Cuckold Or Not?

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So here's the thing...I'm married to a sexy Asian. She loves sex and our sex life has always been great! She loves my cock and I can always make her cum! But I also love seeing her get fucked by other men and cumming on their cocks, as well as being cummed in and on. She loves multiple cocks too! Point is...I can satisfy her no problem but we share her for both our pleasures. (I do fuck other women from time to time but frankly get more pleasure seeing her act all slutty and get used). Does that still make this a cuckold relationship?
 
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Sounds like you found a perfect match. not jealous if you fuck another, loves other cock and still gets off with you. By definition, you more fall into swingers, but you can hang a notch to being a cuckold since you like to see her fuck others.
 
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The original definition of a cuckold was a man who's wife was unfaithful and that everyone but him knew about it.

The modern definition as (mostly) used on forums like this is that it's a life style choice where the husband knows that the wife has sex with other men and is turned on by it usually because he enjoys the submissive side of it.

But, hey what's in a definition? If you're both happy and enjoying yourselves then carry on.
 
Asiancumlover said:
So here's the thing...I'm married to a sexy Asian.

Congratulations!

Asiancumlover said:
She loves sex and our sex life has always been great! She loves my cock and I can always make her cum!

Great! That's better still.

Asiancumlover said:
But I also love seeing her get fucked by other men and cumming on their cocks, as well as being cummed in and on.

Hey.... there's nothing wrong with that.

Asiancumlover said:
She loves multiple cocks too!

Excellent! Good for your wife.

Asiancumlover said:
The point is...I can satisfy her no problem, but we share her for both our pleasures. (I do fuck other women from time to time, but frankly, I get more pleasure seeing her act all slutty and get used). Does that still make this a cuckold relationship?

Yes. The definition is: cuckold — a man with an unfaithful wife.

It's short and simple. It can be viewed as the "cake." All the other characteristics (if any) of such relationships — whether the cuckoldress wife dominates her submissive husband, makes him wear feminine (say, pink) panties, requires him to do all the housework, requires him to help her prepare for her dates, or requires him to provide services to her and her date (say, at home) if the cuckold husband participates — can be viewed as "frosting on the cake."

There is apparently no word in the English language equivalent to "cuckold" for a married woman whose husband fucks other women.

Your relationship with your wife.... which (it sounds like) is rewarding for both of you.... appears to satisfy the definition of a "cuckold husband / hotwife" marriage.
 
Thank to all for your input. Like everything in life...I guess there's more grays than black and white. Yes, she's unfaithful, fucking men in front of me and when I'm not there. But she does it with my blessing, and as I said earlier, it turns me on! What we don't have is that submissive/humiliation part. We respect each other. And I know I can give her he same pleasure that any man can, so there's no feeling of inferiority on my part. Don't know that the term swinger is accurate either since she fucks a lot more men than I do women. In the end I guess there's no need to label our relationship...just enjoy! Thanks again!
 
You're welcome.

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.... [My wife] fucks a lot more [other] men than I do [other] women.

According to the author of an extensive website on this subject (that no longer exists): Swinger marriages, in which both the wife and husband fuck other partners, have a higher probability of failure than cuckold husband / hotwife marriages, in which the wife dates, seduces, and fucks whomever she wishes, while the cuckold husband agrees to remain faithful to her (and actually does so).

The apparent reason for this is: it's much easier for a married woman to seduce and fuck an unmarried (or married) man than for a married man to seduce and fuck an unmarried (or married) woman, because the married woman is, in effect, offering her potential lover a chance to get something for nothing. No matter how reliable her birth control, it's always possible it will fail, so her lover knows he has a chance, however slim, of impregnating her. If so, and if she doesn't terminate her pregnancy but rather carries it through to child birth, her lover will have succeeded at propagating his genes through to the next generation at no cost to himself — because the costs of raising and educating the resulting child will be borne by the woman's husband and the woman herself. This is the classical advantage to "other men" of fucking a married man's wife.

By contrast, a single (or married) woman who takes on a married man as a lover (such as yourself) does not stand to gain any comparable advantage. Rather, she stands to lose big if she is single but becomes pregnant, or if she is married but her husband leaves her because she has become pregnant due to fucking another man.

Now, consider couples who are swingers. Among such couples, an unstated competition often develops with each trying to "out-score" the other by bedding more partners. The woman usually wins such unstated competitions (easily), for the above reason, which can result in disintegration of the marriage if the man becomes increasingly resentful.

Thus, if you find your relationship with your wife becoming tense, you might consider whether it could be for this reason. If so, you might be able to stabilize your marriage by proposing to your hot and sexy wife a transition to a "cuckold husband / hotwife" form of marriage, in which she continues to date, seduce and fuck whomever she wishes, while you remain faithful to her — thus eliminating the unstated competition between the two of you, and hence the tension in your marriage.
 
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Thank to all for your input. Like everything in life...I guess there's more grays than black and white. Yes, she's unfaithful, fucking men in front of me and when I'm not there. But she does it with my blessing, and as I said earlier, it turns me on! What we don't have is that submissive/humiliation part. We respect each other. And I know I can give her he same pleasure that any man can, so there's no feeling of inferiority on my part. Don't know that the term swinger is accurate either since she fucks a lot more men than I do women. In the end I guess there's no need to label our relationship...just enjoy! Thanks again!
Ya you are right. No one label fits all relationship and enjoyment is the key. The only thing that even comes close to describing it is an "Open Relationship" for those who do need a label.
 
Custer has defined some very interesting points on ways to enjoy a lifestyle that very few men have the "balls" to try. I spent many years in my working career working with many (actually several thousand) women and the book I could write about how the men in their lives didn't ever get to know and truly enjoy the woman they were involved with. My first wife would tell you that one of the biggest pleasures in her life was that if a man lit a fire in her he could have the opportunity to take care of it if she so chose to let him. She told me many times that she enjoyed knowing that she could fuck any man she wanted to and then come home to me. GTR
 
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