How to get her started???

[sstinson]

Hi All,

Well, I should first give you the background on my wife and our relationship. My wife little cock slut. She is a true slut in many ways. I met her when she was 16. She started fucking at the age of 13 with a much older guy (23). She was with that guy for about 8 months, through this 8 months, she kept breaking up with guy and fucking other guys (about 4 in total). She said this was not cheating because the were broken up. Then she dated another guy at age 14 and dated for about 2 years. She did not cheat on this guy at all. So then at the age of 16 after breaking up with this guy she fucks about 16 more guys in a span of about 6 months or so, as I started dating her near the end of her 16th year. Now that is a lot of fucking! I love a girl that loves to fuck, and doesn't care how many guys she's laid. Also she has never worn a condom, as she loves the feel of a real cock in her cunt and craves a guy to cum inside her. The thing I find sexy about that is that she has fucked quite a few guys she did not know, or just met and let them cum inside her. She says it made her real hot. The other sexy thing is that she has not been on birth control over the years and I find it sexy that she is daring enough to let strange men cum in her unprotected against pregnancy!

Now she is 19 and we are happily married. I have a strong desire to see her fuck other guys. No condoms, and cumming inside her. I mostly desire to see hung black guys do her, as the sight is more erotic for some reason, but even white guys would do to if hung large. Also I would love to see her pounded by a large number of men at the same time, filling her to over-flowing levels. Its just such turn on seeing her enjoying other men and getting off on it. I'm definately no Cuckold, as I'm 7" myself and we fuck hard, and she loves it. At 6' tall and 190 pounds (built), I'm no pushover and definately no sissy. I guess you could say I'm really just in it for the swinging aspect of it, not the cuckold lifestyle.

The problem is, she has never cheated on any of her previous boyfriends and never on me either. She loves fucking, loves large cocks, loves them cumming in her, but does not want to cheat. I tried explaining that it would not be cheating, because I am involved and consenting to it. She does not see it this way, and also does not understand why I want her to fuck another guy. She just doesn't understand it. She said it makes her feel that I do not lover her and am willing to share her. I tell her time and time again, that I do love her so much, but this fantasy is something I have had for a long time. I can't even get her to talk dirty about her past sexual experiences, I can't get her to watch porn let alone IR porn, and she gets mad when ever I mention any of this. Maybe she is still too young, to understand any of this. Though is she is very mature for her age, she still may be too imature for this right now and may be something I have to bring up later on in our marriage.

I love my wife dearly and will not jeopardize my marriage for this, as we are still quite satisfied sexually. I am simply trying to push the limits a bit I guess.

Anyone have any ideas or has been in a simillar situation and has come out successful?

 

[ScottyBo]

Real Advice

You're pushing too hard, amigo. Your wife has her rules about fucking - they may not seem logical to you but they are to HER and that's what counts. No matter what kind of cocks she likes or how much she loves to fuck - she has been pretty specific about your wishes. Look at what you wrote yourself - she thinks that you wanting to share her means you don't love her. Duh! And in HER mind, fucking another guy even WITH your consent is cheating. Is there some hidden meaning in the plain language that escapes me? Based on what you have said, I think your wife has set a very definite line and asks you to respect it. The person being unreasonable here is Y-O-U.

Now, who knows what the future holds. Right now she sounds like she is happy to have a steady, 'secure' marriage. Let it be. She KNOWS what you want, okay? She's only 19. If you MUST continue to make your point, do it gently. Maybe mention it once a month. If she asks what you want for your birthday - mention it and if she says no - laugh and pick something else. There's nothing wrong with being upfront with your thoughts and desires but don't beat it to death, okay?

It has to be HER decision because if she feels ****** into it and it turns out to be disastrous, guess who's to blame? And if it happens and goes bad, she'll never forget it and will always hold you responsible.

 

[sstinson]

^^^Very true. Thats why I have not really been pushing the idea, well I only really brought the idea up once, and she snapped! You are correct that she does now know my fantasy, and I think you are right about just keeping it on the down low unless she brings it up. I may jokingly bring it up now and then, but will do so in a half joking way. You are also correct about her having to want this just as I do. It is part of my fantasy that she enjoys this too, and she has to want it for me to go through with it. It just wouldn't be enjoyable for both of us if she wasn't into it.

Thanks for sorta staightening me out!

 

[Raunchy Randy]

How to get her Started? She Said 'NO!'

Hi All,


... She just doesn't understand it. She said it makes her feel that I do not lover her...

I can't even get her to talk dirty about her past sexual experiences, I can't get her to watch porn let alone IR porn, and she gets mad when ever I mention any of this... Though is she is very mature for her age, she still may be too imature for this right now and may be something I have to bring up later on in our marriage.

I love my wife dearly and will not jeopardize my marriage for this, as we are still quite satisfied sexually. I am simply trying to push the limits a bit I guess.

Anyone have any ideas or has been in a simillar situation and has come out successful?

Your own words (above) give your wife's views on this subject. You say you 'will not jeopardize my marriage for this,' but to me, that seems exactly what you're bent on doing. Keep pushing her... You'll get there. She's already questioning your love for her.

People. IR isn't for everyone. If your spouse or SO says it's not for them, let it go. People have VERY strong feelings about IR, and a fast way to end a marriage or relationship is to push someone who doesn't want it, to try it.

It seems that some people are willing to risk it all, just to have their wife taken by another male (Black OR White). If you don't respect your SO's negative views on IR, expect your fate to be one of being alone, and wondering why.

X

 

[mr.b]

Time......

Just give it time, my friend. Your wife is still very young and despite her past enthusiastic fucking episodes, she is simply not ready for the type of relationship that you would like. As others have said, remind her of what you'd like, now and again, but also monitor her responses. If she seems to be getting pissed at your insistance for her to take a lover, back off.
Who knows, in the right place and the right time, but you're just not here yet.

 

[sstinson]

Your own words (above) give your wife's views on this subject. You say you 'will not jeopardize my marriage for this,' but to me, that seems exactly what you're bent on doing. Keep pushing her... You'll get there. She's already questioning your love for her.

People. IR isn't for everyone. If your spouse or SO says it's not for them, let it go. People have VERY strong feelings about IR, and a fast way to end a marriage or relationship is to push someone who doesn't want it, to try it.

It seems that some people are willing to risk it all, just to have their wife taken by another male (Black OR White). If you don't respect your SO's negative views on IR, expect your fate to be one of being alone, and wondering why.

X

She does understand now, that I do love her dearly and it is just a fantasy. We did have a long talk about it and everything is ok. We are in no danger. I just don't want to move her in a wrong direction and create danger for our mariage. The last time I brought it up was a while ago and she is not upset at all about it any more. She just wishes to not talk about it much any more. She does understand that it is a fantasy of mine, she just doesn't understand why this turns me on. But I explained to her that I myself don't understand why this turns me on either, it just does.

As of right now, we are very happy and she is glowing. So my best bet is to just lay off on the subject for now. Who knows, down the road, after some time and she has thought about it for a while, maybe she will bring it up.

On a side note, she has been dying to go the strippers (male) since she has not been since turning 19. I'm not sure if things are different in the US or elsewhere, but up here in Canada, the male strippers will put their cocks in women's mouths and face fuck them and such when they go up on stage or get lap dances. I told her I have no problem with her going at all. She even promises me to tell me what happens. She tells me she just wants to watch and drink with her girlfriends and nothing else will happen. Either way, this may be a nice small step in the IR/Swinging direction.

I should also mention that I'm not sure I really want this to happen as well. I have been cheated on by a few of my past relationships and it hurts bad. Especially one relationship that lasted me 5 years, and she cheated on me with a good buddy. So part of me gets turned on, but part of me is like any man, and I'm not sure I would end up liking it. I guess you could say that I'm at the stage where I have not done this before, and it seems nice when I think about it, but when it happens for real, it may be a different story.

I appreciate all of your advice.

Thanks.

 

[tyrone25]

your best bet is to take her to some dance clubs and get her tipsy to lower her inhibitions, instead of going all out and wanting her to fuck on the spot ease her into by simply encouraging her to get on the dance floor and maybe grind a little bit who knows where that might lead.