Can two men (cuckold and bull) share the same woman for long-term?

[TheDevil]

Greetings ladies and gentleman,

As some of you know, me and my best friend have been thinking over an year, that having one and the same wife, would be the best option. Now he knows that im a cuckold/submissive and he is very satisfied being the dom/bull, so there arent any powerstruggels.

But what i was thinking: is it really possible, to share a one woman and the same household? Are there any women who would agree to this?

I must add, that we are both really family oriented, stable and secure persons...

Take Care,
T.D

 

[melanieandryan]

Depends. We are of the opinion that with all marriages, co-habitation, or whatever, that problems will arise. How all three of you handle it is what will probably define whether all three of you guys can endure the tough times.

We would not suggest all three of you to live together in the same household. But, we also do not know how close all of you guys are either.

just our two cents. and good luck in whatever yall decide.

Melanie and Ryan

 

[TheDevil]

The Grinch,

This is exactly what i mean. Strange thing is, that outside im more of a alpha than my friend, but on the sexual/romantical side im very submissive and caring.

It is also strange being a submissive to other man. More easily said tha done.

We shall still look for a woman to share our life with and im quite sure we will find her...

Thanks,
T.D

 

[steev]

I think that there would have to be one person who is the "alpha-alpha" if I can use that phrase. There would need to be some final authority if 3 people are invloved. I have thought about this type of relationship myself and it just seems that problems, jealousy and conflicts would arise. As long as the beta male knows his place and the wife is comfortable with that place, it would probably work, but she would have to firmly stand with the alpha if there were some type of disagreement.

But what if the beta starts to get out of line? Who would be responsible for dealing with that? The wife? The alpha male? I think at some point it will happen and there should be some way to handle it. It would have to thought out ahead of time and all agree to it.

 

[jbrowning]

for us no there is no rent to own option.you can have her overnight maybe everynow and then the whole weekend thats fine.but long term hell no for one kids i wouldn't want our sex play running into thier lives they would quickly get a clue.for another thing that would limit her to just another guy she has 4 extra partners besides me why stick to just one more.and what she likes is just the extra thrill of fucking no real comitment attached.it's one thing to fuck it's a whole nother world to do thier landry tell them to pick up there socks what if they drink right out of the carton smoke walk don't pick up after themselves and you very well know about a billion other pet peeves that go along the fuck buddy could quickly go south in a day to day thing.

 

[Son of John]

Actually, an arrangement among one woman and two (or more) men seems perfectly logical. As we all know, women can perform more often and for longer periods than men can. After a man cums, he needs a certain amount of time to recuperate, but a woman can just go right on fucking, even after a great orgasm.

So, a household like this, which is called a "Trois Menage" in French seems very practical from all standpoints, as long as the men involved do not get into jealousy.

I was once in a situation similar to this while I was single. The gal I was fucking was also giving fucks to several other guys too. Once I was staying overnight and one of the others called to ask if he could come over and fuck her. I told her to tell him "yes" so he did come, but I was in the other room. After he fucked her, she came in where I was and I fucked her too.

The next morning she left early for work and he and I were there for about an hour. We both were naked as we made breakfast, and though there was no contact between us, it did add to the excitement of what had happened for us each to see the "other" dick that had fucked her.

Even after she moved on and neither of us was fucking her, he and I remained friends and reminisced over our mutual pussy.

 

[kenneth998]

I "shared" my wife with another man for 4 years. "Shared" is actually a misnomer. He and she had sex and I was the classic cuckold. I felt secure enough with her for awhile, but then things gradually got out of (my) control. I was so submissive for 3 of those years, I cannot believe the things I did. I cannot believe the things that she did. It was some of the most incredibly erotic, humiliating, almost impossible to believe stuff. But you know what? When it looked like I was going to lose her, I suddenly wasn't so submissive anymore. It ended badly, our threesome. It was ugly. Scary, really. And I would be lying if I said I didn't miss it - at least parts of it.

When reality set in, things got ugly. My wife and I are still together, and we love each other, but we did great damage to our relationship, which 4 years later is still not repaired. I don't know if it can be. Her former lover experienced great heartache in the end as well and acted out in some very hurtful ways.

It almost seemed like some weird cuckold utopia for awhile. When they fell in actual love, it didn't matter how "secure" I felt in the relationship. None of us were or are stupid people, and we all had our flaws (maybe except for her, who only got involved initially to please ME). Our biggest flaw was taking everything too far, for too long, just taking the whole thing right to the very edge.

It was by far the most emotionally dangerous thing I have ever experienced. I think about it all the time, and I know she does too. With very mixed emotions.

So I am sceptical that threesomes (in a cuckold context) are a good proposition, but I can only speak from my experience.

 

[kevinsslave]

No, not in the long term. See my very long "confessionals" in the Best Cuck Experience Thread. I think Kenneth998 is probably one of the posts that I've read on this board that in some ways is closest to my experience.

IMO, just remember, in a cuck relationship like the one you mention, their are equal parts of pleasure and pain. The pleasure can be wonderful but the pain, over the long haul, can be debilitating.

 

[Saraha]

Might you two guys consider a bi-sexual relationship, so that you can see how you get on together. Chuck a bit of kissing into to find out "what your boundaries and cravings are. Then when things are "known", you will be able to select the right girlfriend to try your stuff on.

Better to sort yourselves out first, because a g/f expects you to be up to speed from day one of the relationship. IT IS ALL ABOUT WHAT SHE NEEDS and you need to be ready to spoil her WITHOUT jealousy or jostling for position.

No reason why all three of you can't do well together, but at times one guy needs to go out for the night to provide a greater degree of intimacy for the "couple". She will tell you which one she has picked to "get lost".

Three incomes can make a huge difference to a marriage, but remember that Princes Diana did say it was a bit crowded in her marriage with Camila Parker Bowles bedding down with Prince Charles whenever she turned her back.

Might we say that Princess Diana was a female cuckold? She obviously did not like it, so she got a lover(s) of her own to cuck him back.

 

[teekay421]

I think the central issue comes down to whether or not the woman fully bonds or 'falls in love' with the bull, to the extent that she sees the cuckold as extraneous, possibly/probably repulsive. The bull plays a role in this, if the bull, keeps a firm stance that the hotwife is here to serve and the bull will not take the wife as a partner, an advantageous position for the bull (all privileges, no responsibilities), but not always the case.

Sure a cuck can handle the humiliation, the torture, as that is what the cuck wants, but even if the bull states they do not want the responsibility of taking the hotwife fully and demands the wife stay with the cuck, AND the woman STILL falls for the bull, it is a tough situation.

So, in summation, wifes attitude/feeling primary, with influence by the bulls disposition secondary. The cuckold, mostly helpless to the factors.

 

[Saraha]

The Bull is boss of the marriage if it is to be successful long-term. Ideally, the wife is submissive to her Bull, but dominant over her cuck husband. Cuck must FULLY appreciate the efforts of the Bull to add value to the wife's happiness. A contented wife will treat her cuck well because she needs him to support her completely, so she can continue to enjoy her sexual freedom.

The sooner a cuck accepts that the Bull is in charge, the better for all concerned.

 

[TheDevil]

I think, i must agree with Saraha on this one.

The thing is, that the Bull and Cuckold should get along very well or it will never work out long-term. My best friend knows about my cuckold desires and this is quite a weird dynamic. The submission comes in step by step...

Now the problem is that i am always afraid to let my girlfriend stay with my friend for even a short period of time

My friend told me, that he will never give in and i should just let go...

 

[TheDevil]

Also I dont think the cuckold is helpless. He isnt a slave, he is a person, with feelings and fears. Once the bull starts to think the same way you guys do, the relationship will be over or it will be pointless, because the cuckold is emotionally far away.

Cuckold must feel safe and secure in the relationship with all of the persons involved. Once the fear comes in the whole castle will come down.

 

[TheDevil]

I think the cuckold is not helpless. Once he feels unsafe he will become emotionaly cold and then the whole relationship will be pointless.

I imagine a good relationship, where the Bull and Cuckold get along very well, with one knack: cuckold is submissive and Bull is the Dom. There should be respect and communication between these two men.
Step by step the submission will be made... if they both still want it...

I cant imagine, how can a abusive relationship go along WELL???