BlackmailedWimp20 said:
Five years ago I was a strong intelligent guy. Now, i'm a broken, submissive wreck.
On the plus side, you're probably still intelligent.
BlackmailedWimp20 said:
I just want to know if anyone has ever made it out of being [a] cuckold.
Well... the definition is: cuckold — a man with an unfaithful wife (meaning, of course, a wife who fucks men other than her husband). If your dominant woman is your woman friend, not your wife, you should have... at least in principle... more flexibility in modifying your relationship in ways that make it more desirable, from your point of view, or even in ending your relationship, if that seems to be the only workable alternative.
BlackmailedWimp20 said:
My girlfriend has some pretty messed up fantasies - she loves alpha men ruining me, humiliating me and blackmailing me... and she always finds unique ways of doing it, either online or in-person.
If "blackmailing you" means other men are extracting money from you, and you're complying with that, I'll have to say that sounds like a seriously bad situation.
BlackmailedWimp20 said:
Somehow, she's ended up with the houses and bank accounts in her name except for a small fund that I control that is specifically for her bulls and treating her. I'm now left to working, cooking, cleaning and washing her sheets in the Master bedroom... how do I escape?!
Yours sounds like a fairly strict FemDom relationship, except the word "loving" is missing from the "loving female authority" component. It's actually not all that unusual for men who have demanding jobs, where they have to make decisions and tell others what to do on a daily basis, to want their wives to be in charge of their home lives in a female-domination sense. For a template of how a relationship of this nature might work, I suggest purchasing — perhaps as a New Years present — and both you and your woman reading:
Sutton, Elise, 2003, Female Domination: An exploration of the male desire for loving female authority (298 pp., softcover), and
Sutton, Elise, 2006, The FemDom Experience (317 pp., softcover),
which are available from well-known online sources. (Ms. Elise also has a "female superiority" web page that you can find by googling Elise Sutton.)*
Meanwhile, you might consider the question of your houses (two? hers and yours?) being in your woman's name, and whether that means the mortgages (if they are not owned outright) are also in her name. If so, that should give you some negotiating power, since if you were to leave, your woman would be left with sole responsibility for the mortgages.
Also, since you've been together for 5 years, I suggest looking into the question of what time period living together constitutes a "common law marriage" in your state, province, or country. I suggest this because if your relationship is defined as such, that will have legal implications for your separation if you should choose to take that route.
* I have no relationship of any kind with Ms. Elise Sutton, and gain nothing, financial nor otherwise, from suggesting her books and web site.