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Chastity
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Hi Ms. Meliena,
Regarding your question:
If you read:
"Sperm Wars: The Science of Sex," by Robin Baker, Ph.D. (1996, BasicBooks, 319 pp [hardcover])
you'll see he says that men ejaculate with a frequency proportional to their production of new sperm. Some points he states relevant to your question (these are from memory) are:
—On average, men ejaculate about 4 times per week. (This strikes me as somewhat low, but as I recall, that's what he says.)
—Male ejaculations may be via sexual intercourse with a partner, masturbation, nocturnal emissions, or any combination of these methods.
—A man with a relatively sexual partner might ejaculate 4 (or more) times a week via sexual intercourse with his partner and no other method.
—A man with a relatively less sexual partner might ejaculate (say) 2 times a week via sexual intercourse with his partner, via masturbating once or twice per week, and via zero or one nocturnal emissions per week.
—A man without a partner tends, on average, to ejaculate via masturbation (say) 3 times per week and via one nocturnal emission per week, or via some other combination of these two methods.
Others who have replied to your question have indicated some women keep their men locked in chastity devices for time periods much longer than one week. In such cases, my guess would be their men discharge older sperm to (in effect) "accommodate" or "make room for" continuously-generated new sperm by having nocturnal emissions and possibly daytime emissions as well, through their chastity devices, despite the devices preventing them from having erections.
Alternatively, it strikes me as possible that such men — thwarted from becoming erect and ejaculating in "normal" ways by their chastity devices — may decrease their rates of new-sperm production, as an adaptation.
In any case, a sort of conventional wisdom (for whatever it may be worth) seems to be that a woman who keeps her man in a chastity device should allow him to ejaculate no less frequently than once per month, to maintain prostate health. Ejaculation can be by "milking" your man anally (you can google "anal milking" for instructions).
Probably you should remove your man's chastity device at least once per week for purposes of washing and re-shaving his genital area, the latter to prevent hair from getting caught in the device and pulling. When you put your man's chastity device back on, you should apply a lubricant (say, baby oil) to his cock and balls to prevent chafing.
Having said all this, I should also say my wife does not require me to wear a chastity device (nor have I brought up the subject.... I mean, maybe she would like the idea, right? It's a scary thought....). So, maybe some of the others who have replied to your question will be kind enough to comment further on these things.
—Custer
Regarding your question:
Meliena said:Hi All — I'm quite new to this, I need some advice. I managed to get my husband secured into a chastity device last week and need to know how long can I keep him locked in it.
If you read:
"Sperm Wars: The Science of Sex," by Robin Baker, Ph.D. (1996, BasicBooks, 319 pp [hardcover])
you'll see he says that men ejaculate with a frequency proportional to their production of new sperm. Some points he states relevant to your question (these are from memory) are:
—On average, men ejaculate about 4 times per week. (This strikes me as somewhat low, but as I recall, that's what he says.)
—Male ejaculations may be via sexual intercourse with a partner, masturbation, nocturnal emissions, or any combination of these methods.
—A man with a relatively sexual partner might ejaculate 4 (or more) times a week via sexual intercourse with his partner and no other method.
—A man with a relatively less sexual partner might ejaculate (say) 2 times a week via sexual intercourse with his partner, via masturbating once or twice per week, and via zero or one nocturnal emissions per week.
—A man without a partner tends, on average, to ejaculate via masturbation (say) 3 times per week and via one nocturnal emission per week, or via some other combination of these two methods.
Others who have replied to your question have indicated some women keep their men locked in chastity devices for time periods much longer than one week. In such cases, my guess would be their men discharge older sperm to (in effect) "accommodate" or "make room for" continuously-generated new sperm by having nocturnal emissions and possibly daytime emissions as well, through their chastity devices, despite the devices preventing them from having erections.
Alternatively, it strikes me as possible that such men — thwarted from becoming erect and ejaculating in "normal" ways by their chastity devices — may decrease their rates of new-sperm production, as an adaptation.
In any case, a sort of conventional wisdom (for whatever it may be worth) seems to be that a woman who keeps her man in a chastity device should allow him to ejaculate no less frequently than once per month, to maintain prostate health. Ejaculation can be by "milking" your man anally (you can google "anal milking" for instructions).
Probably you should remove your man's chastity device at least once per week for purposes of washing and re-shaving his genital area, the latter to prevent hair from getting caught in the device and pulling. When you put your man's chastity device back on, you should apply a lubricant (say, baby oil) to his cock and balls to prevent chafing.
Having said all this, I should also say my wife does not require me to wear a chastity device (nor have I brought up the subject.... I mean, maybe she would like the idea, right? It's a scary thought....). So, maybe some of the others who have replied to your question will be kind enough to comment further on these things.
—Custer
How long depends.
He may need to work up to wearing it 24/7, so you may only be able to keep him in it for a few hours at first.
If he gets to the point where it can be worn 24/7 for as long as you wish, then you can keep him in it as long as you want. There is no scientific evidence that this will cause harm to him.
Cheers!
He may need to work up to wearing it 24/7, so you may only be able to keep him in it for a few hours at first.
If he gets to the point where it can be worn 24/7 for as long as you wish, then you can keep him in it as long as you want. There is no scientific evidence that this will cause harm to him.
Cheers!
The idea behind chastity is to give your husband less sexual release than he needs, so that he "works harder" at his marriage to make you Number One in his life. If he NEEDS sex 3 times a week, but only gets it 1-2 times a week, then he is going to LOOK FORWARD to sex as a SPECIAL TREAT FOR BEING EXTRA GOOD. In time you can twist him around your fingers and he will become like a puppy dog, determined to do his best to make his wife have the best possible lifestyle.
Chastity focuses a man's mind on making sure his wife's needs are met before his own are considered. This is important because mankind would die out if it was not for the female gender rearing babies. Females are the superior gender, God is a female (always has been). Eve was born first, Adam came second, Adam ate from the Tree of Knowledge so became enlightened with the curiosity to explore Planet Earth
So you time his ejaculations to his good conduct, from a set of chores or targets he achieves each week. If he does not achieve his targets, sex release is delayed for another week as a "punishment" for letting you down.
Although his penis is locked up, it is important that the cuckoldress gets plenty of sexual expression from the cuck licking her vagina to orgasm almost every day, and also dating her lovers for regular penetrative sex.
A husband in chastity can easily learn to give his wife oral sex and eat cream pies she brings home.
Some wives test their husband's commitment to the marriage by keeping him in chastity for weeks or months, but if this is done you should consider prostrate milking at least 2-4 times per month.
Prostrate milking takes quite a long time and does not bring orgasm, but helps to prevent health issues from leaving sperm locked up too long.
While milking her husband, a wife should talk to him about his "co-operation" and "efforts" to keep the marriage strong, and also any stresses of jealousies he make be feeling from her polymory activities. She can make new demands and get him to agree to them.
A wife may engage her best friend to help with the prostrate milking and assessment of the husband's comitment to the marriage. This means that more than person knows the husband is in chastity, and subtly puts more pressure on the cuck to "be a better husband" and to be VERY grateful when he gets unlocked.
A big decision is "who will be the keyholder?" Often the key is held by an outsider such as the wife's lover who can give an independent opinion of whether he is being an adequate husband and father to the children.
Sometimes, the wife will get her mother to hold the key, so that the husband has to be extra nice to his mother-in-law, instead of treating her as a busy body intrusion in the marriage like many men may think she is.
Chastity focuses a man's mind on making sure his wife's needs are met before his own are considered. This is important because mankind would die out if it was not for the female gender rearing babies. Females are the superior gender, God is a female (always has been). Eve was born first, Adam came second, Adam ate from the Tree of Knowledge so became enlightened with the curiosity to explore Planet Earth
So you time his ejaculations to his good conduct, from a set of chores or targets he achieves each week. If he does not achieve his targets, sex release is delayed for another week as a "punishment" for letting you down.
Although his penis is locked up, it is important that the cuckoldress gets plenty of sexual expression from the cuck licking her vagina to orgasm almost every day, and also dating her lovers for regular penetrative sex.
A husband in chastity can easily learn to give his wife oral sex and eat cream pies she brings home.
Some wives test their husband's commitment to the marriage by keeping him in chastity for weeks or months, but if this is done you should consider prostrate milking at least 2-4 times per month.
Prostrate milking takes quite a long time and does not bring orgasm, but helps to prevent health issues from leaving sperm locked up too long.
While milking her husband, a wife should talk to him about his "co-operation" and "efforts" to keep the marriage strong, and also any stresses of jealousies he make be feeling from her polymory activities. She can make new demands and get him to agree to them.
A wife may engage her best friend to help with the prostrate milking and assessment of the husband's comitment to the marriage. This means that more than person knows the husband is in chastity, and subtly puts more pressure on the cuck to "be a better husband" and to be VERY grateful when he gets unlocked.
A big decision is "who will be the keyholder?" Often the key is held by an outsider such as the wife's lover who can give an independent opinion of whether he is being an adequate husband and father to the children.
Sometimes, the wife will get her mother to hold the key, so that the husband has to be extra nice to his mother-in-law, instead of treating her as a busy body intrusion in the marriage like many men may think she is.
Although a male, may be a sissy cuck, and small, he needs to ejectulate often to promote good health. Prostrate trouble. Chastity, promotes desire, and does tend to make the male quite willing to do as wife/mistress wishes. Women have used the denial of sex to control men for ages. Have you ever heard the term wet dream? At some point he will ejectulate even without masturbation. Men really refer this to being cut off, and the devices just make it easier for him to comply up to a point. At some point he is going to get relief, by hand, at home, or elsewhere. Even a sissy cuck will put up with just so much, as Kenny Rogers sang, "you got to know when to hold them, and when to fold them". BDSM is closely tied to cuckoldry, and sometimes the women want the cuck to cum, so they can punish him.
