oriental wife - changes since being a wife

[hotfuzz]

Hi all, not looking for anything other than your experience and honest opinions!

Since I married my oriental wife she has changed a lot.

1. She claimed to be a virgin. After marriage she admitted to having had one man before me when I kept asking how she knows to lick my ass.

2. Initially wanted slow gentle romantic sex. When I went too fast she complained. After a few years now she lets me pound her like a slut. I do as hard as I can and no complaints.

3. Did not give much head at all. Now she gives head most mornings and throughout the day. Tries very hard to deep throat and suck my balls.

4. Wanted vanilla sex Now she role plays all the time and pretends she is my sex slave and talks dirty in bed. The most common is pretending to be a masseuse giving extra service and asking if she is better than my wife! And moans like an actual slut.

What 're your experience with wives? Are most wives like this? Why has she changed so much since the wedding?

 

[skommelman]

And your complaining because?????

 

[Pinkyrod]

Are there any chances for her pussy to get hold of another cocks (e.g. BBC) without you knowing about it?

Perhaps her friend is telling her about hot sex etc.
Also, a woman's sexual desire is increase when she is in her 30's - 40's.

 

[will2112001]

The Problem Is??????

 

[talldomguy]

I'm only commenting here because I wanted to say that "oriental" somehow sounds hilarious to me, like something out of a Rudyard Kipling story.

Also, either she was holding out on you to look like a good girl, or she's been fucking someone else who trained her to be a slut. Either way, enjoy what you have!

 

[Tokyocouple]

I think TalkDomguy pretty much summed it up!
My questions to help understand this story better are 1.what kind of "oriental" is she?
2. Most all men would die to have a wife like that? What's the big deal?

 

[Custer Laststand]

Your wife is the key to the question to which you seek an answer.

Are most wives like this?

In the case of my former wife, no. By implication, in the cases of many other married women, the answer... more than likely... is, "no."

But, please keep in mind you're asking for a "yes or no" answer to a question to which the answer is almost certainly a statistical probability distribution.

Why has she changed so much since the wedding?

I suggest asking your wife that question. If you have, I suggest pressing further but asking her gently in a nonjudgmental way, in a non-threatening situation — say, over a glass of wine in the evening when the two of you are in something of a romantic mood. You may be able to gain increased insight by noting her manner of replying and her body language, in addition to listening carefully to what she says.

Needless to say, regardless of what you conclude it will be important — in fact, critical if you want your wife to continue (or begin) telling you the truth about herself — to maintain an accepting, nonjudgmental attitude and demeanor with respect to whatever she tells you about any additional pre-marital sexual experiences she may have had, as well as (perhaps, or potentially) any extra-marital sexual experiences she may have had (or be having).

It will be most positive, I would say, if you're favorably impressed and sexually turned on by whatever your wife tells you, and show her that. That will tend to open the door (IMO) toward more truthful conversations in the future about her and your sexual experiences, including with each other... and, in a broader sense, experiences (not necessarily sexual) with others.

You should, of course, be prepared to reciprocate. Almost certainly, your wife will view "turnabout as fair play."

 

[hotfuzz]

Thanks for all your comment really thank you!

First, I am not complaining and not bragging. I am just very confused between the pure girl I married and the woman in my bed nowadays.

On your comments and questions...

1. She is from shanghai so mainland china.

2. She is a very traditional wife so I doubt her pussy has had another man.

3.she does watch porn so maybe this is partly why she is more horny.

4. Mac I think you 're right she just trying to work at the marriage. Very recently she lap dance on me and ask I cannot touch. She moans sexily. Very fake but I like it any way. Why did she not do this a few years ago?

5. She is too pure outside of bedroom so I do not think a bar girl. But may have had more than the one man she claimed.

6.agree that she lied about virgin to appear good.

7. It is interesting and I think you are right that her role plays are to spice things up. I think it just caught me by surprise because I did not expect my wife to know these ideas that turn men on and using moans to turn me on.

8. I know she has had anal before because she had no problem with me putting a finger in. But we have not done it yet sadly.

8. I have tried to ask about her past. When I asked if her boyfriend was bigger, she just says she can not remember. When I ask very innocently how she is such good at pleasing me, she just tells me to enjoy. So it is impossible to get anything!

 

[adrianarmstrong]

1. She claimed to be a virgin. After marriage she admitted to having had one man before me...

You know, I suspect my wife has had sex with one other man before me. She too claimed to be a virgin, but has told a little bit about a former boyfriend back in Vietnam. She claims to have never fucked him, but doesn't deny fooling around. And when I ask her questions about him, she is awful evasive.

2. Initially wanted slow gentle romantic sex. When I went too fast she complained. After a few years now she lets me pound her like a slut. I do as hard as I can and no complaints.

Same here. She would complain that she doesn't "feel the love." But now she has gotten a lot more loose in how she lets me fuck her.

3. Did not give much head at all. Now she gives head most mornings and throughout the day. Tries very hard to deep throat and suck my balls.

Same here. My wife never would give me head. Now she will do it without me having to initiate it.

4. Wanted vanilla sex Now she role plays all the time and pretends she is my sex slave and talks dirty in bed. The most common is pretending to be a masseuse giving extra service and asking if she is better than my wife! And moans like an actual slut.

Same here. My wife will role play that she is a ********** by day, and tell me about her "clients." The funny thing is, she will freely make up stuff about these fictional clients, but when I ask her about that boyfriend, she doesn't want to talk much.


P.S. My wife has never denied that this former boyfriend had a big cock. She has absolutely no qualms telling me that he had a big dick. And also that he would cum a huge load.


So... how exactly did you get your wife to admit that she had been with another man? I'd like to get my wife to finally admit it once and for all....

 

[troutstream]

i find it interesting that she enjoys watching porn, and her pussy was so loose when she married you. i doubt that she was a virgin, but just didn't want you to know because she was probably afraid of letting you know thinking you wouldn't marry her if you knew. my wife about the same, very conservative never talked about being with another guy or anything, but since we have been married i have found out otherwise, but she kept it a secret from me while we were dating. she is from beijing, nd came across as a traditional family oriented conservative woman, just what i thought when i dated her, but she is good at being evasive & secretive about different things.

 

[ogreogre]

sounds to me like she watches internet porn

Hell, I didn't want the things I want now until I saw them online

 

[Cynical]

she wouldn't be the first woman to have awakened sexually after being ******* to things she didn't know or consider.. and sometimes later in life.
there might be a cultural divide where the asian women in general have to keep certain pretences up for fear of being judged and shamed and left at the altar or even never get to come close to the altar. her actual attitude in the bedroom need not be a reflection on how she tries to "sell herself into marriage".
or maybe she just simply never got to do or consider or experiment certain things..again, for lack of experience, ********, opportunity..and now that she's married and has the time and security and opportunity to explore, she's busy doing it.
I have had a friend who was 42 when I met her..divorced after a 10 year long marriage. only after divorce did she realize she wanted to be submissive and experiment with bdsm and playing around. it took her a season of bartending in a swingers club to get over her experimental phase... both me encountering her (prior to the bartending gig) and that job took out a lot of insecurities she had been harbouring on account of being very tall and not very slim. those insecurities are gone now (2 years later) and if she wants something she goes out and gets it.