Masturbation addiction

[34cuck]

Hi,
I am curious if it is same situation on your side and also to discuss how to deal with it without handicap my pleasures.

Little background. I am married for 10 years but we are couple for 16 years. She is now 32, I am 38. I was always a little kinky, she was very vanilla. I was her first one and for long long time only one. After few years of parnetship, still as gf and bf, I started to develop a fantasy how she is fucked by other guys. I asked her a lot about her previous guys that didnt fucked her yet ... jjust kissing ... and even stories about her kissing a guy turned me on.
At that time during sex ofteh happened that she started to suck my finger as she would suck another cock while I was in her pussy. It was such a turn on. In last app. 2 years of talking and openning and she finaly did it with other guy. It was an old friend so we had a lot of fun, threesomes, visits in swinger clubs, etc. Howevery, she got some medical problems and stoped doing it after two really perfect years. Then for few years nothing at all. Last few months she started again with a friend, but she in still not so open and it seems she has some brakes on. She evenn dont want I am there, so I always have to wait at home. She never calls me in the middle of action and never make any photos.

This is just a backgroud ... my main topic is still something else. During those few years we had a pause on this lifestile, I somehove develop very strong addiction to masturbation, Usually I watch some cuckold videos or live cams. I alway imagine very strongly how the woman on the screen is changed with my wife.
I cam masturbate whole day. Usually I dont cum ... I just jerk till almost cum ... wait a few seconds and agan and again ... for hours.
Everything is ok with this, since I enjoy it obviously. But, problem is my work. I have own company, I am only employee and so I am only one in my office. I dont work at home ... I have officer rented. So, my ordinary day in office is 8-10hours of jerking. No work. I decided many times that I will stop with this and try to works ... but, no go.
I even tried in a different was ... so, that when I will start to jerk in my office, I will let it cum. And then start to work. But, no success.

My questions:
1. Is it common for us, cucks, that we masturbate a lot ... or even addicted to it?
2. How do you deal with it if it becomes some kind of problem for you?
3. Any suggestions about how to stop but still enjoy? Probably my illusion

 

[jelous_of_wifes_bf]

I think a chastity cage would be the best solution.

 

[Custer Laststand]

If your wife fucks other men with your knowledge and approval, and that turns you on as well (as it obviously does), congratulations to both of you. You've come a long way in your marriage.

I can masturbate the whole day.

Impressive...

Usually I don't cum. I just jerk until I almost cum ... then, wait a few seconds... then, again and again ... for hours. The problem is my work. I have my own company. I am the only employee, so I am the only one in my office, which is rented. So, my ordinary day at the office is 8-10 hours of jerking off. No work. I decided many times that I will stop this and try to work ... but, no go. I've even tried a different technique... when I jerk in my office, I cum. Then, I resolve to start working. But, no success.

If your masturbation addiction is preventing you from working, that could have serious consequences... if, for instance, you take on jobs but are unable to finish them on time for reasons you can't explain.

I suggest introducing your wife to the concept of locking your cock and balls in a male chastity device and becoming your sole key holder. There are more than a few cuckolds on this forum whose strongly-sexual wives, who date, seduce and fuck other men, ensure their fidelity — which many sexually-liberated married women insist on — in this way.

There's quite a bit of web literature on this. You might begin by suggesting your wife read:

Story & comments: “I keep my husband in chastity:”
http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Keep-My-Husband-In-Chastity/2125409

Male chastity devices can be found, for instance, at these links:

http://www.maturemetal.com/
http://www.exobelt.com/mDefault.htm
http://www.cb-2000.com/
http://steelwerksextreme.com/blog/?cat=7
http://www.steelworxx.de/index.php?sid=h9BMkkp25KvjPQXRzZoTm7tsUTbmbs&setvar=aktuelle_Gruppe:1
http://www.chastitytube.com/

Others have said the steel devices are most reliable. You and your wife might consider starting you in, say, a CB-6000 which (I gather) is comfortable to wear when you get the fit right and relatively inexpensive. Exobelt would, I suspect, be a step up.

Initially you may find it difficult to come to turns with, but if your wife takes ownership of your cock and becomes your sole key holder, such that you're locked in your chastity device until and unless it is her pleasure to release you, that could solve your problem and, as well, increase the eroticism of your marriage for both of you.

 

[Custer Laststand]

How's it going, 34cuck? Any progress with convincing your wife to take ownership of your cock by putting you in a cock cage and becoming your sole key holder?

Or, are you still spending your days jacking off at work, wasting your time and accomplishing nothing, while trying to get your head around that idea...?

 

[34cuck]

Hi CL,
well, your second point is true ... still on old track. You know, neighter of us like the denial thing, so locking up turns both of us off. So really dont know what to do. I guess I just have to stay on it like it was.

 

[k.sucks.you]

Hi,
My questions:
1. Is it common for us, cucks, that we masturbate a lot ... or even addicted to it?
2. How do you deal with it if it becomes some kind of problem for you?
3. Any suggestions about how to stop but still enjoy? Probably my illusion

I think it's common for all sorts of people to masturbate "a lot"; men and women, straight and gay, vanilla and kinky, and everything in-between.

Since this is interfering with your work, I definitely think you have a problem that you need to deal with. Like any addiction, you're going to have to do some painful things to get over it; either go cold-turkey or just cut-back. I suggest you block your own internet (sometimes, some places, etc.) would be a start. I also think you should talk about this with your wife.

You don't sound like you and your wife were into D/s before so I'm not sure about asking her to be your keyholder, but certainly as others have suggested, you might consider getting a chastity belt. That's not going to solve your problem in itself but might help you.

 

[monitaur]

I have an alternative to suggest 34c. Find work for a small company doing business in your field. That way, your day will be structured (you are not the boss of yourself) and you have to perform in order to keep the job. There have been recent reports that contradict the widely held assumption that pornography is addictive. I would argue that masturbation is also not addictive. Entire cottage industries have been built to 'cure' people of sex 'addiction'. And those places charge a lot of scratch for the treatments. Also focus on healthy (vegetarian, mainly) nutrition and get in some exercise of whatever type is your favorite. Just start out easy. That means you unplug. Spend 30 minutes twice a day with your bare feet (assuming it is warm enough outdoors) on the ground. Cold turkey and the harsh treatment of chastity is total bullshit. Let those who recommend chastity go six months or more in their own cage and see how they like that. Chastity my asstity!

 

[34cuck]

Monitaur, I agree with you. Chastity is not something I would prefer .... neighter my wife. It is huge turn off for both of us. Someone would say that turn off is something I am searching for ... but it is not true. I am searching for solution where i will still be pleased, but with some kind of barriers that will allow me to do my work/job.
Probably leaving my own company and empley myself elsewhere is the smartest solution. When I worked at other companies in past, I still jacked a lot, but not at work since there were other people present. So only my free time 'suffered'

 

[KarenMWSlut4Blacks]

I have been cuckolding my husband for over 18 years now and have never attempted to control his orgasm because I see the fact that he masturbates so often as being a positive.

His doing it does not deprive me of any pleasure because I do not have sex with him and haven't for over 20 years.

It is flattering to know that he thinks about me when he's doing it and is excited by my cuckolding him

His masturbating so often is reassuring it stop me thinking that he might have someone else hidden away somewhere

The only minor issue is finding him in the bathroom when one of us wants to use it, our daughter is certain that he dad is always in there doing it when she wants to use the bathroom and Emma is always complaining about it.

 

[jelous_of_wifes_bf]

I have been cuckolding my husband for over 18 years now and have never attempted to control his orgasm because I see the fact that he masturbates so often as being a positive.

His doing it does not deprive me of any pleasure because I do not have sex with him and haven't for over 20 years.

It is flattering to know that he thinks about me when he's doing it and is excited by my cuckolding him

His masturbating so often is reassuring it stop me thinking that he might have someone else hidden away somewhere

The only minor issue is finding him in the bathroom when one of us wants to use it, our daughter is certain that he dad is always in there doing it when she wants to use the bathroom and Emma is always complaining about it.

Haha that must be annoying! Wow you've cuckolded your husband for a long time! Is your husband the father of your daughter?

 

[Custer Laststand]

Hi CL — well, your second point is true. I'm still on my old track. You know, neither of us likes the denial thing, so [the idea of] locking me up turns both of us off. So, I really don't know what to do. I guess I just have to stay on it like it was.

How important is it to you to work while you're at your office — as sole owner and sole employee of your own business — as opposed to compulsively jacking off, all day every day...?

Is your wife supporting you, such that you can pretend to work but it doesn't really make any difference whether you actually do anything...?

Incidentally, I didn't mean to imply that your wife "taking ownership" of your cock meant she should keep you locked up, without release, for the rest of your life.

Rather, a way to achieve what you want — not compulsively jacking off at your office all day every day — would be for her to lock you up when you leave for work in the morning, then unlock you and fuck you when you come home in the evening.

Or, your wife could unlock you and give you permission to masturbate in the evening if she prefers to fuck you only (say) one to several times per week. There would be many ways to ease into it that could actually increase the eroticism of your marriage, if your wife is reasonably imaginative and skillful at teasing you.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Re. Jelous_of_wifes_bf’s suggestion:

I think a chastity cage would be the best solution.

and K.sucks.you’s comment:

Since this is interfering with your work, I definitely think you have a problem that you need to deal with. .... As others have suggested, you might consider getting a chastity belt. ....

and my thoughts along those lines:

Purchasing a male chastity device then spending some time fooling around and experimenting with it would certainly be a whole lot cheaper and easier than selling your business, then finding a job that involves working for someone else, so you would be “deterred by the presence of others” (which would almost certainly be easier said than done). This latter approach may be especially distasteful if you’ve always wanted to own your own business, and now you do.

If, after some reasonable time for experimentation with wearing a chastity device (with your wife as sole key holder, releasing you at mutually-agreed-on times), you find that isn’t an acceptable solution to your compulsive masturbation problem, then — what the hell — throw it away.

 

[JimOakey]

Masturbation is an anti-social act. It also is a means to express emotions and thoughts; thus why governments will encourage the use of masturbation in order to calm the natives and lower the rate of rebellion. Thus why anti-social and deviant acts were condemned during the prosperous years of any empire like the US. Once an orderly system is established and the politicians and/or leaders have defined niches, things like racial equality, women' rights, mob (the poor), gay and other liberal attitudes replace the stern old mores. Then, and only then, do people like you realize they have a problem. Without basic goals to strive hard for, there's really little else to live for so why not jerk it all away? We don't need another hero.
I could have written your post save that my wife and entire family are all cum whores and we are in the 1%. Some times I spend days on end whacking it; often alone but with others and in public too. There was a time, long, long ago, when I too discovered that jerking got in the way of a life situation that demanded my attention be off my cock. Like most I dismissed the cage for the exact same reasons you had. I asked for support from my wife and kids and they agreed to help but right in the middle of that family conversation my daughter's boyfriend entered and fucked my wife and son silly right on the kitchen table. Now how could I not whack off to that? So I decided I would seek out a headshrinker. (That's how I learned all that stuff I began this post with.) After 2 shrinks just used me and my mouth and family too, the third was legit and gave me some clever guidance.
My first chore was to stop demonizing masturbation. Not to run away from it. It is normal to want to partake in the sexual signals nature shows to us. Secondly, I needed to understand how my brain worked. Jerking off is a means to an end - to "achieve" a cum. I was shown that every fantasy employed a plot to obtain a goal that would hit the spot and make me cum. If I was jerking off while watching my wife fuck, it was the expression of forming a complicated scenario in which large and small plots lead to me shooting: EX. the role I was a cuckold, EX. the man taking my wife against normal standards, EX. the way she rode his massive tool to her cum. Etc. By jerking off I stood outside the structured reality and formed my own little dream world - instead of scheming up how to over throw the evil government I achieved instant gratification.
You need to formulate a series of goals; ones that interest you or are dearly required - like getting your biz working on all cylinders. Fantasize over them apples along with the knowledge that - especially when each goal is met - you'll reward yourself with a GREAT cum or two or three. You obviously have imagination enough to go around, use it. Learn better focus. That practice of focus will also pay off in your jek sessions as well. It won't be a matter of old and tired and true fantasies being employed as sexual signals to get a rush and move onto the next signal. While your outer reality will unfold by such discipline, so will the inner world.