I have been seeing black men exclusively for the last 4 years. The first black guys I was with were local guys who were from around my neighborhood....middle class, suburban, pretty normal guys. Lately though I've found myself attracted more and more to gangstas and thugs. I actually go into the city to find them....I know that it's not safe to be doing this but I can't stop. It's like I'm addicted to the rush I get when I go into some of these ghetto neiborhoods for sex. The guy I've been seeing keeps telling me that he's going to turn me out. And the thought of that turns me on like you wouldn't believe. What is wrong with me? Why do I put myself in this situation? And has anyone out there been in a similar situation and can give me some advice?
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Am I Going In Over My Head?
- Thread starterLovelyKarly
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The line between erotic and abuse is pretty clear. You need to be careful that you do not get into an abusive relationship. I think that some women like being treated that way in a dom-sub relationship but those are very controlled. Where you are heading, there is nothing in it for you.
I am going give you some advice I probably will regret but here goes-- Sounds like you need a black trainer, someone who will feed your desires to be a sub but will keep you lots safer. I am not into the dom-sub thing but I can see it meeting your needs and think that being a white ho in the ghetto is not going to give you satisfaction and is very dangerous.
I can not recommend a black trainer for you, but there are lots who claim to be on this board and in the Dark Cavern. I do know there is a whole subculture of people who are into this and they can be reached easily. Give it a try, it may be your cup of tea and will get you into the type of abusive relationship that remains erotic and not hateful.
I am going give you some advice I probably will regret but here goes-- Sounds like you need a black trainer, someone who will feed your desires to be a sub but will keep you lots safer. I am not into the dom-sub thing but I can see it meeting your needs and think that being a white ho in the ghetto is not going to give you satisfaction and is very dangerous.
I can not recommend a black trainer for you, but there are lots who claim to be on this board and in the Dark Cavern. I do know there is a whole subculture of people who are into this and they can be reached easily. Give it a try, it may be your cup of tea and will get you into the type of abusive relationship that remains erotic and not hateful.
I had not considered a black trainer....to be honest I never gave that lifestyle much thought. But I will look into it. The funny thing is that I a have never been remotely close to submissive. I have always been the one in control. The gangstas and thugs are the first men who have dominated me and I have to say that I really love the feeling of being dominated by them. Kinda crazy I know but it's how I feel. Thank you so much for the advice.
I know I am pretty much a "white bread" when it comes to sex and relationships compared to lots of people on this forum. Sure I like to play kinky but lets face it, I really am not that kinky. But one thing I do know and appreciate is that the world is made up of lots of people with different desires-- most good, and a few bad.
The sub-dom works for some-- great, I am happy for them because they are getting pleasure from it. While it does not appeal to me, I like that it is a controlled situation and lots safer for women than abusive relationships and being turned into a ho. Just like in days of slavery, masters did not abuses their slaves because they represented an investment, a valuable property. Abusing their slaves would have made as much sense as smashing your car window. The doms I have talked to really want their subs to be well taken care of because it means they are even more dependent upon them. I have talked to pimps and all they want is money.
The sub-dom works for some-- great, I am happy for them because they are getting pleasure from it. While it does not appeal to me, I like that it is a controlled situation and lots safer for women than abusive relationships and being turned into a ho. Just like in days of slavery, masters did not abuses their slaves because they represented an investment, a valuable property. Abusing their slaves would have made as much sense as smashing your car window. The doms I have talked to really want their subs to be well taken care of because it means they are even more dependent upon them. I have talked to pimps and all they want is money.
I would have to agree with Sandy. I have only met a couple of pimps but everything i have ever heard about them says they will hurt u bad if u piss them off. if u want some hot role play or dom action get a trainer cuz he will know how to turn you on instead of just using u. It's all in your mind. That's where it has to work.
I will give u an example. I take u to a hotel and we meet a friend of mine. He asks me in front of u how much to have u. I tell him how much. U don't say a word cuz nobody is asking u. I count the money in front of u and put it away. Then my friend takes u to the bed so u can give him a good time. Nobody ASKS u about anything. We expect u to go thru with it cuz we already know it turns u on. No violence but u know who is in charge.
I have done something like this a few times with some MWCs and it always turned them on.
I will give u an example. I take u to a hotel and we meet a friend of mine. He asks me in front of u how much to have u. I tell him how much. U don't say a word cuz nobody is asking u. I count the money in front of u and put it away. Then my friend takes u to the bed so u can give him a good time. Nobody ASKS u about anything. We expect u to go thru with it cuz we already know it turns u on. No violence but u know who is in charge.
I have done something like this a few times with some MWCs and it always turned them on.
Bizarre behavior, as well as risk taking, is usually indicative of greater and deeper issues. That is if this is even a legitimate post. Giving the benefit of the doubt and assuming it is, you might want to seek out a therapist who can access your reasoning in a much more clear and concise way than the amateur psychologists on a whacked forum board. I offer this suggestion as a clinical social worker; one who knows better than to even try to ascertain things from an anonymous post on the internet.
