How do I get this started?

[sweetwhite]

I have tried to get this started and chickened out when I was to meet my first. I have my black toys and my husband approves. What is next?

 

[8x6BM4WF]

1. Don't rush in
2. Find someone who is looking for exactly the same things you are. This may take some time depending on what you want.
3. Set up the boundaries, if any.
4. Meet
5. Have fun!
6. Report back to us how it went

 

[va_MBM]

You forgot on Brah!

2a. Beware of FAKES, this place is loaded with them.

 

[BlackDomLdog]

8x6BM4WF advised:

1. Don't rush in
2. Find someone who is looking for exactly the same things you are. This may take some time depending on what you want.
3. Set up the boundaries, if any.
4. Meet
5. Have fun!
6. Report back to us how it went

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va_MBM added:

2a. Beware of FAKES, this place is loaded with them.

I will add on #4...4a. Make sure they keep to the meeting. When I jumped at the chance to meet my wife, I kept in constant contact with her. Several months, and the best laid plans can change, or boundaries can be overstepped.

The point the three of us, 8x6BM4WF, va_MBM, and myself are saying is...keep the lines of communication open.

If they are faking, then they are messing things up, and will have to rein in a few things to keep it real. If you chicken out, let the guy know...so he can understand. MOST men can understand if you are in a car accident, or on a hijacked plane, like Flight 93. (All respect to those that lost friends/family during the 9/11 tragedy, but I had to use this as an example.)

 

[sweetwhite]

Thank-you for the information, I will keep you posted. When it does happen I'm sure there will be pics, I will share them with you.

 

[8x6BM4WF]

good point BDL.... nothing worse than a no show

 

[hotpetitewife]

find someone you are comfortable with. Maybe meet with them first, have a few glasses of wine to unwind, and enjoy!

 

[sweetwhite]

Any one close to S.E. Michigan? I willing to try.