Josetta,
I've read your post and a csee a couple others. I respect and agree with certain things you've said but definitely not all of them. one i particular is the thing about it being "very healthy for women to have multiple lovers," to my knowledge this just isn't true.
for one thing women are at higher risk than men when it comes to have multiple lovers. at risk for complication and infections and it just isn't safe as the number of people she's virtually had sexual contact skyrockets, as men tend to have more sexual partners over their life.
next is the fact that men tend not to want to actually start a family with a woman that's had many many sex partners (i.e.- who been what those men see as a sult or ho). this is bad because it creates even more broken homes because at some point a woman who is hoing around will most likely get pregnant and when her womanly instincts kick to keep the baby, the guy won't want to take responsiblity IF she even knows who the father is.... do you watch Muary? that is the reason all those women don't know who their baby's father is. simply put women operating like men have historically, is bad for society and the future (i really didn't mean for that to sound so... corny, lol, but it's true) that's why the world is getting more and more fucked up (well at least here in the US lol).
I agree that societies rules have played a major role in trying to confine woman when it comes to sex. but there are some things about social rules and some gender roles of the sexes that make things better, and stable. females should be WOMEN or LADIES... not little girls, sluts, hoes, etc. it's natural to have desire, but damn have self respect too! have morals! have restraint! discipline! and on the other side guys should have all these virtues as well. they shouldn't just be on the prowl their entire life trying fuck everything moving. but i don't think it's worse for women.
just a bit off topic, i don't understand why women feel this need to do the things guys do to be more on-par with guys (or whatever it is... but i know it's something). it's not even good for guys to be SO promiscuous... but it's worse when women start doin' it. women don't need to prove their independence or whatever by doing things the way men have. it's so idiotic to do so.
Also, a husband shouldn't have to find his wife a good fuck. he should be doing it. and even before then, if a woman wasn't satisfied by the guy she decided to marry, she shouldn't have married him! if you sex life is so unfulfilling that you need to be fucked by a another guy then you shouldn't be married to that person who doesn't satisfy you, simple as that! guys aren't paranoid about their wife fuckin' a guy with a huge dick, guys are paranoid about their wives fuckin' another GUY period. if he has a huge dick it's just another blow to their ego... it's more insulting. guys are mortified when cheated on. it hurts them different than it hurts girls somehow, it's hard to explain.
I mean i agree that men should satisfy their wives, hell they don't even have to be married, as long as their a couple the woman should be satisfied and so should the man. ppl always talk about women not being satisfied and assume a guy is. and it's always the guys fault if she isn't satisfied. well all that just isn't true women have to do their part too. make the guy want sex. do things to turn him on, a woman's not the only one who enjoys the mental part of sex, be vocal in what you what and how you want to be touched,etc. this helps the sexual experience all together. a guy may usually be a fault be he's not ALWAYS at fault when the woman is left unsatisfied. (haha, i say that but if ever even think my girl is unsatisfied i feel bad lol. but that's just b/c I love to leave her satisfied and that's the part of sex i love the most.... pleasing my partner. anyway...)
sure it's easier for a woman to cum with a BBC than with her significant other who she's been with for years. you know each other and are so used to each other you're prolly both a lil bored. so when the new fresh dick comes along that just happens to be a BBC, it's thrilling, and the shock from the site makes for major stimuli, which automatically means way less work for the guy the BBC is attached to.
about sexual peeks... hmm... idk i believe that many men seem to be losing their libido altitudes do to women trying to make them calm it down for so many years, prior to women themselves find their libido peek, which itself is in large part due to them finally not caring so much about societies rules and shit (it takes a woman til she 30 and up to really stop givin' a fuck... which i think is funny since they "muture faster" and all, but i'm not even going their right now, lol. just pokin' a lil fun... i know that fatser/earlier maturation is purely physical). but either way, it doesn't have to be like that. if the guy doesn't feel all stressed out by the time he's in his 30's he should still be able to "put it down" if he was before. i don't think these guys with the BBCs are gonna be "all lidibo-ed out" at 35 lol.... call me crazy if ya' want to lol. there's a ton more i could go on about... but i think i've said A WHOLE LOT already. lol.
anyway, much respect to you josetta. i hope you don't take my comments the wrong way.
atlesttwo