Cheating vs. Cuck

[thumper]

Hey Everyone....
Well, it's finally happened... We've been married for 15 years, sex life dull and boring... She has had little or no sex drive for the past few years.
I have dropped hints over the years, about letting her have an erotic experience if it ever presented itself. I, personally, have had such a high sex drive, religated to surfing the forums, reading, and taking matters into my own hands (so to speak).
So recently, my wife confessed to be sexually attracted to another man that she works with. (and vice versa). She said they had obvious sexual vibes and tension... I made it clear that she could go for it, but she would have to tell me everything about it (she knows I have fantasized about that).
So here's where the sticky part come in......
I know (for a fact, from reading her emails and phone logs), that she has been seeing this guy... and on one occasion, it was for about 4 hours in the afternoon, and she was late for her next appointment.
When I confronted her about it, she lied and denied everything... even took it a step farther and bitched me out for not trusting her and checking through her emails. She still adamantly denies fucking him, although I know she has....
but since that afternoon (with him)... she has been a sexual dynamo... we have wild sex everynight.... the best and most erotic that we've ever had..... while I'm fucking her, I'm thinking about her slutting it out for him (and me)... and thoroughly enjoy it (so does she)... I think HE is teaching her things... how to enjoy sex, some new tricks, etc.... She's really enjoying it with me, too, now.
But I feel betrayed because she is not truthful with me (but maybe that's because that would take away some of the thrill for her?).
Any comments or suggestion?

 

[DuzHer4U]

The two-sided coin of cuckdom...

Yeah man...my advice is to give it time, enjoy the benefits, and see if she doesn't get to the point where she "confesses". She may be supressing some guilt by keeping the affair a secret from you...perhaps justifying it by telling herself that, "he asked for it". Don't push her for a come-clean. She may be enjoying the thrill of having "cheated" on you and keeping it a secret, just as you wanted a thrill via her fucking someone else. Have you told her during your wild sex that you wish she had gone ahead and fucked him? Have you reminded her that if she had, she was fulfilling your hottest fantasy?

 

[cuckoldinpanties]

Cheating is when its hidden and not agreed upon. Now if everything is agreed that it CAN be hidden, then it isn't cheating.

I used to describe it like this as people would argue that swinging is cheating.,,,,,, We have all played Monopoly (the board game), right? If two people are playing and they decide to change the rules to make the game more fun, although it isn't "by the written rule" it is one they BOTH agreed upon, is that cheating????? Now if ONE of them decides to change the rules and doesn't let the other know,is that cheating?????

 

[Troilusand]

Some intelligent words by all, so far (I'll change that!). My buddy Grinch knows himself and what is "right" for him. I'm different. If I were married to his 1st wife, I'd have been happy to stay married and let her continue with the guy. Before becoming a hotwife, my wife cheated a few times--some she didn't confess 'til we were long into this lifestyle, and others I caught her at.

Did I feel betrayed? Sure, but it wasn't a deal-killer for me. I'm not saying it was easy for me/us, but I got over it (partly because it turned me on so much that she NEEDED to resort to cheating to get all the fucking she wanted). And also because this is the ONLY way she has ever been "disloyal" to me.

My point here is, what sux for Grinch, worx for me (at least with my wife). But what worx for you?? I completely support you throwin' her ass out if that's what you need to do. Only you know you, her, and your marriage.

Duzher4u makes a good point, too, about whether this might have been encouraged through your pillow talk. Think about it.

And ANYTHING CIP says, I agree with.....because I want to fuck his wife.

T.

 

[Troilusand]

After I posted, I reread your post, and remembered the point behind my rambling, which is: It seems you're enjoying it (like I did, hence my post)....and hurt by it. Which one dominates your feelings? Does the betrayal ruin it? Does the recharged sex mitigate the betrayal??

Good luck to you,

T.

 

[cuckoldinpanties]

And ANYTHING CIP says, I agree with.....because I want to fuck his wife.

T.

I'm going to have to get April one of those "now serving #" things where you take a number.

 

[Troilusand]

I'm going to have to get April one of those "now serving #" things where you take a number.

LOL....You two are the best!

 

[hotwifeapril]

Now serving # 40 anyone with that number????

I'm going to have to get April one of those "now serving #" things where you take a number.

 

[cuckoldinpanties]

Now serving # 40 anyone with that number????

#40,,,, we counting BACKWARDS now?

 

[hotwifeapril]

lol was just thinking of a line of a 100 guys and and callin for #40,but yeah I would definatly be counting backwards if you were to recount over the 21 years of playing

 

[jojo4017]

Wow how freaking hot and excitting would it be to find out your wife was being taught new things/tricks. I think you are so lucky, someone is fucking your wife teaching her new fuck positons? I sure wish it was happening to me, mmm I adore my wife abd adore the thought of her being taught new tricks by someone and it would be the ultimate to have her do it in front of me.

 

[jojo4017]

Play it right and if you're lucky she will cuck you. I don't know about you but I am sure all cucks adore and worship there wives, I do. Though she would never cuck me ( damn it ) I love to think that she would, I think she would be great at teasing me about it. Good luck.

 

[jojo4017]

One more thing! Remember most on here a fony and most is to far out. I think most true cucks are very normal and just have this desire because it is somewhat humiliating and they crave that. Also they all seem to adore there wives but want to hear about or see them taken by another man for what are complex reasons.
There are a lot of wierd things on here that are surely not real at least I hope so anyway. Keep it clean and safe

 

[Troilusand]

Jojo, you say you wish your wife would cuck you...but what about cheat on you (the point to this thread)?? What if she actually HAS been fucking me for the last 2 years, and your oblivious to it? Is that okay with you? Are you more like the Grinch, or more like me??

BTW, April, I'm printing up the #40 in all different sizes, fonts and colors, just to make sure at least one's accepted at the door/

T.

 

[thumper]

Enjoying the benefits, so far....

thanks for the replies... that really helps, as I am going crazy and don't have anyone to run it by (I figured this would be a safe place to get some honest and contemporary input).
Wife says she's hitting her sexual prime... I believe it! She has changed so much in the past two weeks. She's lost all her inhibitions in bed, willing to let me use my fingers (never did before). She just easier and quicker to spread wide and let me service her... She has even been giving me tips on pleasuring her. Last night, she was so hot... I fucked her for quite some time, when she said go ahead and give it to me... then after I blasted in her, she asked me to get her toy and play with her... (she usually gets right up and cleans up). I know she's thinking of him.... she doesn't want to talk about anything though... seems to turn her off...
I'm hoping she's having a fun time in her life (I'm enjoying keeping tabs on her, she sees him 2 days a week). And when it's over (with him), she'll remain a sexy hotwife....
It just surprises me how good she has gotten at lying and covering up, though... I don't like that.

 

[thumper]

Here's her pict... so you know how hot she is...

let me know what you think....

 

[Troilusand]

let me know what you think....

And she just started cheating NOW?? She should be reprimanded for holding out on the rest of us this long!! If you misunderstand what I'm trying to say, it's "Wow."

T.

 

[cuckoldinpanties]

Wow how freaking hot and excitting would it be to find out your wife was being taught new things/tricks. I think you are so lucky, someone is fucking your wife teaching her new fuck positons? I sure wish it was happening to me, mmm I adore my wife abd adore the thought of her being taught new tricks by someone and it would be the ultimate to have her do it in front of me.

Plus even the "normal" positions, everytime you are having sex, you can picture what the other guy was feeling, because you are feeling.

 

[Saraha]

Yeah man...my advice is to give it time, enjoy the benefits, and see if she doesn't get to the point where she "confesses". She may be supressing some guilt by keeping the affair a secret from you...perhaps justifying it by telling herself that, "he asked for it". Don't push her for a come-clean. She may be enjoying the thrill of having "cheated" on you and keeping it a secret, just as you wanted a thrill via her fucking someone else. Have you told her during your wild sex that you wish she had gone ahead and fucked him? Have you reminded her that if she had, she was fulfilling your hottest fantasy?

I agree, and after many years of boring sex she is now a dynamo. The guy pressed her buttons........be grateful to him, your sex life has just got a whole lot BETTER.

Play it cool and forgive her, she will eventually admit her affair but remember that it was what you wanted for quite awhile, so don't hold it against her.

You should be writing an letter to her new lover to THANK HIM. Sometimes, a husband needs a helping hand from a """""sexy friend""""".

I doubt she planned her infidelity, it would have "just happened" b4 she could stop it, because you were wishing it to happen, so in the spontaneity of the moment, "she had permission". It would have spoilt things if she had of had to ring you up and say, "is it okay if I get naked with this guy?"

 

[youzemywife]

Before we got involved in the lifestyle, and I would catch guys flirting with my wife (nothing even particularly overtly sexual), I would always get a little twinge or throb in my dick, especially if we were in public and neither of them knew I was watching them (I'd go looking for her in a shopping mall, for example, and whenever I would see the flirting, I would always keep a discreet distance and watch intently).

It wasn't even necessarily that they were flirting per se, but the realization that: "this guy would totally fuck my hot little wife in a second if he thought he could".

Back then, the idea of her cheating on me seemed hot, but in retrospect, it was better that we waited and mutually agreed that she should fuck other men.Cheating behind the other partner's back has an emotional component that shouldn't be disregarded.