Seems like a lot of people are having an issue logging into chat since we updated. Here is what you need to do: Logout of the chat and forums, clear your cache and cookies. Log back in to the forum, then login to the chat with the same user/pass you use for the forums.
Walk up to a good looking black man on the street, and start flirting with him. Tell him what is on your mind, and if he can't help you personally, ask him to recommend a friend who can solve your problem.
If your boyfriend is planning to marry you, why not tell him you need lovers during your marriage - so he has no misunderstandings of his need to keep house when you go out on occasional dates. It easier to tell him the truth now so you can find out whether his love for you is "conditional on you sticking to the wedding vows", or whether he loves you SO MUCH that you can be naughty now and again and he will forgive you instantly.