How to deal with unshared kinks?

[BadHusband]

To clarify; I know there’s more like me out there. How do you deal with giving urges, desires and kinks that are not shared by your partner!?

For example, I am open to sharing (MFM and FMF), swinging, exhibitionism, voyeurism, and would do anything to please my partner! I would even be open to som bisexual play under the right circumstances. But my wife has no interest in any of it. She’s not plain/vanilla and we’ve had some very fun/freaky play in the past but it’s strictly between the two of us now and in completely private situations.

Thats her preference and I respect that. But I also very much want to explore some of these desires and have trouble accepting that I may never get to or get to again. Advice?

 

[BadHusband]

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[mailkme]

Haha, I don’t have any advice but that’s why I’m here. I guess I get to relive/remember some of my wilder sexual adventures. And I push the envelope a little with my wife here And there, but yeah basically same boat.

 

[Pimpmeout]

Me too

 

[Zach]

Same here

 

[krieig]

most of us married men are in the same situation. advice is to gently keep letting her know how you feel giving her complete control of whether she will ever ease into it. make it a no pressure situation. It may never happen but who knows given the right circumstances something one day might happen. My wife is receptive to me telling her my fantasies at this point but still a firm no to her participating.

 

[mailkme]

most of us married men are in the same situation. advice is to gently keep letting her know how you feel giving her complete control of whether she will ever ease into it. make it a no pressure situation. It may never happen but who knows given the right circumstances something one day might happen. My wife is receptive to me telling her my fantasies at this point but still a firm no to her participating.

This is how I view it.