been on here...or 3 times while I've been home.

I know she abused me in the past, and lied about her affairs, but she didn't know what to do when she fucked the first guy...she couldn't get off the bus, so to speak. When it got too far gone she was too scared to tell me...then it came out and she just really started to abuse me, mentally and physically. But we've talked it out and I've forgiven her...she is honest about her mistakes in the past.

So I am a cuck, and I am happy, honestly happy. My wife loves me, our marriage and her freedom to explore her sexual desires. We do have boundaries and limits, we both do and they must be respected or either of us can have her affairs ended, (that's what we've agreed to).

I will be a regular poster on here and I just wanted to update you all.

 

[AngleBaby]

How far was she willing to go to keep you in her life?

 

[sptbj2]

It's good to have you back. Please do fill us in on the details. I'm very intrigued about the therapy. Is it something you did together? What issues did you work through and what outcomes did you experience?

Please tell us more about your relationship and the corporal punishment. Are you submissive to your wife in other ways? What kind of agreement do you have? Did you start this or did she?

You said that she abused you and lied to you in the past. How did she change? Did she go through therapy too? Fucking other men and corporal punishment would be considered abuse by some. Do you consent to this? Do you really like it? Would you change abut this if you could change anything?

 

[I_am_cuck]

Hi 'AngleBaby'...good question I am totally in her life now, 100%, physcially and emotionally. She has her nights out, and she doens't ask me if she can go out, of course, but she says something like, 'honey, I am going out tonight without the girls, so you know what that means', something in that vein. She has brought her b/f's home when I am there 3 times, it was pre-agreed by both of us. She knew before she even went out that she would be bringing them home, (I think it was a legistics problem with the b/f's love nest'. I have stayed in our 'guest room' all three times.

I knew twice it was her fav and regular b/f, 'Greg'. Once was the other guy she sees sometimes only.

Besides her 'fun night with out wihout me', we are like a regular couple. We do everything together, we kiss, we cuddle, everything that I mentioned earlier in the thread. We just went to a concert last night.

SPTBJ, therapy is a god send. We've gone as a couple twice, and we worked on our relationship issues, ie: communications, feelings, knowing each others feelings and understanding them. She is a supporter of Imago Therapy and I love it. We have not brought up her 'sexual appitite' in couples therapy. My wife has not gone to individual. I have gone, about twice a week now, for individual, about 15 times. I have brought up our cuckold lifestyle, (not using that word), and she never judges anyone, as she says, but says it is destructive and is a hinderence to us 'fixing' our marriage, or improving it.

My therapist brings up how a lot of my childhood trauma is the reason for me 'accepting' what my wife does, or even supporting what she does. I told her I didnt know when she first started to have sex out of our marriage. She insists the signs were there, and I ignored them, even accepted them, and she is right. It gets to my co-dependence issues, my low self esteem and a shit load of other issues that my therapist has, and is, helping me overcome.

I've asked her to not bring up the sex out of our marriage thing in our couples, at least not now, and she will not. Long story short, my therapis says until my wifes stops doing that, or until I show my wife her actions are not accetable, our marriage will not be healed or healthy. Its odd how our marriage is actually the best ever, because of my therapists help, and she isn't even aware of it.

My story is really long, if you go back and read my thread by, 'Am_I_a_cuck?', its all there. I 'bumped it up to the front, so others who maybe didn't know can read it.

I do accept her corporal punishment, but its a kink of ours. We both enjoy it and its very mutual. She does use it for behavior modification, but not often as I don't misbehave often. Its usually before sex, and she loves me to eat her after she's tanned my bottom...she cums A LOT...she even paddles me gently in the '69' position, it drives us both crazy. I agree, her having sex could be seen as corporal punishment I suppose, but we look at it as we both love each other, she has very strong sex needs that I can't hit, so its something we've both come to accept and agree upon.

I hope that clears it up a bit? I would like to share a story of her regular, 'Greg', and how she plans to introduce me into her love making with him, but thats for later. We are getting ready to head to Church.

 

[AngleBaby]

But you didn't answer my question. I asked how far is your wife, not you, is willing to go to keep you in her life? Is she willing to stop if it was a choice between a loving and healthy relationship with you, or sex with her BFs and not having you or your love in her life?

 

[I_am_cuck]

Haha 'Mac'...good try, its not going to work, you have to get up pretty early to get a rise from me, and you are not able to do it. I suppose you won't be in heaven yourself, (you know the one about stones, casting, sin, etc)? *wink*

'AngleBaby'..my bad, I must have not understood fully, your question. She would stop having sex with her b/f's, yes, she has said so. When it initially happened 10 years ago we had some serious problems in our relationship. Neither knew how to deal with our problems.

I hope that answers your question, succinctly as possible.

We are in an agreement, yes, a mutual agreement.

 

[Custer Laststand]

You're a good man, I_am_cuck.

I_am_cuck,

Thanks for your articulate and well-stated update. I've been wondering for some time how things were working out for you.

You guys probably remember me as, 'Am_I_a_cuck?'...I went away and now I'm back. As you can see by my name change I have accepted my role and decided to not fight it.

You're a good man. Choosing to accept your wife's high sexuality, your role as her cuckold, and to refrain from a traumatic break-up of your family was the right way to go.
..............

Aside from her having sex with other men, our marriage is normal. We eat dinner together, watch tv together, go out to the movies, the beach, even church every Sunday...we make love, in fact just this morning.

Sounds good.

We have found a happy middle ground. My wife does continue to use corporal punishment on me, but we both enjoy it.

It's very positive that your wife views spanking you (and, perhaps, inflicting other forms of corporal punishment) as a natural aspect of her role as the woman of your household, and that you have a natural tendency to accept that and are, in fact, turned on by it. Speaking of which, perhaps your wife and you as well would find this site of interest (if the two of you aren't familiar with it already):

DWC Index Page (4)

We make love often, and I perform oral on her, both for our pleasure and when she is done with her lovers.

Excellent. It's very important to be your wife's cuntsucker, and especially so after she returns from (or finishes) trysts with her lovers. It conveys, in a way she cannot fail to understand, your acceptance of it being her privilege and prerogative to date and fuck other men.

She has brought b/f's home for sex but I do not watch yet. I have been in the other room and can hear.

That's good. If your wife brings her lovers home and fucks them while you listen, you know without doubt you are her cuckold and that is the truth. You've obviously come to the conclusion this is much better than her slipping away and fucking her lovers without telling you, leaving you to suspect (but never knowing for sure) you are her cuckold.

[My wife] usually has me stay in the guest room, and she has free run of the house for a few hours. I've met the two men she usually has sex with, and they are both decent, respectful guys. One is a bit bossy to me, but that's ok — I think he is just playing a roll when I am able to watch.

This too sounds good. It would be a bummer if your wife's lovers were men you couldn't stand. When you become more comfortable with them, you might consider suggesting to your wife that you serve them refreshments — pour their wine, serve them snacks, etc. — when they come over, to enable her to focus more completely on interacting with her lovers.

I do get to clean my wife out, both when she goes out and 'plays' and when she does it in the house. She has only brought the guys home maybe 3 times since I've last posted here...or 3 times while I've been home.

As your wife's cuckold, it's good practice (as I mentioned) to always clean her pussy with your tongue and give her cuninlingus after her trysts, preferably so she attains one or more additional orgasms, so you're doing well on that front. Speaking of which, perhaps your wife and you would find this site of interest:

The Fine Art of Queening

Furniture for this activity, which might make it more comfortable and enjoyable for your wife (and you as well), can be found, for instance, here:

queens and kings-queening

I know she abused me in the past, and lied about her affairs, but she didn't know what to do when she fucked the first guy...she couldn't get off the bus, so to speak. ....

Ah, well.... those things happen. It's good to hear you managed to rise above it, and your wife now recognizes the advantages of being completely upfront about fucking other men.

So I am a cuck, and I am happy, honestly happy. My wife loves me, our marriage and her freedom to explore her sexual desires. We both have boundaries and limits, and they must be respected or we've agreed that either of us can end her affairs [or "an" affair, I gather(?)].

Good. This sounds like more-or-less the best possible outcome, and a very sane way for you to acknowledge — and your wife to satisfy — her sexuality via taking lovers.

I will be a regular poster on here and I just wanted to update you all.

Thanks again; I appreciate it and will look forward to your continuing contributions.

—Custer

 

[I_am_cuck]

CLS, as always, its nice to read an intelligent post. Luckily the immature, attacking posts are far and few between.

I have seen the DWC link, but not the others. I will ask my wife if she wants to do the queening position, it looks like something we'd both enjoy.

One sex position my wife really enjoys is where she lies on her back, with her butt right on the side of the bed, fully opening her pussy for deep fucking. She loves me to fuck her for a while, then go down on her for a while, then repeat over and over. I LOVE it as well. We can do this for 20 minute or more before I cum.

She does the same position with her fav b/f 'Greg', however he does not eat her in between.

As I was going to say in my earlier post, this is how my wife is going to introduce me into her love making with 'Greg'...he will be making love to her, pull out and I will perform oral on her, and we both will repeat this over and over until 'Greg' cums, then I will get to clean my wifes pussy out.

We are not sure when she is going to go ahead with this plan, but soon she says. She has brought it up to 'Greg' and he is ok with it, and I am as well. So its up to my wife when she thinks I am ready for it.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Your wife has been moving you forward fairly rapidly....

I_am_cuck,

CLS, as always, its nice to read an intelligent post. Luckily the immature, attacking posts are few and far between.

Thanks; I appreciate your saying so.

I have seen the DWC link, but not the others. I will ask my wife if she wants to do the queening position; it looks like something we'd both enjoy.

Awright....

One sex position my wife really enjoys is where she lies on her back, with her butt right on the side of the bed, fully opening her pussy for deep fucking. She loves me to fuck her for a while, then go down on her for a while, then repeat over and over. I LOVE it as well. We can do this for 20 minute or more before I cum.

That's very cool.... I haven't heard of that style of fucking before, nor have my wife and I tried it.

She does the same position with her fav b/f 'Greg', however he does not eat her in between.

Ah.... so you're giving your wife something she isn't getting from her lover(s). It's probably safe to say that's a point in your favor. If you encourage her to queen you after her trysts and she becomes accustomed to that, I would guess that'll be another plus for you, especially if she's able to orgasm in that position. If she doesn't seem to adapt immediately, you might point out the comment in the queening article: "Learning to ride a man's face properly is like learning to ride a horse.... it takes skill and practice" (or words to that effect).

As I was going to say in my earlier post, this is how my wife is going to introduce me into her love-making with 'Greg'...he will be making love to her, pull out and I will perform oral on her, and we both will repeat this over and over until 'Greg' cums, then I will get to clean my wifes pussy out.

That's an excellent idea. It sounds like your wife is a woman with imagination and a natural flair for handling you vis-a-vis her lover(s). Obviously, she understands that will be a suitable position and role for you as her cuckold.

We are not sure when she is going to go ahead with this plan, but soon she says. She has brought it up to 'Greg' and he is ok with it, and I am as well. So it's up to my wife when she thinks I am ready for it.

You can rely on your wife to judge well when you're ready for this step.... although, if it seems like too much time is passing, you might enquire (in a polite way, of course) if she thinks you're making reasonable progress toward that goal.

Meanwhile, have you considered talking with your wife about purchasing a "baby monitor" — i.e., a one-way intercom — and installing it with the microphone end in your marital bedroom, and the speaker end in the guest room where you sleep (if that's possible) while your wife fucks her lovers in your marital bed? That would enable you to hear all aspects of their passionate fucking clearly, which — in turn — may enable you to sooner reach the point of being able to accept your wife fucking her lovers in front of you. Also, it may make your wife's fucking other men in your marital bed even hotter for you. (Just a thought....)

—Custer

 

[Saraha]

The therapy has been an outstanding success, and I fully approve of your new co-operation as a team". Honesty in your cravings always wins out, because you then know how to add value to each other's lives.

Your therapist does not understand how committed you are to fem-dom. It is helping you to cope with the traumas of your childhood as evidenced by the "exciting upturn" of your marriage in recent weeks. You have uncorked the magic formula.

The value of your therapist is that she got you both talking as a couple, and you also opening up completely in your seperate, private sessions. It is not your therapist's job to "change your wife" or think your wife is not dealing with her issues. The dividends are already coming from a better marriage.

Your therapist was thinking correctly that your wife was getting "more than her share", so she was wanting to even up things for you, so you could leave your childhood trauma behind.

Anything you can tell us about the punishment side of your marriage would be most appreciated, as we don't get many people prepared to open up and provide the detail we all need to hear.

 

[I_am_cuck]

My bad Mac, I didn't think you were the type to 'cast stones', however I was not sure. We are not Catholics, as you thought...we go to a non-denomination regular Christian church, and have been going to the same place for many years. We have many many friends there and we are warmly welcomed. I am sure everyone there has their own issues...maybe not as extreme as our marriage, but they all have things going on.

Saraha, you bring up some excellent observations. Some I have not put together, but I think you were right on target....well done, I like what you said, and agree. As far as the punishment, are you talking corporal punishment? I am a very open person, and my therapist said I am one of the most open men she has EVER had in her office, and she's been doing this for over 17 years. That is why I've gotten so much out of my sessions with her, because I am in touch with feelings, and so open with them... I just needed some help in direction and help with understanding them.

My wife uses a leather paddle type of tool. It has a heart cut out in it and it leaves a mark as such. It hurts very much so. As I said, she usually just uses it before we have sex, but not all the time, mostly when she is in the mood. She just tells me to either bend over the bed, or sometimes over her lap, and she will give me 5-10 wacks. Then its always me performing oral on her right after and she cummmms a lot.

There are times when I maybe do not behave as I should. These times she has me go upstairs and wait for her. She will come up later on, and tell me to, 'get the paddle' and give it to her. She usually has me sitting on the edge of the bed, and she will take the paddle, hold it under my chin and lift my eyes to her eyes and explain what I did wrong. Then she usually says, 'you know I love you, right, and because I love you you have to be corrected for bad behavior' and I agree and she kisses me.

Then she tells me to pull down my pants, or whatever I am wearing, and she starts the punishment. In between wacks she explains again why she is doing it, and what I did wrong. These spankings hurt a lot, and I have cried. After she is done she makes me sit back on the edge of the bed, but my ass hurts so bad its hard to do so. She once again, goes over why she did it, what I did wrong, what she expects from me, how she loves me, and then she sweetly kisses me...!

I love her so much...!!!