How to handle this..Cheating partner?

[CuriousHigh]

Hi. Iam a 36 year male and have lurked on this site for the past year.

I decided to sign up after discovering my partner of 10 years could be 'cheating'.

Why 'could be'? Well, last year i bought her some seamed stockings over Christmas. She wore them once on the night but have been left in the draw since then. Putting things away last month i noticed them missing. She hadn't worn them in my company so my mind goes into overdrive( she has never worn stockings in the 10 years ive known her).

Then two days ago - they turn up back in the draw, looking used (half rolled down), with what looks like specks of cum near the top:bowdown:

Now, ive always been into the idea of a cheating partner in fantasy, but this could be for real so its new territory. My thoughts: Iam pretty laid back kinda guy. I dont see any partner of mine as my property (if i was married i may feel different), so i dont have a problem with it. I dont feel angry, just interested where this could lead.

My question really is how best to approach her about this. She is usually the one to frown or get annoyed when she hears of someone cheating, so im kinda surprised if this is true.

Am i getting carried away by the missing stockings or am i on to something?

I value your opinions as you all seem to know your stuff! I'd like to hear from both men and women on this for different viewpoints.

Thankyou

 

[Tara]

Pussy

She probably is. So next time you suspect get her in bed and eat her pussy and you will know.

 

[Zagg]

You might be onto something. By doing something about it, you're probably going to change your marriage substantially. That could turn out well or not so well for you. Maybe she's doing a brotha and would be happy for you to participate. Or maybe, once you confront her about it, she might own up to having an affair and leave your for her lover. So far she seems to want to keep it a secret. If you bring it out in the open, you'll have to be ready to live with the consequences.

 

[susan]

First thing I would worry about is her hygiene if she dont rinse out her nylons with goo stains on them. (Sorry, but that was too easy). I think Tara's suggestion is best in order for you to be almost certain of what she is doing....That is how hubby caught me cheating soon after we were married which led us to experiment with swinging. I would not suggest you confront her, but slowly let her know how much you would like to see her with another man and eventually she may understand your desire is legitimate. If she is in love with her Lothario, maybe in time she will tire,, If its sexual experementation it may open new horizions for you both. In any case..I wish you luck

 

[CuriousHigh]

Thanks for your replies:

@Tara - Nice idea, but she's not a big fan of oral - maybe she has something to hide

@Susan - LOL, good point about the hygiene.

When you let your hub go down on you, did you know full well there were still 'remains' there or was it a mistake?

So you think the best way to go about this is not to confront her, but carry on as normal. Just bring up the idea of another man in due course?

@Zagg - Good points and ive taken them on board. If i confront her it may screw up things, but playing it slow it may work out good for both of us.

She is away until Friday, so i have some time to mull it over. Any other comments welcome. I will let you know how it unfolds if anyone is interested.

Thanks

 

[Clyde]

Any man or woman is capable of cheating even if they voice disgust at others doing it.

She may never invite you along even if you approach the subject in a curious way. This may be very personal and private for her and she may be in love with this other person.

Just be honest and upfront and don't play any fucking games. Tell her what you suspect, don't accuse, and tell her you are not angry but you would like to know the truth. Tell her you deserve to hear the truth.

 

[RedNeckWM]

You will never miss anything she's gives away,Just let it go

 

[susan]

Curious....At the time hub was working second shift and I was with another man once a week. I would get home before him but simply neglected to Douche on several occasions....Luck would have it that those were some of the times he wanted sex. He could taste the goo and I was ultra wet when he had 'seconds' He fianlly set me down for a heart to heart talk and was good about the entire thing. He had brought up swinging several times earlier and we decided to experiment...but I was ready to try anything rather than lose him. To try to answer your question if you should confront her, I suggest you wait...and approach it very slowly. After all her cheating is your fantasy.