The girl I'm currently dating and hoping to eventually get into a lifestyle as this, or at least as a swinger, was a virgin when she married roughly 20 years ago. This past july she finally succombed to curiosity and cheated on her husband (who was no good to her anyway). I became her 3rd after they filed for divorce and she moved out. Since then (about 2 months ago) she's added a 4th, 5th, and 6th. This number would be higher but she's had a few cancel on her, and she's cancelled one. So far there's no indication that she plans to slow down. I'll be very busy the next couple weeks so this number will likely go up to 10 by then.